Do you think you are born gay or it is a lifestyle?

[HotelUser]

The decisions we make about anything are influenced by the same or similar factors. The social environment we grow up in, the people around us and the experiences we have in life all have an impact on whether we prefer blue to black, RAP or Rock or even influence your love life. Everybody's been exposed to different things growing up, different environments and everyone thinks different. Even if you experience something someone else experienced, your interpretation of it will be completely different because no two minds are alike.

In Sambia culture males as young as seven engage in oral sex with older males because of their beliefs on manhood. To us this seems crazy but to them it's the norm, it's socially acceptable and totally justified based upon the parameters of their society.

People are gay for the same reason people are straight, like wearing makeup, like red or like blue. Because throughout their life they interpreted various things in a certain ways which is called preference. Saying someone is born gay is like saying someone was born to love the colour green. It's their preference because of an assortment of events, observations and unique interpretations throughout the individual's life.

[Judas]

Can we stop talking about the definition of homophobia lol it's pretty irrelevant and is clogging up this thread which deals with quite an interesting subject... Make another thread if you want to debate that

[peteyt]

The decisions we make about anything are influenced by the same or similar factors. The social environment we grow up in, the people around us and the experiences we have in life all have an impact on whether we prefer blue to black, RAP or Rock or even influence your love life. Everybody's been exposed to different things growing up, different environments and everyone thinks different. Even if you experience something someone else experienced, your interpretation of it will be completely different because no two minds are alike.

In Sambia culture males as young as seven engage in oral sex with older males because of their beliefs on manhood. To us this seems crazy but to them it's the norm, it's socially acceptable and totally justified based upon the parameters of their society.

People are gay for the same reason people are straight, like wearing makeup, like red or like blue. Because throughout their life they interpreted various things in a certain ways which is called preference. Saying someone is born gay is like saying someone was born to love the colour green. It's their preference because of an assortment of events, observations and unique interpretations throughout the individual's life.

I think what you said really sums everything up about how I see it. Everyone in my opinion is born balanced (forgetting birth defects that can occur) and some simply lean one way or another all depending on a multiple of things including family background, beliefs and just general opinions tastes and thoughts.

The way I see it is you can have different tastes musically from parents, brothers/sisters etc. This doesn't mean you where born with them you simply made a decision on what you liked/perfered which to me sums up sexuality. You decide what you like/prefer based on stuff.

This to me proves how straight people can go gay and vice versa because tastes themselves are aquirred and change - people go off genres of music film etc compelely and move to others.

I know some may disagree with this. A lot of people seem to think you can't change back once your gay your gay. But it happens and why shouldn't it. It's all about personal preferences. I might love a girlfriend then bump into a mysterious man who shows me a good time and I fall for him then in turn may fall for another girl later on.

Sexuality to me is something that doesn't have to be concrete, set in stone.

And to all the people going on about the meaning oh phobia people who are called homophobic are usually believed to be simply against gay's not scared of them. Ricky Gervais is a prime example - He's had complaints about the usage of the word mongs because it offends people with difficulties e.g. down syndrome but it is used in a wider sense today. Remember gay once meant happy. Words can change or even get multiple meanings. As someone mentioned earlier it is the beautiful thing about language.