Abuse: Parents smacking children.

[Kardan]

do you both even know what a tap is....
because everyone i know was tapped as kid when we were little

and ya i use to watch my baby cousin

I would say a tap is simply making the lightest of contact with your hand with someone, so I wouldn't say people were 'tapped' as kids.

And I was just wondering because you're arguing with @Dilusionate; and I'm sure (if I remember correctly) he is either studying or working in the field of childcare - so he certainly knows what he's on about.

[!x!dude!x!2]

I would say a tap is simply making the lightest of contact with your hand with someone, so I wouldn't say people were 'tapped' as kids.

And I was just wondering because you're arguing with @Dilusionate; and I'm sure (if I remember correctly) he is either studying or working in the field of childcare - so he certainly knows what he's on about.

but everyone is raised different. maybe where he is they do something different. and maybe in america they do something different there aswell. but i know in Canada we tapped the kid slightly on the bum

[Phil]

do you both even know what a tap is....
because everyone i know was tapped as kid when we were little

and ya i use to watch my baby cousin

Yes but omg kids don't see it as a tap.

I swear if I say this once more Ill have to hellban myself to stop all the spamming. You tap child. Child taps other child. Because kids don't understand tap, they will hit.

but everyone is raised different. maybe where he is they do something different. and maybe in america they do something different there aswell. but i know in Canada we tapped the kid slightly on the bum

Where you live shouldn't determine how a child was raised


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[!x!dude!x!2]

Yes but omg kids don't see it as a tap.

I swear if I say this once more Ill have to hellban myself to stop all the spamming. You tap child. Child taps other child. Because kids don't understand tap, they will hit.



Where you live shouldn't determine how a child was raised


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actually you wouldn't believe it but in every country people raise their kids differently

[Phil]

actually you wouldn't believe it but in every country people raise their kids differently

Why wouldn't I believe it? Lol
Just because they are raised differently in every country doesn't mean they need to be


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[!x!dude!x!2]

Why wouldn't I believe it? Lol
Just because they are raised differently in every country doesn't mean they need to be


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but everyone is different. i've talked to a lot of people last and they did say they would tap their kid if they something wrong . but most of all you people on the other side of the world say you wouldnt

[Phil]

but everyone is different. i've talked to a lot of people last and they did say they would tap their kid if they something wrong . but most of all you people on the other side of the world say you wouldnt

I know but I'm arguing that its unnecessary


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[GommeInc]

Yes but omg kids don't see it as a tap.

I don't remember full on punching someone when I was child because I was tapped :/ What do you call a reasonably hard but not painful tap with just the fingers and no thumb (like a smack but more a fud)? Are we not raising parents who are just going to be afraid to touch their children? There's quite a few debates on this recently that it seems the new generations of children are being brought into a bubble wrapped lifestyle where's they're so mentally insecure and unstable, regardless of whether or not they were "abused" as children. Also isn't it strange to believe children turn to violence because of their parents? What if a child just punches someone because they're a brat?

I'm fascinated and you study it so it's all the more useful to ask these questions.

[Phil]

I don't remember full on punching someone when I was child because I was tapped :/ What do you call a reasonably hard but not painful tap with just the fingers and no thumb (like a smack but more a fud)? Are we not raising parents who are just going to be afraid to touch their children? There's quite a few debates on this recently that it seems the new generations of children are being brought into a bubble wrapped lifestyle where's they're so mentally insecure and unstable, regardless of whether or not they were "abused" as children. Also isn't it strange to believe children turn to violence because of their parents? What if a child just punches someone because they're a brat?

I'm fascinated and you study it so it's all the more useful to ask these questions.

Yeah but what parent taps their child, I tap someone if I want their attention in the club. I wouldn't call the four finger thing a tap but I wouldn't call it a slap either. This bit:

Are we not raising parents who are just going to be afraid to touch their children?

How? I don't really understand what you're getting at or asking here apologies

I disagree with new generations of children being bubblewrapped, I actually think they are far less bubblewrapped than recent generations (maybe it's just in my area). I think children are growing up far faster. You'd see 7 year olds walking on the street like they run the place! You also see a lot of young kids getting things like iPads for Christmas and birthday so this is exposing them to so much more than recent generations at a younger age.

Can you understand how if a child gets smacked that they may think it's okay to smack others? Well, and I've seen it happen, when a child hits another child and then the parent punishes them for doing it by smacking them, you can see how this could confuse the child.

What if a child just punches someone because they're a brat?

what about it?

[GommeInc]

Yeah but what parent taps their child, I tap someone if I want their attention in the club. I wouldn't call the four finger thing a tap but I wouldn't call it a slap either.

How else will you get their attention? Shouting at them seems scarier and surely scaring a child is generally considered a bad thing, because they will fear people? The alternatives to smacking seem to not be wanted either, from my understanding.

How? I don't really understand what you're getting at or asking here apologies

For instance, if a fight occurs - how do you remove the child? Man handling them is obviously a no-no, as you may injure the child in the process.

I disagree with new generations of children being bubblewrapped, I actually think they are far less bubblewrapped than recent generations (maybe it's just in my area). I think children are growing up far faster. You'd see 7 year olds walking on the street like they run the place! You also see a lot of young kids getting things like iPads for Christmas and birthday so this is exposing them to so much more than recent generations at a younger age.

That doesn't mean they're not bubble wrapped - that just means they're free to do what they want while wearing bubble wrap, if that makes sense? Like wrapping up a bird in bubble wrap and letting it fly free - it won't feel bumps and it is made to not feel the toils of every day life as an adult. Disappointment and even fear is a part of growing up, after all.

Can you understand how if a child gets smacked that they may think it's okay to smack others? Well, and I've seen it happen, when a child hits another child and then the parent punishes them for doing it by smacking them, you can see how this could confuse the child.

Isn't this just bad upbringing? If a child hits another child it isn't the only reason that they were smacked - they could just be brats like I said I'd say a tap of acknowledgement (not a smack) like you would an adult should go hand in hand with being sat down and taught right from wrong, by going down to their level and explaining why they're being an arse. A naughty chair is a silly idea as children do not reflect on what they do, they just get bored (from my experience at least). They need to be explained thing, which is probably where certain expressions such as "what, do you need to be explained everything like a child" come from