help me i'm desperate

[T@R]

right i don't know who to turn to so i'll ask you lot cos i can't tell people in real life or i'll get judged...
to keep it simple, i'm seeing this girl ( A ) and have been for about 2/3 weeks now, so it's like early doors of the 'relationship' and then on friday i got chucked out my house
this other girl (B) was having a party anyway and she said i could stay
so yeah i got really drunk and ended up sleeping with B and we've both agreed to keep it a secret
so yeah should i tell A?
is it worth risking a potential relationship?
like honestly i know a lot of you will just be like you shouldn't have done it so now bare the consequences, which is true, but nobody will ever find out and by telling her surely i'm doing her more harm telling her
and it's not an official relationship yet either
so anyone?

[RyRy]

if you call her your girlfriend or she calls you her boyfriend, then you're in the wrong and you should consider coming clean. if it's just a casual seeing eachother and seeing how it goes then no need to tell her.

[T@R]

yeah i don't call her my girlfriend but i dunno whether in like a week that'd be the same cos we've slept together and she said she only sleeps with people she likes
and i do like her too but i think telling her would just cause unnecessary problems...

[Rozi]

like ryan said, if you haven't made it official and you never had a conversation about seeing other people then no need to tell her really unless she expressly asks you or she tells you she did something with someone else

[Lee]

If it was an accident and you regret, I dont see why you should risk the early relationship. However, if there is any chance of her finding else through anybody else you should brake it to her yourself. Of course, your call when it comes down to it!

[Catzsy]

Less said the better I feel. Mistakes do happen but I would just try and forget about it and not worry.

[T@R]

like ryan said, if you haven't made it official and you never had a conversation about seeing other people then no need to tell her really unless she expressly asks you or she tells you she did something with someone else

nah we have spoken about that and we did agree that we weren't gonna get with other people...
and i saw her today and in a joking way she said 'how many girls did you **** on friday?'

[Rozi]

oh well crap you're in a bit of a sticky situation
basically if she finds out somewhere along the line you can pretty much kiss your good relationship goodbye
if you tell her now there may be a chance that she doesn't mind but also it might be the total end

depends on her really; if she's paranoid, if she's had relationships where she has been cheated on before, if she is a trusting person, how bad she thinks cheating is etc

maybe the fact she asked you how many you slept with on friday is a bit of a sign that she is a bit worried, despite it being a joke.


There isn't really a simple answer, if girl B is trustworthy and you're sure no one else knows then I wouldn't tell her.

[Phil]

If this is a 'potential relationship' don't you think it'd be better telling her now before ye get into a serious long-lasting relationship?

[Casanova]

I don't have a clue why all of you are saying "tell her"?

Don't, just leave it. you're young and it happens.