She doesnt understand

[Jackk]

forget her, you'll be pulling girls left right and centre when your pro.

[omgDAN!]

You'd feel like **** if you decided not to go and then you broke up...

[Hiro]

Cos u don't get scorlarships in England

I'm sorry, but yes you do.

[Bef]

Seriously, take this oportunity! Ul always regret it if u dont, shes just being selfish. She may not be in ur life forever anyway, it may seem that way at the moment but u cant predict the future. Id go and live your life, if shes not there when u get back then it was never meant to be.

[RedStratocas]

I don't see why you need to go abroad to a country that doesn't really know about football, you should try get into West Ham accademy or something, but yeah plenty of more fish in the sea you'll find someone out there.

all university sports are very competitive, and they give pretty generous scholarships for good players. so even if he doesnt go pro, he's got an education.

[JACKTARD]

go to america,
dont stay with her

[Mentor]

Take the scholarship, its something your likely ever going to get one shot at.
The relationship probabaly wouldnt last 4 years anyway, espeally if she isnt willing to even attempt to wait for you. Though honestly even if she did, chances are over 4 years you would both grow apart anyway.

Just my 2 cents.

[Barmi]

@OP: The question I put to you is "could you have a future with someone so selfish?"

Chase a future before you settle down.

[kuzkasate]

Just talk to her, explain everything. If she loves you, she will understand.

[Mrs.McCall]

I cannot reitorate what everyone else is saying enough. You have to follow your dreams because this is once in a lifetime.

I am in no doubt that you love this girl and no doubt she loves you. I think she needs reassurance. She's probably scared of losing you and doesn't know how to handle that emotion. If you try and combat that by telling her you'll speak over Skype, you'll visit her etc then maybe she'll calm down because at the end of the day, you're leaving her. It's not an easy thing to deal with at any age so perhaps see it from her point of view a little bit? It's easy to call her a cow and selfish but it must be hard for her.

I am sure once you've calmed her down and explained things she'll come around because love isn't about self containment and selfishness. It's about growing as people and aiding each other's growth. If she doesn't want that then perhaps she isn't worth it at all?