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[adaym]

I like her.
She likes me. She's told me.

Thing is - she says she can't have a boyfriend because she "doesn't have the time".

Scusi moi? Anyway, advice. I've been perusing (sound like a pervert) this for about a year and got this far...

[Swastika]

If she says she hasn't got time, then she hasn't got the time lol, so just leave it?
OR
Keep working at it and invite her round yours, take her out etc.
See where it goes from there, all the best.

[Sunnily]

The more you persuade her the worse. But do you know why she doesn't have time? it's not really that common to say you don't have time.

[Immenseman]

If you've made it that obvious you like her after pursuing her for so long then maybe she just wants to have her own space and wants to do it nicely. OK, that's too pessimistic, maybe you just need to talk to her properly and explain that if she gives it the chance you can both make it work. Just talk to her in a nice place, just the two of you.

[adaym]

Trust me, she asked me to see her on Friday and unfortunately I was the otherside of town, and something would've happened. I mean, fair enough, she doesn't have the time because she's a frekking revision nerd but I don't see it having a negative effect - I wouldn't let it anyway.

I'm not forcing it on her, at all. I'd rather she be happy than not.

[Cyndia]

She seems like she's just really focused and doesn't want something really time consuming like a boyfriend.. because having a relationship really can be time-consuming! But hey, if you guys both like each other and both know it, I don't see why you can't be together unofficially/casually. You'd be without the label and without the pressures of an actual commitment, but the two of you could still hang out and do whatever. I'd say just continue hanging out with her and whatnot and go with the flow to see how things turn out.

[Pyroka]

Take this from a guy whose been hurt by this sort of situation. If a girl says she doesn't have time for you, its not worth pursuing as it'll end in tears. Thing is, if she can't make time for you at the start of a relationship, what will happen if this situation arises again, do you think she'll make time for you?

The answer will be no, everytime. Don't be a fool and fall into something, it's not worth hurting both of you for the sake of a few weeks/months of 'love'.

[Blinger$]

You really wouldn't want to give too much information on this would you?

"i like her, she likes me, she has no time" :rolleyes:

What do you think it means? A no brainer i reckon. (she obviously doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment)

[adaym]

You really wouldn't want to give too much information on this would you?

"i like her, she likes me, she has no time" :rolleyes:

What do you think it means? A no brainer i reckon. (she obviously doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment)

Holy ****, thanks for the advice. I didn't think of it like that.