How much do others' impressions mean to you?

[Inseriousity.]

I'm happy with who I am so I don't mind if someone doesn't like me. I'll act myself and if someone doesn't like that then I just put it down to personality clash and leave it at that. As for online/offline, yes and no. My online persona is who I'd be if I was comfortable in your presence but like Shar, it takes a while for people to reach that stage with me so I tend to come across as shy and awkward. I also think it's a bit more subtle online. It's harder to tell online that someone is a little guarded with you at first cos you only tend to notice them when they're more relaxed. The only difference is probably how dirty I am, it's funny online, irl it'd just be creepy.

[crystaldd0]

I don't go out of my way to talk to people. Some people may see that as me being "stuck up" but really I'm just a shy person. I've learned not to care what people think about me, especially if they haven't taken the time to get to know me. As vain as this may sound, anyone who has taken the time to get to know me loves me. I don't act very different online than I do irl. I just have to warm up to people first. Some of my online friends know more about me than some of my irl friends do, but it works the other way around too. Depending on how close of a relationship I build with someone online, that determines what I share with them about my "real life". Based on other peoples "impressions" I can instantly determine if we're going to get a long or not. Again, you may mistake this as me being stuck up but, I've grown tired of trying to make friends with people. It never works for me, and no one gives anything back in return. I can easily talk to people and have a decent conversation when first meeting but, if that first conversation doesn't give me the vibe that we can relate then I'm not going to go out of my way to talk to you often.

[Brad]

My online/offline self is pretty much the same. A lot of my friends see both sides. I am a very extroverted person, and with that- it's hard not to be extroverted online. If that makes sense. Haha


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[e5]

I like a compliment but if someone slagged me off if doesn't affect my life in any way as no one knows you that well online. I probably can't show my true colours on here as everyone is so different, it would be hard :p

[Kyle]

definitely agree with most of u guys, offline impressions mean so much more than online. not too bothered if someone on forum for example takes a disliking to me, but maybe that is because I feel confident in my ability to persuade them otherwise when the time comes. irl that's harder, cos it's all about the here and now and if someone thinks I'm a *** they are gonna be less likely to budge on that. also following some of these opinion threads it appears i come across as sarcastic and cynical and even harsh to some people which I don't set out to do and dont really want to be seen like that. tone in text is far too often misconstrued i think.

it's interesting how different contexts within the online/offline contexts themselves can produce different presentations of the self too, like some people on habboxforum where theyve been for years will post anything they like but on a different forum or in a different online setting they might not. same with how people act different around friends and family. i definitely would not act exactly as i do with my friends if my family were thre or i knew they were watching, it would just be weird. which is why the tv show sun bobba suspicious parents is so interesting!!!!

impressions are much easier to manage and control online than off cos I can regulate it properly. for example not showing everybody what I look like or telling them about certain things means they are less likely to form opinions based on superficial traits and more likely to form a truer and more accurate 1. irl I guess it's harder to keep that sort of stuff in, it's just stuff that's expected to be shared and makes a difference to their impression.

[Absently]

I'm exactly the same as I am offline and online. I am extremely open about everything because its what makes me who I am. Obviously in certain situations I tone down the real me when appropriate.

On here if someone doesn't like me I will dwell on it in my head for a few minutes then will swiftly get over it as generally I've found that perception of me is not the real me, just some personified parts of my personality, like a misinterpretation. Or I've found that some people online don't tend to like me because I've gone out of my way to be annoying just because that's funny to me.

Offline I don't think I'm too bothered either? I might think about it if the person was mentioned in a conversation but I'd soon forget about them.

I assume I care more about the online impression as people use you and your past against you, but offline no one has the guts to.

[Red]

definitely agree with most of u guys, offline impressions mean so much more than online. not too bothered if someone on forum for example takes a disliking to me, but maybe that is because I feel confident in my ability to persuade them otherwise when the time comes. irl that's harder, cos it's all about the here and now and if someone thinks I'm a *** they are gonna be less likely to budge on that. also following some of these opinion threads it appears i come across as sarcastic and cynical and even harsh to some people which I don't set out to do and dont really want to be seen like that. tone in text is far too often misconstrued i think.

it's interesting how different contexts within the online/offline contexts themselves can produce different presentations of the self too, like some people on habboxforum where theyve been for years will post anything they like but on a different forum or in a different online setting they might not. same with how people act different around friends and family. i definitely would not act exactly as i do with my friends if my family were thre or i knew they were watching, it would just be weird. which is why the tv show sun bobba suspicious parents is so interesting!!!!

impressions are much easier to manage and control online than off cos I can regulate it properly. for example not showing everybody what I look like or telling them about certain things means they are less likely to form opinions based on superficial traits and more likely to form a truer and more accurate 1. irl I guess it's harder to keep that sort of stuff in, it's just stuff that's expected to be shared and makes a difference to their impression.

If you are crafting an impression you want to give of online by holding things back and only telling them certain things, it isn't truer or accurate though. It's not really you. I am the same online as offline. I don't really hold much back. I show people what I look like and the people I am close to online I confide in. They will know what is going on in my real life, and will have me on fb etc. It doesn't cross my mind, what impression I am giving of to people and I don't consciously think I need to tone it down or whatever. Only time I think I would do that is when I am meeting people inrl for the first time.

[Kyle]

If you are crafting an impression you want to give of online by holding things back and only telling them certain things, it isn't truer or accurate though. It's not really you. I am the same online as offline. I don't really hold much back. I show people what I look like and the people I am close to online I confide in. They will know what is going on in my real life, and will have me on fb etc. It doesn't cross my mind, what impression I am giving of to people and I don't consciously think I need to tone it down or whatever. Only time I think I would do that is when I am meeting people inrl for the first time.

actually no. It's not that I'm shaping myself to appear a certain way, it's that I'm holding back some unimportant factors that have the potential to effect people's perception. and they do. just as, for example, a certain social standing might make somebody appear more trustworthy, there are numerous factors that can have all sort of impacts online. irl the main ones will be basic social groups - class, as mentioned and age, where people are seen immediately as immature or w.e until they reach a certain age, as seen even in the lawmaking process, are 2 prominent examples. sexuality and mental disorders are 2 others which are often hidden away. when you take away that chance people have to form their views based on things that don't define who you are, I think it is truer and more accurate.

[-:Undertaker:-]

Not sure really, I think my writing style comes across as more harsh so even on here when i'm not being harsh I may seem harsh. Obviously in speech it's easier to convey how you really feel whereas with written language it's not.

But yeah I can't really think of any differences other than that?

[-Moniquee.]

I think in real life I am a lot more defensive. Like I always stick up for myself if someone says anything about me/ people close to me. Whereas online I generally don't because I don't really know the person that has said anything.

Anyone that has tuned into any of my DJ shows would know I really like to talk but in real life I don't talk as much (I still talk a fair bit.)

I think I am a little more open to some people online because a lot of people online I find are people like me.

I don't think I 'change' in either worlds. I am still me, I am always myself.