Online Bullies

[beth]

OOOH U R NAUGHTY!
you actually went to effort by the sound of it though! hahhaaa

kinda part of life though. i'm more careful now because y'know gotta move forward in life but i'd still ******* punch him if i ever saw him.

[dirrty]

The fantastic thing about cyber bullying is that if someone harasses you then you just ignore them.

lmao innit. it's so easy to block and ignore people online (compared to real situations anyway) that i'm sometimes surprised some people are being bullied online for a prolonged period of time. but i guess some people either don't know how or believe that whatever they do won't stop the bullying.

[Catchy]

Most people have took part in some kind of bullying regardless if it's been online or offline, whether you like it or not it's probably true. Most of the time a lot of people don't even realise they are bullying and don't realise the effect they're having an others.

[Inseriousity.]

i dunno what this thing is with "oh they'll bully you online but they won't say it irl" lemme tell you, if i say it to you online i would say MUCH WORSE to yr face. just summat the bullied like to protect themselves with tbh.

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well this is rubbish.

Maybe you're just an exception to the rule as bullies or not, I think people in general are more likely to say what they really think online than they would irl.

As for cyber bullies, lots of reasons why they do it but you're living in a fairytale if you think everything will be sunshine and puppies once it's over. Never really understood cyber bullying tbh, it's a lot easier to avoid someone online (blocking them, ignoring them on Habbo etc etc) than it is in real life.

[beth]

Most people have took part in some kind of bullying regardless if it's been online or offline, whether you like it or not it's probably true. Most of the time a lot of people don't even realise they are bullying and don't realise the affect they're having an others.

this is also very very very true. some people are just more open about it (like myself). bullying is a part of life. online bullying you either get over or make it worse for yrself by sticking around. easy as that.

[Glen Coco]

Oh & btw if this thread is because you think me and @Kasabian; are 'cyber bullying' you then you need to read up on what it is.

[lizzieTBH.]

I've cyber bullied pretty bad and been cyber bullied pretty bad. I can't really judge anyone for it.

[Jordy]

It's not difficult to stand up for yourself online and quite frankly if you keep your personal life under your wraps no one will have any ammo to bully you for in the first place. For instance when I was an active Habbo user there was very little anyone could take the piss out of me for as the reality is, they knew nothing about me. Infact I could say that about people on here too, only a few people know me well on here so no one really stands any chance of "bullying me" as it simply wouldn't be relevant. Of course if they did I could quite easily stand up for myself. It's not difficult to be confident and confrontational online is it?

And if they were to cause me agitation I could simply ignore them, all social networks, forums etc have ignore/delete settings and if worst came to worst, it's not difficult to create a new identity for yourself online.

I don't believe for a minute people in real life get bullied because they deserve it (or at least in most cases) but the people I've seen get bullied on here over the years have all deserved it. It's the pretentious, annoying ones who reveal too much about themselves who have been bullied on here over the years and they've all deserved it. It's not like in real life where the quiet, weird or socially inept ones are picked on.

[buttons]

lmao, now lets be realistic. there's a reason why those who are being bullied are a victim of bullying. if the person being bullied had the last laugh, then they wouldn't be bullied in the first place...

yeah but the reason doesn't always stand with the bully victim. i honestly have no idea why i was a victim of bullying irl other than most probably jealousy and i'm doing better than they are so in a sense i'm having the last laugh.

or their self-esteem is crushed so much that they develop more issues that affect their life (such as social anxieties, BDD, anorexia, etc.) so great that they feel that they're unable to function in society (how society deems they should act) or as a last resort, commit suicide.

lol hi

It's not difficult to stand up for yourself online and quite frankly if you keep your personal life under your wraps no one will have any ammo to bully you for in the first place. For instance when I was an active Habbo user there was very little anyone could take the piss out of me for as the reality is, they knew nothing about me. Infact I could say that about people on here too, only a few people know me well on here so no one really stands any chance of "bullying me" as it simply wouldn't be relevant. Of course if they did I could quite easily stand up for myself. It's not difficult to be confident and confrontational online is it?

And if they were to cause me agitation I could simply ignore them, all social networks, forums etc have ignore/delete settings and if worst came to worst, it's not difficult to create a new identity for yourself online.

I don't believe for a minute people in real life get bullied because they deserve it (or at least in most cases) but the people I've seen get bullied on here over the years have all deserved it. It's the pretentious, annoying ones who reveal too much about themselves who have been bullied on here over the years and they've all deserved it. It's not like in real life where the quiet, weird or socially inept ones are picked on.

i agree with the first part. if you put yourself out there online you're more likely to be bullied. irl people will pick on your appearance even if you haven't said or done anything while online they cant unless you show yourself. when i first posted on here i got the **** ripped out of me for how i looked but i didn't really give a **** as there were plenty other people i could talk to.

i disagree with the last part, people can be nice but post a picture and suddenly they're a bully victim for life. a lot of the annoying, pretentious people are the actual bullies. i'm extremely open about my life both irl and online and i don't get bullied anymore. it's always the quieter ones who keep to themselves who are seen as weird and become victims, not those that tell all about their lives :/ on here pretty much everyone who first starts out will be 'annoying' as they don't know how to act and 'fit in' and thus become bully victims. i don't think it's a simple case of anyone deserving it. no-one really deserves bullying, if they were ******** who 'deserved' it then surely they'd be the bullies or able to handle it and therefore not exactly be bullying....

anyway disagree with O/P i don't particularly like bullying but it's so SIMPLE to make a few remarks here and there (which isn't really bullying unless you specifically and continually target a person who hasn't even provoked you) but like the rest say, you can choose to ignore it and it's up to you to show what you want to the rest. victims don't always get the last laugh, especially not online where you can't actually see their life or future like someone else mentioned.

[FlyingJesus]

why do something so low?

Fun

Why on purpose target people to spitefully hurt them.

Fun

It's a complete waste of time because the person who is being bullied always get's the last laugh.

Would you like to expand on that? Unless you've been watching She's All That too much (which I wouldn't really fault you for, it's a fab film) I don't see why you'd truly believe that the majority of victims turn out better than the bullies

Those who are bullied are bullied for there looks, how they act and for being different. They have the last laugh because they are the ones who get the best things in life once they have over come the bullying.

You mean people who are weird/stupid/ugly have the best things in life, always? Gonna be honest, the people on top usually manage to stay there if they're any good at what they do

In many cases, cyber bullies are victims of bullying themselves be it online or not.

This is entirely false in all of my experience except for one person

Some people will do the above but most people who become bullied learn to get over it in time and once that happens, that truelly is the last laugh that bully victims get on a bully.

Don't get me wrong it's great that some people manage to pick themselves up and get over it, but I really don't think that will really do anything to make the (ex) bully's life any worse. If you said "many bully victims do ok for themselves later in life" that may be true but long-term success doesn't really cause any detriment to short-term amusement

It's not difficult to stand up for yourself online and quite frankly if you keep your personal life under your wraps no one will have any ammo to bully you for in the first place.

Totes disagree, for one it's very easy to make things up about people if you want to bully them and then just feed off the reaction, and also if it's somewhat institutionalised (ie: other people join in and make it the thing to do) then it's really not that easy to get past in a small community

when i first posted on here i got the **** ripped out of me for how i looked

Jen Winehouse*+*

As an ex-bully (and possibly once one of the harshest in these here parts) whose grand total of victim experience is someone chasing me with a glue stick one break time when I was 12 I feel I'm somewhat qualified to talk on this subject without the rubbish "BULIZ R ALWAY BULLED THEMSLEF!" type rhetoric. It's a power and social hierarchical matter based mostly on ignorance and amusement, very seldom anything more