If you had a disabled child?

[Immenseman]

Yeah, that's true Mike but it would require so much work and effort and I know it's selfish but I'm not sure if I could put enough in. Like Oli said, I have high career aspirations too so wouldn't want to hinder those.

[Inseriousity.]

Fair enough but why abortion when there's adoption? I think the media is just scaremongering about social services and care homes as the uncle I've just described was adopted. There are thousands of infertile parents hoping for a child and some wouldn't mind taking a disabled child. I'd at least give them a chance of life!

[dirrty]

tbh people are saying they wouldn't want a disabled child because they may suffer. sure i'd probably say that in an actual situation in the future if it came about, but the truth would be that i just don't want a disabled child. i want a normal child who can live their life fully (i know disabled people can live a 'normal' life, but y'anno what i mean). sounds extremely selfish i know, but i'm sure that i'm not the only person who thinks this.

[Immenseman]

Fair enough but why abortion when there's adoption? I think the media is just scaremongering about social services and care homes as the uncle I've just described was adopted. There are thousands of infertile parents hoping for a child and some wouldn't mind taking a disabled child. I'd at least give them a chance of life!

because i would feel worse giving it up for adoption than abortion. i'd never have to think what might be happening. omg im making myself so bad but i can't help it. i just really wouldn't want a disabled child. abortion or adoption. i'd prefer to know before and get an abortion.

[Sunnily]

I'd probably go ahead with it and bring the kid up. But you can see where alot of people think about this is a different way. People think bringing them up in that way is making them struggle in life and making their life hard.

[Smits]

Fair enough but why abortion when there's adoption? I think the media is just scaremongering about social services and care homes as the uncle I've just described was adopted. There are thousands of infertile parents hoping for a child and some wouldn't mind taking a disabled child. I'd at least give them a chance of life!

I don't think i could ever give a child away once it's been born, knowing it was mine. I think putting a disabled child in a home would be bad because many people would deffinately be put off by the disbailities and it would need an awful lot of care and assistance.

[IceNineKills]

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Edited by Robbie (Forum Super Moderator): Please do not make inappropriate posts

[Misawa]

The truth of the matter is, until you're in the situation, you don't know.

[adaym]

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Seriously dude...

[Jay.]

My best friends sister has Cerebral Palsy and I help looking after her. Her mum has given up a career for her, and I've asked if she's happy. She argues that it's fine with her, she loves the satisfaction of looking after her children, but she would of had an abortion.

I asked her if it was ok to speak about it, then asked why. (This was ages ago as I've wanted to know this exact question) She argued that her daughter has always wanted to do things we do. Me and her are good friends and she loves my company, she wishes that she could walk basically. Feed herself etc. I'd do it also, for the child's benefit though, not mine.

EDIT: IceNineKills -rep, so immature and disrespectful.