Spanking

[Jurv]

no i don't agree with it at all

i don't agree with any form of physical punishment unless you're defending yourself from an attack

[scottish]

Nothing. I'm asking as I've never watched supernanny, so I have no idea what she does to try to control the kids.

[-:Undertaker:-]

i've never had any violent tendencies towards anyone in my life, arguing with siblings etc i'd never dream of lashing out at anyone
why would i suddenly have them with my child? really don't think i will

If your child won't listen to you and is out of control then you will, and if you don't then the child may go out of control which would make you a bad parent because you didn't nip the bad behaviour in the bud when they first started acting up. It's all very well talking about 'alternatives' like a naughty step or no television, but sometimes children just don't care and will push and push until somebody shows them where the boundary is.

I remember doing it to my parents, and I remember much more vividly doing it to teachers - who I knew couldn't touch me.

[Lewis]

I love everyone on here saying how they won't smack their little Johnny when they've got children because there are 'alternatives'... well we'll see how you feel when little Johnny won't listen or pay attention to your 'alternatives', your blood is boiling and he's asking for a right crack.

Meh, I don't plan on having children anyway. There are definitely alternatives, the only reason you should hit a child back is in self defense -- unless it's the like of a five year old.

[Jurv]

just lock them in their room with no electrical stuff and no wifi and they'll learn their lesson x

[Empired]

If your child won't listen to you and is out of control then you will, and if you don't then the child may go out of control which would make you a bad parent because you didn't nip the bad behaviour in the bud when they first started acting up. It's all very well talking about 'alternatives' like a naughty step or no television, but sometimes children just don't care and will push and push until somebody shows them where the boundary is.

I remember doing it to my parents, and I remember much more vividly doing it to teachers - who I knew couldn't touch me.

Reinforcing good behaviour is shown to work better for teaching a child to behave than attacking them for bad behaviour.

If your child won't listen to you and is out of control then it is your own fault. If you don't make them apologise when they're younger, they won't apologise when they're older. If you don't set boundaries when they're younger, they won't stick to them later. If you don't make them sit on the bottom step when they're younger (five minutes can seem like five years when you're four), they won't stay put in years to come. If you don't justify why they need to (not) do something when they're younger, they won't bother to try and see from your point of view once they've grown up.

If your child only responds to you hitting them, it means you've left it too late. It's not the child's fault for their bad behaviour, it's because the parent could not be bothered to teach the child to be better when they were younger. Parenting is an absolute bore sometimes but if you don't get on and do it it'll become a thousand times harder.

I remember a teacher a few years ago telling me she once sent a girl out of her classroom to sit on the stairs just outside and she was outraged. When this teacher asked her why she'd never been told to sit on the bottom step before, she apparently just said when I was little and I was naughty mum thought it was cute. By the time she realised it wasn't cute it was too late.

[Kardan]

Kids really give in incredibly fast when you take their possessions away from them. The times as a kid where I was sent to my room with nothing to do, I thought to myself every time: "I'll show them. I'll stay in here for days and they'll be the ones saying sorry", and within about 20 minutes I would have come back downstairs and apologise because I was bored out of my head.

[Metric1]

I love rough play

[scottish]

anyone who replies in a sexual manner is a pedo as I stated in the first post 'child'

@xxMATTGxx; contact the local authorities

[dbgtz]

Absolutely.


But in all seriousness, I think it's only effective if used infrequently. I've only been smacked once, but it sticks with me and has actually affected how I behave in front of my parents, in a good way from most angles. I think smacking can have negative side effects when it's over used and should remain as a last resort.