Abusive Boyfriend?

[Kardan]

Right, I'm close mates with this girl and her boyfriend's a bit of a ****. Basically, we were discussing the Chris Brown/Rihanna suituation on how he beat her up, and I told her that any woman should leave her partner if he did that to her, and she disagreed saying that her boyfriend does it to her, and she doesn't mind because he's 'only messing around'.

I asked her what the 'messing around' involved; and she just said general hitting (for example; he stood on her brand new white shoes, so she slap him as a joke... and he slapped her back :/) but then she told me that he's held a knife to her throat before... 'as a joke'.

I told her that she was crazy being with him, and she said that she was sticking by him because that's what love is. I told her that love doesn't involve beating her up and putting a knife to her throat but she just didn't listen :/

So, what shall I do? She won't listen to anything I'll say because she's more likely to go with her hurt than what I say... I want her to be happy, but I don't want her to get hurt... literally.

And then there's the fact that if she does leave him, will he do anything? He's a 19 year old drug dealer :/

Thoughts? Ideas?

[Soy]

It's her life, she can live it how she wants

[CJW93]

Lol he boyfriend sounds messed up

[Minstrels]

It's her life, she can live it how she wants

Tada, don't try being no special "God send".

[Twist]

Right, I'm close mates with this girl and her boyfriend's a bit of a ****. Basically, we were discussing the Chris Brown/Rihanna suituation on how he beat her up, and I told her that any woman should leave her partner if he did that to her, and she disagreed saying that her boyfriend does it to her, and she doesn't mind because he's 'only messing around'.

I asked her what the 'messing around' involved; and she just said general hitting (for example; he stood on her brand new white shoes, so she slap him as a joke... and he slapped her back :/) but then she told me that he's held a knife to her throat before... 'as a joke'.

I told her that she was crazy being with him, and she said that she was sticking by him because that's what love is. I told her that love doesn't involve beating her up and putting a knife to her throat but she just didn't listen :/

So, what shall I do? She won't listen to anything I'll say because she's more likely to go with her hurt than what I say... I want her to be happy, but I don't want her to get hurt... literally.

And then there's the fact that if she does leave him, will he do anything? He's a 19 year old drug dealer :/

Thoughts? Ideas?

Her grave :eusa_whis.

[Suspective]

Its upto her, if she wants to be with him let her.

[buttons]

Right, I'm close mates with this girl and her boyfriend's a bit of a ****. Basically, we were discussing the Chris Brown/Rihanna suituation on how he beat her up, and I told her that any woman should leave her partner if he did that to her, and she disagreed saying that her boyfriend does it to her, and she doesn't mind because he's 'only messing around'.

I asked her what the 'messing around' involved; and she just said general hitting (for example; he stood on her brand new white shoes, so she slap him as a joke... and he slapped her back :/) but then she told me that he's held a knife to her throat before... 'as a joke'.

I told her that she was crazy being with him, and she said that she was sticking by him because that's what love is. I told her that love doesn't involve beating her up and putting a knife to her throat but she just didn't listen :/

So, what shall I do? She won't listen to anything I'll say because she's more likely to go with her hurt than what I say... I want her to be happy, but I don't want her to get hurt... literally.

And then there's the fact that if she does leave him, will he do anything? He's a 19 year old drug dealer :/

Thoughts? Ideas?

wow this situation is all too familiar ....
no matter how hard you try to tell her him slapping her is wrong, she won't leave him & she'll make excuses for why he does it. Apparently guys think slapping or even hitting a girl is acceptable (check the thread on here :rolleyes so he maybe doesn't think it's that bad but i really doubt it. I don't think anything you say to her is gonna change her mind, tell her girl friends 'cause they'll probably be more likely to help her in this case rather than guys, she'll just think u're jealous

[cocaine]

just advise her on what shes really dealing with and if shes smart she'll come round and ditch him. if not, its her responsibility.

[Soy]

Tada, don't try being no special "God send".

i see
don't try being no special "comedian".

[Minstrels]

wow this situation is all too familiar ....
no matter how hard you try to tell her him slapping her is wrong, she won't leave him & she'll make excuses for why he does it. Apparently guys think slapping or even hitting a girl is acceptable (check the thread on here :rolleyes so he maybe doesn't think it's that bad but i really doubt it. I don't think anything you say to her is gonna change her mind, tell her girl friends 'cause they'll probably be more likely to help her in this case rather than guys, she'll just think u're jealous

I can't see any post in here which is condoning violence, we're simply saying that if she wants to carry on with the relationship even if he's hitting her then it's up to her.

i see
don't try being no special "comedian".

How am I being a comedian? If she wants to live that way then let her, he wont be able to change her and will most probably lose her as a mate because she'll get pissed off with him bugging her?