Mum and dad argument! +REP!

[Lee]

Only you can decide who you would want to live with, who ever treats you best, and cares the most I'm guessing?

[Hecktix]

You need to talk to your mum (when she is sober & not acting weird) and your dad (when he is not angry) and try and help them resolve it. Clearly your dad can't handle stressful sitations, which isn't uncommon but what you've got to do is persuade your mum to get help for her alcoholism.

If you want, try and talk to your dad about how shouting at her will just make it worse, and tell him that what you need to do is to start monitoring the alcohol in the house and how quickly it is being consumed, if you have to do the parental trick and draw a line where the alcohol is in the bottle!!
Obv if the alcohol is decreasing rapidly she does have a problem, and needs to persue help.

[AJKHoosier1]

this guy can help out
http://www.stevewilkos.com/

[Cyndia]

Don't start jumping to conclusions and freaking yourself out. It really is normal for parents to argue and fight every once in a while - all relationships go through arguments, because things are never perfect when you're talking about two different people. They'll simply just never agree on absolutely everything. The only bonus to the fact that your mom is having alcohol issues is that it IS a fixable problem (as opposed to if your parents were arguing about something else, or if one of them had cheated or something). Your dad is just getting frustrated, and when people get upset they often say things they don't mean (like the 'get out!', i know my dad has said that to my mom and vice versa once or twice when they were arguing and got really angry). The important thing to do is just to find your mom some help. I was confused on one thing - were you saying that your mom is drunk all the time, or are you saying that her body is reacting weirdly when she ISNT drinking? If she's drunk all the time, you guys need to start monitoring her consumption like some others have said, and either make her go cold turkey and just stop her from having any alcohol at all, or else try to make her consume less and less each day till its down to a manageable amount that won't be causing problems for their marriage. She could try joining a support group (we have AA which is alcoholics anonymous here in the US that many alcoholics use), or try finding professional help. If its not her being an alcoholic, and its instead extreme withdrawal symptoms, it might be more serious. Ive never heard of anyone going through alcohol withdrawal, especially to the extent you described. I know people crave it and get depressed but I didn't know there were such physical effects. I would strongly suggest going to the doctor about this..

But yeah, so the bottom line is don't panic. Chances are your parents won't split up over something like this, especially if your mom can find help. And if they do, it's not the end of the world either. You can probably switch between living with them, though of course you'll have to live in once place for the majority of the year when you're in school. When you make that decision you can base it off of what school you might go to depending on where each parent lives, as well as you also need to take into consideration whether or not if you live with your mother, if she's capable of taking care of you if she stays as an alcoholic, as well as if she needs your help and whatnot. It'll be tough, but you'll still see both of them, and it'll work out in the end. But again, you don't need to worry about this yet, since your parents might not split up. The important thing is to find help for you mom, and that will solve pretty much all of the problem if she can kick her alcohol cravings.

[Jack.Lfc]

Give your mum a choice, the booze or you.

[Rixion]

Give your mum a choice, the booze or you.

Yeah an ultimatum - booze or you I agree

[Middlesbrough]

Give your mum a choice, the booze or you.

Yeah an ultimatum - booze or you I agree

Do you know how hard it is to come out of an alcohol addiction, its not that simple.

[Ali]

this must be hard on you, and for your parents too. try seeking a cousellor or something.

[Misawa]

If they split up and you're a minor, a court would force you to stay with your father if your mother was an alcoholic. Seek professional help, your mother needs it and so does your family by the sounds of it. Sit down with your dad and have a calm chat about your options and how you can help her without it coming confrontational.

[Hecktix]

Give your mum a choice, the booze or you.

Do you not wonder why so many drunks/junkies end up homeless?
'Cause their families give them the choice and they choose the drug over their family, they can't choose their family because the addiction is just too powerful.

Is the user of this thread actually going to reply because there is some really useful help within this thread? It's amazing how useful this forum can actually be...

Good luck whatever kid.

Addaction is a charity the police work closely with to rehabilitate people addicted to substances, however the charity also has a large branch of helping the people affected by those addicted...
http://www.addaction.org.uk/

Let us know how you get on