I keep doing a bad thing and cant stop what to do?

[Ostinato]

Thats disgusting..idk how someone could cut them selves...thats ewwwww...opening your own flesh volunteraly...gross ill never do that..

Self harm is simply a way in which some people deal with situations, as I'm sure you probably deal with situations in your own personal ways. I understand however, how it may seem 'disgusting' to you etc. as the whole idea of it to you is completely foreign. However, in future I think you should maybe think a little deeper and consider other peoples feeling before posting something like thate mate! (Y)

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Everywhere you look theres people walking in town with the sleeves rolled up to show there marks. Which is pathetic.

I can't say I've ever actually witnessed anyone self harming, or seen any scars etc. from them when I have been out and about, and I can assure you - I'm out a lot. =S

[Clarissaa]

Everywhere you look theres people walking in town with the sleeves rolled up to show there marks. Which is pathetic.

Ive seen that, also people taking photos of their cuts/scars "/

[sarey]

Ive seen that, also people taking photos of their cuts/scars "/

Thats just pure attention seeking.
Taking pictues and exposing them on sites or on display pictures.
Most of the time its for attention, i don't know, other times maybe proof, or something. :s

Either way, are you going to tell us the bad thing Diablo?
We could help and advice you a bit more in detail and give some information regarding your situation.

[foxyfox00]

Dont judge a person about cutting themselves until you have walked in thier shoes.

On Topic: If you dont share what is wrong no-one can help you =)

[Mentor]

Dont judge a person about cutting themselves until you have walked in thier shoes.

On Topic: If you dont share what is wrong no-one can help you =)

Should we also murders or rapists until we have walked in there shoes? its the same princible, a bad thing is a bad thing independent of the situation as is a stupid thing a stupid thing regardless of the situation.

[Azza]

Should we also murders or rapists until we have walked in there shoes? its the same princible, a bad thing is a bad thing independent of the situation as is a stupid thing a stupid thing regardless of the situation.

murders and rapists harm others not themselves.
I think ppl selfharm nether to show the scars etc off or they find it the easiest way 2 deal with there problem(s) whilest murders wud have several reasons but i doubt its to act all tough "o look i killed that guy" and murder + **** arnt ways really to deal with problems like selfharm so i dont know why u compair selfharmers with murders + rapists.

As like who said it you dunno why they selfharm until you see their point of views. I have selfharmed once as found easy way out of a problem.. never worked but i wudnt compair myself to a murder or rapist.

No point rlly saying y not do same 4 murders and rapists as they are different from selfharmers.

sp?

[Ostinato]

Should we also murders or rapists until we have walked in there shoes? its the same princible, a bad thing is a bad thing independent of the situation as is a stupid thing a stupid thing regardless of the situation.

I disagree.

Like said, murderers and rapists physically, and mentally, harm other people, where as self-harmers do exactly what the title says - Harm themselves!

I believe we shouldn't judge him just because he self-harms a we in no way, as of yet, know or understand any circumstances he is in. I agree with you however, that it's the same basic principle and therefore should we not judge murderers?

To an extent, I don't judge murderers. I judge those who have no remorse for their crimes they commit and no fine well what they are doing is wrong, whereas those who are perhaps mentally ill and unsure of whats reality, I pity.

[Mentor]

murders and rapists harm others not themselves.
I think ppl selfharm nether to show the scars etc off or they find it the easiest way 2 deal with there problem(s) whilest murders wud have several reasons but i doubt its to act all tough "o look i killed that guy" and murder + **** arnt ways really to deal with problems like selfharm so i dont know why u compair selfharmers with murders + rapists.

Well most of violent gang culture is based on the killing people to look hard, and by far the most common reason for people to murder or become a rapest is being unable to deal with there own problems. When someone is abused as a child, whether phiscaly and mentaly viloent tendancys often arrise from this often resolting in things such as murder or ****...

So, It is much the same thing, a bad reaction to a problem, in both cases the copeing method used is not one that helps. They are unable to deal properly with what ever problems they may be faceing.

That applys to both self harm and murder/****. One is simply a more exstream responce, to most likely more exstreem problems.

As like who said it you dunno why they selfharm until you see their point of views. I have selfharmed once as found easy way out of a problem.. never worked but i wudnt compair myself to a murder or rapist.

You have problem, you attempt to deal with it by self harm. Self harm does not help and tends to make things worse. It is a bad and stupid reaction to the problem. As is often things such as murder only in a more exstreem way.

No point rlly saying y not do same 4 murders and rapists as they are different from selfharmers.

sp?

Yet dispite what youd like to belive in reality the diffence is far smaller...

I disagree.

Like said, murderers and rapists physically, and mentally, harm other people, where as self-harmers do exactly what the title says - Harm themselves!

Yet both are still failures in dealing with problems, the way people react to somthing doesnt need to be the same for them both to be bad reactions. In the terms of negative responces, theres no diffence.

I believe we shouldn't judge him just because he self-harms a we in no way, as of yet, know or understand any circumstances he is in. I agree with you however, that it's the same basic principle and therefore should we not judge murderers?

Im not judging him though, im more judging the actions, in terms of them being stupid. Whether the circumstances are servear or minor, that reaction remains just as unconstruvive and negative, and hence remains as a stupid one.

To an extent, I don't judge murderers. I judge those who have no remorse for their crimes they commit and no fine well what they are doing is wrong, whereas those who are perhaps mentally ill and unsure of whats reality, I pity.

Unluckly such people dont exist, there are always two sides to a story, studys have shown over 98% of people on death row in america have brain damage, hence are mentaly ill. If there is no remorse for an action, then ether the person is brain damaged in some way, or felt the action was justifed, which is realy societys fault, and many people hold that view. If someone killed bin larden, many would feel it was justifed would they not? a person on an indervidal bases can see another killing as bing just as justifed. Both though are still wrong, and negative.
The only people who could clame to kill knowing full well what there doing is anyone whom supports the death pentalty, since there killing someone whos helpless, they know full well what there doing, and then dont feel remorse...

[8Freak8]

I can't say I've ever actually witnessed anyone self harming, or seen any scars etc. from them when I have been out and about, and I can assure you - I'm out a lot. =S

I've also seen some people with their sleeves rolled up to show scars.

I've also been swimming once and a young woman had cuts all up her arms and on her thighs. Of course, my initial reaction was repulsion, although I do understand that you can't stop someone swimming just coz they cut themselves. I'm just suprised they have the confidence to go swimming.

[NekkLe]

I've also seen some people with their sleeves rolled up to show scars.

I've also been swimming once and a young woman had cuts all up her arms and on her thighs. Of course, my initial reaction was repulsion, although I do understand that you can't stop someone swimming just coz they cut themselves. I'm just suprised they have the confidence to go swimming.

Where they actual scars or just cuts? I think she could have been a Herion junkie. I've seen pictures of people with scars on there arms and legs because of the addiction.