How to tell if your in "love"!

[Demi]

Deserve to be SHOT!
=]
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What?!?!? They do.

[Charley]

Sorry to crash the party, but I really think you're taking this too seriously. To formulate my post, I will make a few presumtions;
All people posting here are 16 or under (as is common on habbo)
All people who have posted have been in at least one mid-long term relationship (3 months+)

I would now like you to consider the relationship you have been (or are). You see each other at school, once or twice a week outside school, and keep in contact via phone/msn daily. When you break contact with this person, it is likely only to have dinner or to sleep, and within 12 hours you will be chatting away again like there is no tomorrow. It is not for an extended period of time. How this can leave an "empty feeling" is beyond all reasonable logic.

Now to the other point raised; breaking up. I would like you to consider all the possible reasons for someone who is 16 or under to break up with someone. It is highly unlikely that the sex life had gone downhill, or that you didnt have enough money to pay the rent without benifits (as is common in adult relationships). It is more commonly the case that you are simply bored with each other. Youve done everything there is to do, go to the cinemas, have a nice long kissing session behind woolworths etc, and now you want something different. It is also common that you've had a small argument about something extremely minor (such as who puts the phone down first). Now, if simply being bored warrants a break up, there can't have been a lot there to begin with besides the thrill of having another partner after all these months. So how can it be that "painful"?

If you are still telling yourself "OMGZZZ, 'E IZ LYK SOO RONG, I WUD DIE FOR MA BF/GF" then you are either just desperate, want to go out with someone for image or are obsessed. In either of those cases, go and get professional help, because you are either sad, a chav or an emo.

My point is, no matter how you think you are "deeply in love" you never really are. Your age restricts you too much to truly experience having a long term partner, and therefore you cannot truly experience love until you have a house, car, money and a nice big double bed and all the other things adults use to piece together a love life. No matter how much you tell yourself you love your partner, you dont, its just exciting and makes you feel good temporarily to kiss someone, or hold their hand or tell them who you murdered last night.

Rant ends.

I don't agree with this really. Some ways it makes sense, but it others it doesn't. I'm also in a long term, long distance relationship, I'm over 16, can drive etc etc but me and this person have been together for over two years? The person I'm with was 15 and I was 16 when we first started seeing eachother, yeah it wasnt serious straight away.. But you can be in love at a young age I think. Experience doesn't mean anything, I don't feel you need experience in 'love'. If you find your soul mate at a young age then fair play. having money/car/house makes no difference. If you've got the person you love with you, then nothing else matters. You find ways of making it work.

On the other hand, SOME young people 'think' there in love when they are not. Its all part of life really. But when you've found the right one, you'l know. For all the reasons the starter of this thread stated.

[Browney]

That's just a long distance relationship.
A REALLY long one.
If you know you can see that person every 4 weeks for like 2 weeks running etc... Then you've a chance then.

I mean mine sounds like a long distance relationship, it sort of is, but she comes every month for 2 weeks, and it's the two weeks we spend together.
I go to her's and stuff, like actually catch a plane. LOL

I guess catching a flight to Canada is well out of reach tbh.

You base a relationship on 2 weeks a month? At least I talked to my Girlfriend everyday.

[Demi]

You base a relationship on 2 weeks a month? At least I talked to my Girlfriend everyday.

lol
I'm talking to mine now.
I talk to her every night, on the fone mate.
Bills are expensive.
LOL

I see her quite a lot in this case.

You sure ned to learn to read my friend! =]
and... You really don't know what real love is.

Obvioussly you have your own beleif of what it is, but... you don't in my view.

[Browney]

lol
I'm talking to mine now.
I talk to her every night, on the fone mate.
Bills are expensive.
LOL

I see her quite a lot in this case.

You sure ned to learn to read my friend! =]
and... You really don't know what real love is.

Obvioussly you have your own beleif of what it is, but... you don't in my view.

Oh, we are friends now? Right. And I don't know what love is? Many people are more or less affectionate than others. Who are you to dictate what love is? You wrote a guide to being in love like love is simple. It's not. It's not symptoms it's not signs. You wrote that guide like it's a science. Love is special and there is no right and wrong ways to neither be nor fall in love.

Ps. I coloured all the spelling and grammatical mistakes to show you need to learn how to write, "my friend."

[cocaine]

The most painfull is when you watch the one you love - love somone else..

Oh god, tell me about it.

[DiscoPat]

Uhhhhhhhhhhh, drives me mad..

[Demi]

Oh, we are friends now? Right. And I don't know what love is? Many people are more or less affectionate than others. Who are you to dictate what love is? You wrote a guide to being in love like love is simple. It's not. It's not symptoms it's not signs. You wrote that guide like it's a science. Love is special and there is no right and wrong ways to neither be nor fall in love.

Ps. I coloured all the spelling and grammatical mistakes to show you need to learn how to write, "my friend."

No we're not friends.
I'm not God so I don't write it like it's "science"!
I write it the way I think it should be.
Or at least, my experiences.
Which in your case is none, in my case, lots.

[Mentor]

Oh, we are friends now? Right. And I don't know what love is? Many people are more or less affectionate than others. Who are you to dictate what love is? You wrote a guide to being in love like love is simple. It's not. It's not symptoms it's not signs. You wrote that guide like it's a science. Love is special and there is no right and wrong ways to neither be nor fall in love.

Ps. I coloured all the spelling and grammatical mistakes to show you need to learn how to write, "my friend."

It is science? it falls under biology, it can be explained right down to the indervidual endorphins released in your brain, your a human, not some all powerful being, were not as incridibly beyond scientific comprehension as we like to think we are.
How a conciosus mind reacts to the emotive pattens created by the hormonal chemical releaces in the brain though, thats the issue for philopshy, since tracking a nural network on the scale of the human brain, is one thing that is quite someway beoned are own comprihention.

Sorry to crash the party, but I really think you're taking this too seriously. To formulate my post, I will make a few presumtions;
All people posting here are 16 or under (as is common on habbo)
All people who have posted have been in at least one mid-long term relationship (3 months+)

I would now like you to consider the relationship you have been (or are). You see each other at school, once or twice a week outside school, and keep in contact via phone/msn daily. When you break contact with this person, it is likely only to have dinner or to sleep, and within 12 hours you will be chatting away again like there is no tomorrow. It is not for an extended period of time. How this can leave an "empty feeling" is beyond all reasonable logic.

Now to the other point raised; breaking up. I would like you to consider all the possible reasons for someone who is 16 or under to break up with someone. It is highly unlikely that the sex life had gone downhill, or that you didnt have enough money to pay the rent without benifits (as is common in adult relationships). It is more commonly the case that you are simply bored with each other. Youve done everything there is to do, go to the cinemas, have a nice long kissing session behind woolworths etc, and now you want something different. It is also common that you've had a small argument about something extremely minor (such as who puts the phone down first). Now, if simply being bored warrants a break up, there can't have been a lot there to begin with besides the thrill of having another partner after all these months. So how can it be that "painful"?

If you are still telling yourself "OMGZZZ, 'E IZ LYK SOO RONG, I WUD DIE FOR MA BF/GF" then you are either just desperate, want to go out with someone for image or are obsessed. In either of those cases, go and get professional help, because you are either sad, a chav or an emo.

My point is, no matter how you think you are "deeply in love" you never really are. Your age restricts you too much to truly experience having a long term partner, and therefore you cannot truly experience love until you have a house, car, money and a nice big double bed and all the other things adults use to piece together a love life. No matter how much you tell yourself you love your partner, you dont, its just exciting and makes you feel good temporarily to kiss someone, or hold their hand or tell them who you murdered last night.

Rant ends.

So many people seem to ramble on about this sort of crap in some form of attempt to sound knowlagable. But in reality, all of your dedcustions are bull, From a purley biological standpoint, your grounding assumpions are wrong.

Love = Nill to do with exsperince. Love is an emotive responce, not an active one, your exsperince is not involved, hence the phrase "love is blind" since we never learn to love from are past exsperince.

Age has little to do with emotive and biological maturity. You dont have some magical transformation when ever you pass threw a artical age boundry. Humans mature at differnt times, while some are fully capable of understanding emotions such as love at 14, others may not be cabable of fully understanding it to 20 or later.
The hormonal teenager steriotype comes from the fact, The sex drive is working, but the abilty to fully comprihend emotions such as love is yet to work, hence why it all becomes about self gratification, since the entire framework on which the human animal learns to choose its final mate, and acheave love, is yet to be formed. This does not happen at a set age, its varifes massivly. As ive already said, it has ZERO to do with exsperince, so you can own as many cars, houses, morgages as you like, this doesnt have anything to do with the emotion of love.
Love can happen in minutes or years, whether long or short, the emotion can be just as strong "/ Human emotions a ficle.

[Demi]

Ahh thank you!