okay i have a problem

[Demi]

get free stuff!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! he sounds like a pred tho

This is true also.

[Teabags]

get a bf.
you can still be friends with this chappy? Or don't you want to be associated with the potential alcoholic, whose clinging to people a decade younger than he is?

[Charz777]

Sounds a bit stalkerish and full-on. I'd say to keep telling him, but clearly he's not taking the hint.

He's a friend right, so do you still want to be friends? Is he the sort you want to keep in your life? If not then you could cut him out, but as you say with mutal friends that's hard and awkward and to be honest a bit harsh. But if he's being far to over the top then that's probably not a bad idea if it fits the situation.

If you still want to be friends you've got to grit your teeth, sit down and have the tediously awkward conversation. Get your point across that he's crowding you and being more-than-a-friend and to be honest a bit creepy. He might take a bit of an ego bashing though. But, he can't just expect you to be his because he wants it, he needs to respect you and your choice. If you're not attracted, you're just not attracted. End of.

[buttons]

he's not my friend, he's that friend everyone laughs at. i was there for the free drinks.

anyway updatee. protected my tweets, blocked then unblocked so he was no longer followin me. one week later, he requests to follow. he's also moved on to one of my friends according to his twitter (OKAY SO I'M THE STALKER NOW). she was one of the girls saying "just go out with him" or "ooh its just a laugh". let's see how she likes it. srsly lets just revel in his romantic words to her;

" I see you! You are what life should be! Beautiful!"
"the only joy I have in life is the thought of your smile! My heart melts at the thought of it"
"f dreams where always of you I would smash myself in the head and keep myself in a coma"
" you don't need her number! Just look.to the heavens and you will see that angel!"
"ats weak! Rachael you are what dreams should be! But I can't imagine a dream as good ad you!"
"I am ad deep as you are beautiful! It can't be said in words but only felt in your soul!"
"you looked how pretty girls should! Pretty and pure of soul!"
"pretty sure your dress was well tight last night? I I notice this ****! I am a man after all!"
"you make me understand music! Before you it was just noise"

@FlyingJesus; look he downgraded to rachael


TOTALLY JEALOUS IT WAS ALL A LIE TO ME

[FlyingJesus]

She'll enjoy it prob, they deserve each other

[buttons]

yeah she's all "awww that's cute" "you're so funny" but they were arguing yesterday and she was callin him a creep. i'm just gonna do what she did to me saying she likes him infront of everyone and to go out with him lol but knowing her she'll say i'm jealous.

[kuzkasate]

sounds like he's a desperate virgin and wants some luvin'

picked the wrong ones though lol

[Casanova]

No matter how much you imply or state you haven't instigated this you've admitted, even if a little passively that you have goaded or made an implication to appreciating or wanting his attention.

the problem you have is like anyone, we all like attention but the problem is being like that - the attention.

Flattery is the easiest form of manipulation. We do it for a better feeling in ourselves and it's actually a backhanded way for YOU to make HIM feel better about himself.


You need to be straight with him. Invite him over, explain the situation - you're currently in a difficult place where YES you've instigated his affection in some cases but only because you wanted to feel better about yourself. Not in an ignorant way but because as friends it created a better bond between you. You enjoy and like his company and feel as a friend he's a good one - but as a friend is all you can offer. As for his over riding affection and deep setted feelings for you they're unwarranted. You feel it's ruining your impression of him and that the friendship you like and WANT from him is being deeply affected by the fact he's making you feel negative because he's not letting you breath.

If he let's go, moves on and leaves it where it is you'll be able to be his friend and have a better relationship otherwise he will truly lose you as you'll have no choice but just to cut him out and lose contact with other friends because of this.

Of course you could explain it better with better personal bits such as who you'll lose through it, why it's not suited and why you feel he's not right. But either way it just won't happen.



As for your friends being heavy handed and out of order with their implications explain to them that they KNOW he's not right and he's not your type. That he isn't going to be anything more than a friend and he's taking you wrong for what you want and desire.

Ignore the unimportant ones. Problem with being pretty is you're expected to be a **** tease, expected to be hardly obtainable but then you're frigid if you don't give out or have relationships. It's catch 22. you're a **** if you give out, you're frigid if you don't.




As for your low esteem you'll find this is probably due to your home life. Normally it's a mother problem for girls? Why not see if you can discuss with your mum how you feel. By creating a better bond (even though it might seem you have one the now... that won't be the case?) on a new level as you're now an adult she might let you have more freedom and not give you back handed insults now and again. She need's a new mind set.

break the mould.