Is a homosexual affair harder to deal with?

OK so let's say you're with your man and he starts coming home later and later, he doesn't open up to you as much as he used to and doesn't take notice of your sexy new lingerie. A bit of time passes and he finally declares that not only is he no longer in love with you, he's in love with another MAN :O!

How much differently would you feel if your partner left you for another man? For guys, a woman. And for the gays (yuck) how would you feel if let's say you have a bf and he leaves for a woman.

pans/poly/w.e pls share ur views also

Cheating is cheating in my books. I'd consider all possible situations as bad as each other I guess.

not sure really!! Think it would be really awful to find out your husband was gay, especially if you have kids and stuff together. Like living a lie all those years but then it might be easier cause then you won' be wondering what the new partner had over you, probs can rationalize it in your head that it isn't you he just likes men lmao

seems kyles issue has been answered for!

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their poor kid catchy :'(

this happened to a friend of mine

he's now known as the kid who turned a woman gay

In the situation described above tho I don't like the way they cheated on you for a period of time before leaving you

I have no empathy for cheaters etc and I'd just burn everything associated with them and remove them from my life

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their poor kid catchy :'(

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lmao I wanted to put it in discuss anything but thought it was suited here. it was on jeremy kyle this morning NOTHIN TO DO WITH ME I FEEL I MUST STRESS

Would still suck.

Although my sister says she'd be relieved if it was another man because that'd make it less about her. Then again she also thinks bisexuals are greedy so her brain works in mysterious ways.

Just as bad as each other, no matter the gender. Cheating is cheating.

id be more forgiving if it was with a girl. i think the reason you'd feel worse if it was with the opposite sex and you didn't know your partner was bisexual is because you might then think they're secretly homosexual and so their relationship with you has been fake.


is it different for guys tho? if your gf cheated on you with another girl, would that be a bigger deal than if she went with a guy? what about gay people who's partner goes for the opposite sex?

just read other replies, seems guys think it's the same if their girl goes with another girl. fair nuf.

I'd be annoyed if it was with a girl. :)

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Just as bad as each other, no matter the gender. Cheating is cheating.

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I agree. The core of each situation is that it is cheating. It would be hard to deal with both situations.

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Cheating is cheating in my books. I'd consider all possible situations as bad as each other I guess.

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Would still suck.

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Originally Posted by Lewis

Just as bad as each other, no matter the gender. Cheating is cheating.

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I understand that cheating would suck and stuff so let's just say your partner falls in love with someone of the same sex. Do you think you'd deal with it any differently than if it was a man?

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id be more forgiving if it was with a girl. i think the reason you'd feel worse if it was with the opposite sex and you didn't know your partner was bisexual is because you might then think they're secretly homosexual and so their relationship with you has been fake.

is it different for guys tho? if your gf cheated on you with another girl, would that be a bigger deal than if she went with a guy? what about gay people who's partner goes for the opposite sex?

just read other replies, seems guys think it's the same if their girl goes with another girl. fair nuf.

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This was the conclusion in a discussion earlier too. Something to do with natural instincts and stuff, that men compete with other men to provide or whatever whereas women don't see other women as competition. There were other reasons but I can't really remember

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I'd be annoyed if it was with a girl. :)

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Does this mean you wouldn't be annoyed if it was another guy like you? Which would make you more annoyed?

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Does this mean you wouldn't be annoyed if it was another guy like you? Which would make you more annoyed?

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Oops missed the 'more'! I'd feel sadder if it was an affair with a female.

I think it is worse yes if they are gay themselves as it isn't just that they fell in love with another woman, it's that the entire relationship was false to begin with making all of those memories a facade. For years of your life to be spent with somebody and turn out to be false would be devastating.

its worse yh

they're not being faithful to you or their sexuality~

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its worse yh

they're not being faithful to you or their sexuality~

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it kinda faithful to their sexuality idk

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it kinda faithful to their sexuality idk

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i meant by staying with you and leading you on

but idk its quite an awkward one because they might be confused about their sexuality

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I understand that cheating would suck and stuff so let's just say your partner falls in love with someone of the same sex. Do you think you'd deal with it any differently than if it was a man?



This was the conclusion in a discussion earlier too. Something to do with natural instincts and stuff, that men compete with other men to provide or whatever whereas women don't see other women as competition. There were other reasons but I can't really remember



Does this mean you wouldn't be annoyed if it was another guy like you? Which would make you more annoyed?

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It'd be as bad either way - I see no difference.

I've actually had guys leave me for women but I'm around the age where people who want to experiment finally decide if they want to carry on with men or go towards women. Its really flexible really cause the world is your oyster and you can always change your mind. I mean a lot of men at the age of 50 who have had kids and married a woman have came out as gay which can be a huge impact for the family.

My advice is that in this day and age you really gotta be aware of what could suddenly happen and try to prepare for it. It may never happen but no harm having a backup plan or two.

I would definitely find it harder if they never told me they were bi/gay. As I would be quite devastated they weren't able to confide in me. Otherwise an affair I'd an affair, horrible.

I'd see it the same as cheating with another man.

Cheating is cheating in my books.

It wouldn't be any different, exactly the same as if they cheated with a guy.

cheating is a betrayal of relationship whether with a male or a female.

no. i don't want no scrubs.

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