Shes Pregnant ...

[DPS]

I'm going to be totally honest here, being back together because of a baby... well, I don't see it working out.

It's not just that reason. theres other reasons me and her have alot of history.

[iJess]

Congratulations! And good luck

[FunXiaomilitary]

Congrats..... Good Luck ;D

[Catzsy]

I am being a bit cynical here but do you have proof she is pregnant? Saying she is and absolutely knowing are two different things. If she is I would be as supportive as possible to her but think very carefully before becoming completely committed.

[Grig]

It's really how you view abortion, most people on here never even mentioned that method maybe because of their anti-abortion stance that it's killing a human being etc. But we can really get into the nitty gritty of whether a fetus is considered a human being and so forth.

I am not opposed to abortion and wouldn't go against it. I wouldn't jump into any hasty decisions because at the end of the day you need to know you can raise the child, I wouldn't ever want to give any child a sub-par upbringing. Sure, you can give birth to a child but that is only the first step, there is a whole 2 decades of education and so forth that a child will need, on top of basic welfare.

Anyway, it seems you made your decision and I wish you luck, hopefully it all turns out stress free for everyone.

[MissAlice]

You sound like a good person, and want to take the responsibilities of bringing a child into the world seriously. I admire you for that, because every child should not only have the love and support of their parents but be able to provide for them too, and the next 18 or more years will either come easy or become your worst nightmare.

Assuming you’re the father, and only tests will confirm that, life isn’t going to be plain sailing. There will be many ‘ifs’ and ‘buts’ along the way. Whilst I congratulate you, I don’t envy you, as there will be insecurities in your relationship, which won’t pass for a long time, if it succeeds. The obvious one being, ‘Is she only with me because of the baby?’ and vice versa. Only time will tell, so be sure it’s what you really want, and not what is expected of you!

This situation must arise for many people, so I hope it gets a good read, particularly for those who are in relationships. What would they do in your position?

[DPS]

I am being a bit cynical here but do you have proof she is pregnant? Saying she is and absolutely knowing are two different things. If she is I would be as supportive as possible to her but think very carefully before becoming completely committed.

Yeah she def is, she went to the doctors, and they confirmed it.

@MissAlice she isnt the type of girl to sleep around, im the only person she has slept with, dont need proof of that lol.

[Catzsy]

Yeah she def is, she went to the doctors, and they confirmed it.

@MissAlice she isnt the type of girl to sleep around, im the only person she has slept with, dont need proof of that lol.

Did you go with her or did she just tell you that?

I deduct from your posts that you still really still feel a lot for her so good luck with whatever you decide.

[DPS]

Did you go with her or did she just tell you that?

I deduct from your posts that you still really still feel a lot for her so good luck with whatever you decide.

Yes i went with her lol

[-:Undertaker:-]

I would much rather a young girl who cannot give a baby the support it needs aborted said baby than wait, give birth to it and put it up for adoption. Chances are, it would spend it's childhood in homes rather than get adopted. This can be a pretty horrible way to start your life, lots of people (don't have stats) who are brought up this way can have issues (in some cases serious issues) after and during childhood, including dying very young. I know you are of the opinion that we cannot make choices for anyone else but I don't think it is right to bring a baby into the world under such circumstances, only for it to have a crap life. I'll add that I don't believe a foetus that is young enough to be aborted counts as a human anyway.

(This isn't related to the OP's situation, sounds like he'll be a great dad, it's a response to Undertaker)

I'd much rather a young girl think before she has sex as opposed to having sex and then simply having an abortion for her own convenience as many do nowadays. With adoption vs being aborted, i'm actually sure most people would rather be alive or at least be given the choice as opposed to having it made for them. I am a libertarian, i'm naturally for personal choice - but with abortion, the 'choice' is a false argument because in my eyes the 'foetus' (a nice latin word) is actually a human being which is clear from the way pregnant women talk about their baby whilst its still in the womb. The DNA of a foetus would show as a homo sapiens, as thats the common way to define a human being I think that is the best benchmark as nobody else has come up with a better definition so far.

You may find this interesting on the subject of abortion, its what mainly changed my stance upon it not all that long ago; http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bbaEXDl4uqU

As for the topic poster, I do wish him and the girl well and i'm glad they are confronting the mistakes they've made and not putting their own mistakes on the child to avoid the inconvenience of bringing up a child as so many people selfishly do.