What to do? +repp

[kuzkasate]

Basically, I've liked this girl for a few years now. She was in and out with me, she liked me, then didnt, like me, then didnt etc. So as soon as I tried getting over her she would tell me she likes me and I'd think I have a chance, then she'd say she doesnt anymore!

So basically, I have had two ideas..

1) At the moment, everyone is seeming to be ditching her and not wanting to be friends with her, including me, I was kinda moody with her & didnt speak to her for a few days for various reasons. We are like best friends & she used to be able to tell me everything and I told her everything and it worked! We understood each other, we like the same stuff etc. Anyway, lately its been been kinda me who starts the convos with her and normally it breaks up into an arguement or we just dont have a good convo. So i've tried ditching her & not talking to her, now shes started talking to me and it seems like its going back to normal.. so, what I could do is, with everyone ditching her, I could always be there for her like I used to and then maybe she will start liking me again..

OR

2) I could just tell her to do one and not speak to her, try forget her & completely blank her. But that means I'll be loosing a great friend and someone thats very close to me..

What should I do? 1 or 2 and why. +repps

(BTW YES I AM A GUY)

[Volumise]

I think you shouldnt give up just yet, and be there for her because she will be looking for someone to lean on since everyones ditching her. If she continues with the way she acts, I don't think that you should ditch her, you should just ignore her actions until she realises whats shes doing and by not ditching her, it shows that your a good friend.

[kuzkasate]

I think you shouldnt give up just yet, and be there for her because she will be looking for someone to lean on since everyones ditching her. If she continues with the way she acts, I don't think that you should ditch her, you should just ignore her actions until she realises whats shes doing and by not ditching her, it shows that your a good friend.

Thats exactly my thoughts, but im just sick off gettin hurt. she used to go out with my best friend and has fancied soo manyy guys.. i want a relationship, which i think it will lead to, but i dont know how long i gotta wait for her.. and im sick of waiting. +repp

[Smits]

I'd say go down the friend route. Don't ditch her because that#'s really low. Everyone goes through bad spells and yo should be there for her if everyone else is ditching her.

Even if she doesnt start to like you again, at least you'll still have a good friend because trust me, girls make great friends.

[22andy2231]

number 1 dont leave her. stay with her and be there for her when she needs you most. . stay friends and build that friendship up untill you both get to the stage where you both notice that you are ment to be with each other. . .

but i suppose if u 4get her it woud be easier to move on. . but what if you never find sum1 like her again. . .i say u keep her close 2 u but also try and move on at the same time


but hope it all goes well for ye

[Hollie]

The first one, you shouldn't just ditch friends so stay with her and help her through it when everyone keeps ditching her. If you stay great friends then maybe she will realise how great you are for eachother but try not to bring it up when your around her as it might make her feel awkward or under pressure. If you ditched her then I don't think you would stand a chance with her because she might think your untrustworthy because of it.
Hope this helps.

[DieselShaq]

3. Ignore her. She was probably playing with you when she was on and off. If you just ignore her (like, just stop talking to her), she'll figure something is wrong. If she cares enough, she'd try get you to tell her what's wrong. Then you can sort everything out in one go, e.g. telling her that you've liked her for so long but she's been on and off and you don't know what's going on etc. If she doesn't talk to you, just forget about her. Not worth your time.

[Stryderman]

Im not gonna lie getting with your best friend like never works so i suggest you just ignore your feelings for her find someone else and just be there for her like a friend should be.

[Describe]

Hey mate.

So as soon as I tried getting over her she would tell me she likes me and I'd think I have a chance, then she'd say she doesnt anymore!

This sounds like she is taking the piss. I know a few girls who have done the same to a friend and I've experienced it myself and it always seems to be that the reaction that they get back from the guy is what they're wanting. It's a form of attention seeking. If you like fooling around, hanging on and waiting for something to happen then by all means do so but if you actually want to get with her you tell her straight, stop the ******* around.

There is no point in losing a friend, especially if she's a great friend because there is nothing worse really. Ask her to have a talk with you and make sure you emphasise that what you're talking about is serious (that your serious about it) and if she does/doesn't want to be with you she is to give you a decision so that you could get on with it. If she wants you, then fine, you get with her but if you don't, you remain friends. Just tell her to stop the up and down like a YO-YO ****.

[cocaine]

ditch her. shes playing with you and messing you around. if you carry on as you were, it'll continue and as you've said she'll say she likes you then go back on her word. find someone who isnt gonna do that with you