Would you ever be able to cope with a disabled child?

[MKR&*42]

I wouldn't ever ask for it to be aborted , but I would like euthenasia to be legalised (holy Crap we might actually reach the 21st century then) so that child could decide at 16 or whatever whether he or she definitely wanted to continue a life of disability or not. I think every child deserves a chance, although it would be more challenging to manage it as a parent, I wouldn't ever consider abortion an option as I disagree with it on almost every grounds.

[Phil]

I understand that most people wouldn't want to they believe they couldn't cope with a child with severe disabilities and I respect that thought but some of the comments in this thread disgust me, saying you'll leave the child by a bin to rot is disgusting and those who think it should be disgusted with themselves.

Of course if you have a child with a severe disability life will become more challenging but in some aspects, it can be so rewarding and you'll love that child no matter what because it's your child, at least you should! It has done nothing wrong to you, he/she deserves to live the best life possible.

So yes, I think I would learn to adapt to caring for a child with special needs if it came to it.

[Inseriousity.]

i dunno people saying you learn to cope are talking bs
i've an aunt who has a downsyndrome kid he'll never be able to talk, or go to the bathroom on his own
he's going to need a carer for the rest of his life and that will be her

Got an uncle with downs syndrome with exactly the same problems. I also have another one (they were both adopted) who is now living in semi-independent (there are carers there but they're given the freedom to do as they wish within reason). I would love my children just the way they are. Taking disability out of the situation, just coping with a normal child is a lot of hard work and effort. You've got responsibility for another innocent human being who is dependent on you to look after them. Add disability and it just gets more tricky but I do not think it's impossible and as with all parenting, you do have to adapt and it's all trial and error finding out what works and what doesn't. I have a big family so a good support network behind me if I ever need a free babysitter or advice and our experience of dealing with disabled people in the family already means we have that advantage.

[Aiden]

i could cope because im quite mean and wouldnt care lol

i personally wouldnt want one
u only live once and i dont think ppl shud put unneeded stress on themselves

i would wnt a kid who angry issues tho lol

[Gibs960]

I wouldn't choose a disabled child, just because they are restrictive and I would rather have a non-disabled child. But if my wife or girlfriend gave birth to a disabled child or we knew it was disabled before it was born, I would be against aborting or putting the baby up for adoption. I would probably suffer from severe depression afterwards, I feel bad saying bye to my nephew when I'll see him the next day, I probably would cope worse if I gave it away.

[dbgtz]

I couldn't cope with any disabilities which would make me take care of them for longer than a parent should. So I could cope with minor physical disabilities such as paralysis from the waist down, but I couldn't deal with things such as downs syndrome. I actually fear having kids for this reason and being unable to cope with it, leading for me to run away which would be an absolutely horrible thing to do.

In my opinion abort is never a solution. You're thinking about your comfort... It's hard to take care of a disable child... God give it [baby] a life and you abort for your comfort is NOT right... Get able and teach this kid with love. That's what matter.

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It's not solely about the comfort of a parent, the child could be so disabled that their life is one of horrible quality. Which surely makes you question that if there is a god, why does he allow them to have such a poor quality of life? Oh they're created in his vision... did his contacts fall out? Oh but god loves them... that's nice I'm sure that'll get them through their **** state of life, love from a being you can't even see or feel.

[beth]

no. never. i looked after my autistic sister full time for a year and it made me want to curl up and die. it ****** me up so much.

it would be selfish of me to bring a disabled child into the world because i would resent it and though i wouldn't abuse it, i would most definitely not be as fulfilling a parent that i should be.

[lucaskf390]

@dbgtz
So, Only because the kid is limited. Doesn't have the right to live? Should abort all disabled kids?

"I couldn't cope with any disabilities which would make me take care of them for longer than a parent should."
When you have an parent-son experience, time won't matter... Life will flow. I feel egoism in your speech.

"It's not solely about the comfort of a parent, the child could be so disabled that their life is one of horrible quality."
Parents must help their children to have a good life.

I believe God create and people choose their choices. Poor quality life depends on what conditions it's created and educated.

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[buttons]

So, Only because the kid is limited. Doesn't have the right to live? Should abort all disabled kids?

"I couldn't cope with any disabilities which would make me take care of them for longer than a parent should."
When you have an parent-son experience, time won't matter... Life will flow. I feel egoism in your speech.

"It's not solely about the comfort of a parent, the child could be so disabled that their life is one of horrible quality."
Parents must help their children to have a good life.

I believe God create and people choose their choices. Poor quality life depends on what conditions it's created and educated.

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y doesn't god allow good people to have babies

[lucaskf390]

y doesn't god allow good people to have babies

What does 'good' means to you?

For me for a married and happy couple have a baby it's glory. Not a problem.