Young Relationships

[EwfrGomulee]

Obviously young people will have a default love for their close friends and family however the love I am talking about is not that of comradship towards friends or a family bond, I am talking about when children meet other children.

Obviously, as said, children will do what they want when they feel they're old enough.
Here's the problem, ALL children think they're adults or old enough to make a decision by themselves.
I was one of those people.

Anyway, it may not be impossible for young people to have a REAL long term (life) relationship with someone else however it is also extremely unlikely.
I feel I have been slightely one sided in my comments earlier and must explain that most of the first post was about males and not females.

However it is just as common with Females as it is males.
The issue with both sides is that they both perceive love as an attraction to another person which would be correct.
What they do NOT think about is WHY they are attracted to that person, most of the time it is because they are ''FIT'' ''CUTE'' ect ect ect;

It is quite unlikely for people to have a meaningful relationship if they only like each other for their looks which is what most people do.

I admit I have had my fair share of girls friends but was only interested in their looks however I've grown out of such a pathetic phase.

If you notice that the less good looking people in Schools are not sought after as much as the ones who could be supermodels but these ''ugly'' people can and usually do have hearts of gold and the ''supermodel'' type girls or boys could be complete... Poopers.
Which usually determines just how long a young relationship will last.

In some cases good looking people CAN be very nice, quite a few girls I know are very kind and polite to me and other people.
I do find it to be a minority though as most people who are good looking and know it tend to become extremely difficult to be around and to talk to as they spend a lot of time swearing at random passers by.

[mousey]

12 and below is young for a relation ship

13-15 lust

16+ love, the reason i say this is because i know many people married at 16, as you can with your parent permission.

im 14 and i had a girlfriend for 2 years

[Lycan]

Ahh i don't actually remember being 10.... or 11... think i had a gf at 12 not deadly serrious of course,

Weird how they want to have everything at such a young age... relax! don't take life so serriously

[FlyingJesus]

Im 13, you saying 12-17 mostly thats lust. that is not entierly true. my ex i lasted with more than a year. i would do anyfing for her. thats not so true now. i got a new girlfriend who ihave been going out for a few days now. i know its not lust. its love. i would literly die for her.

Ahah. Yeah you're kind of proving his point, you wouldn't know true love in a few days.

What people are missing out of the argument is that there isn't just lust and love - there's also infatuation, which is what most people fall under. People who are infatuated often believe that they'd do anything for their partner (or prospective partner) but it isn't lasting and it's pretty blind.

[Swinkid]

12 and below is young for a relation ship

13-15 lust

16+ love, the reason i say this is because i know many people married at 16, as you can with your parent permission.

im 14 and i had a girlfriend for 2 years

As i said, i dont totaly agree with 13-15 is lust.
I dotn care what they look like. but how they feel about me in return.
i can tell you this isent lust i know the diffrence.

Ahah. Yeah you're kind of proving his point, you wouldn't know true love in a few days.

What people are missing out of the argument is that there isn't just lust and love - there's also infatuation, which is what most people fall under. People who are infatuated often believe that they'd do anything for their partner (or prospective partner) but it isn't lasting and it's pretty blind.

maybe idont know. but my ex i was with her for more than 2 years.

[EwfrGomulee]

The best way to test if someone REALLY WOULD die for their partner is to put them in a position they feel is real.

Example: Actors posing as gunmen hold one of them hostage, see how the couple react when put in a situation where one will be in next to fatal danger.

I know that is a little extreme but atleast you'd know where you stand with the person.
Even though that situation is not something that happens often I can certainly say it is a good way to test the couple's feelings for each other.

I say this because even those rare couples who claim to be willing to die for their partner sometimes get divorced or leave each other if not married.

[Andeeh]

Well said!



But 12 - 17 Lust?

Maybe 12 - 14 is Lust.

[Swinkid]

The best way to test if someone REALLY WOULD die for their partner is to put them in a position they feel is real.

Example: Actors posing as gunmen hold one of them hostage, see how the couple react when put in a situation where one will be in next to fatal danger.

I know that is a little extreme but atleast you'd know where you stand with the person.
Even though that situation is not something that happens often I can certainly say it is a good way to test the couple's feelings for each other.

I say this because even those rare couples who claim to be willing to die for their partner sometimes get divorced or leave each other if not married.

Ok, put me in the situation then.

[EwfrGomulee]

Well I currently do not own a giant castle on top of a big spooky hill in Transilvania so that is going to be difficult.

Think of it this way and think of it CAREFULLY.
Would you take a Bullet for someone? even if you knew it isa 50/50 chance that they'd rather you be shot than them.

[Swinkid]

Well I currently do not own a giant castle on top of a big spooky hill in Transilvania so that is going to be difficult.

Think of it this way and think of it CAREFULLY.
Would you take a Bullet for someone? even if you knew it isa 50/50 chance that they'd rather you be shot than them.

is it was someone who i loved yes. i mean that from my heart.