Long distance relationships..

[Jurv]

videos of people holding up pieces of paper are cringeworthy. nuff said.

but yeah, i personally can't see long distance relationships working in the long run. perhaps if they weren't planning on meeting up it could work, but if they were then i can just imagine them being disappointed at who they thought was someone else, if you know what i mean? people get all dolled up online.

[Kardan]

videos of people holding up pieces of paper are cringeworthy. nuff said.

but yeah, i personally can't see long distance relationships working in the long run. perhaps if they weren't planning on meeting up it could work, but if they were then i can just imagine them being disappointed at who they thought was someone else, if you know what i mean? people get all dolled up online.

I must have totally got the wrong end of this thread I thought long distance mainly meant you were in a relationship with someone and then moved apart, like people starting university, whereas most people in here are talking about online relationships which are a totally different thing

Online relationships, I consider them more of a middle aged persons sort of thing, using dating websites - of course you get the odd teenage couple that fall in "love" but people are a lot different in real life than on the internet...

[Catchy]

I'd never want to be in a long distance relationship again. There, that's my opinion.

[lawrawrrr]

NGL this video actually made me cry. Doesn't help I've reached that totally depressive holy-crap-noone-will-ever-love-me-again phase of being single ANYWAY

So cute, can't even say. Long distances relationships are so hard but can really work. Sometimes they feel real, sometimes... they just don't. I've experienced both (don't flatter yourself into thinking you know who I'm talking about) and it can really suck. Especially as it sometimes feels as if you're more into it than the other person, but that's the risk you have to take, I guess.

It's so public, so open, OMG LETS POST YOUTUBE VIDS ABOUT HOW MUCH WE LOVE EACH OTHER relationships that annoy me, if they're that superficial can they actually be real? Seriously? I get you want to flaunt how much you mean to each other but it's the same issue with real relationships - from my experience, if you're writing on each other's Facebook walls 24/7 about how 'in love' you are, you're probably not 'in love'.

[FlyingJesus]

i think it's harder if you meet them close by you THEN one of you move

I'd say the opposite tbh, if you've never met then you've never had the physical bond (not just sex, even just a hug or something makes a difference) and are therefore in my view more likely to look for that elsewhere. If the people involved are fine with that then it's not a problem but I think the jealousy of knowing that other people are constantly near the person you've never had the chance to touch can be very damaging.

Also as a real life example, my sister got married this weekend to the guy she started seeing when she was 15, then he moved to New Zealand and they did long distance on/off for a few years until she moved out there to be with him, and obv I have bias in this because she's my sister but they genuinely are perfect together and always were regardless of the distance that occurred partway through it all

but yeah, i personally can't see long distance relationships working in the long run. perhaps if they weren't planning on meeting up it could work, but if they were then i can just imagine them being disappointed at who they thought was someone else, if you know what i mean? people get all dolled up online.

If you're serious about the relationship and it's a long-term thing then it's absolutely possible to know the "real" person before meeting them and not get disappointed. A big part of the emotional connection in a romantic relationship is allowing yourself to be vulnerable with your partner, so if someone's constantly hiding behind a mask or refusing to let their real self be shown then that's a problem with the whole relationship not just the distance aspect of it

[Stephen]

That video was well gay

Like it's nice and all why do you even need to put that **** on youtube

[dbgtz]

To me that video wasn't cute or anything like that, it seemed like he made that video for the gain of getting compliments like "that video is cute". Personally I think you have to be close enough to see the personal on a fairly regular basis (once a fortnight, something like that) for it to work, though it probably does depend on the people, but I just don't see how it could work just being online 24/7.

[Sian]

my previous relationship became long distant because of uni. If you have a strong relationship it will work (maybe not forever) but we stayed together for another year whilst I was at uni, it ended but not because of the distance.

Depends on the people really.

[Charz777]

Just watched the video, it's sweet, don't get me wrong. But it's not ideal. Fair play to them if they made it work

I'm not going to knock their relationship because they've probably got more romance going on there than a lot of couples. Writing songs, making videos for each other, well that's something a lot of us won't experience, but we're lucky to be able to see our partners every day or week. I'm a big romantic and think all the cheesey-ness in there is sweet and would love that.

The distance though, it's just not doable for me. How could you have a serious relationship? I'd feel I was missing out an awful lot not knowing his smell, his touch and so on... And don't think you get to appreciate a person for who they truly are unless you get to see them in all situations in many places, and not just by camera.

Meh, still good on them. I wouldn't want people to think negatively about my relationship, and I'm sure they feel the same and it's been difficult enough for them.

That video was well gay

Like it's nice and all why do you even need to put that **** on youtube

Also, this. I thought a relationship was supposed to be between two people, not the rest of the world. I don't like the whole 'broadcasting' it side of things :/

[JerseySafety]

Oh thats cool. Glad they got together in the end. Shows they can work!