meeting people in uni [HELP]

[kuzkasate]

okay so I enrolled at uni yesterday, I am living off campus (commuting there by train) and obviously because it's freshers week I want to meet some new people - not even for the fact of going out for freshers or anything like that because I went to freshers here in Manchester (where I live) so I feel kind of drained (I know it's not exactly the same as going to your own freshers). I just don't want to be a loner lol.

But yeah I don't really know what to do, I mean I could wait till my lectures etc start and hopefully find someone there but I wanted to meet a few people before that, preferably not doing the same course as me. I just don't know how because I don't know a single person at the uni, I'm not living in uni accommodation so I won't meet anyone from there.

There are loads of events on this week, even today on Sunday and I wanna go to some of them because they seem fun but I can't really see myself turning up to them on my own lol, I will look like a desperate saddo and I don't want to find a random person/people and tag along.

Any advice? I realise there isn't much I can really do but maybe some of you want to share your stories of how you made friends at uni?

p.s. I'm half tempted to just get the train there now because I want to have a look round the campus again and maybe I'll meet someone idk

[The Don]

I don't think you would look desperate if you went on your own... Everyone at Freshers is in the same boat as you and looking to meet new friends. You're at a disadvantage because most people go out with their flat mates for the first few weeks until they've made proper friends so that they aren't on their own. I'm sure it wouldn't be too hard to mingle and meet some people if you went on your own, but obviously that requires a certain degree of confidence. If you don't feel like that, then wait until Uni starts properly and join some clubs/talk to people on your course etc. There are tons of ways to meet new people at Uni and whilst freshers is a big part of it, it's not the only way to meet new people! I've had some of my best nights out when I've gotten separated from friends and ended up with a completely random bunch of people. If you act fun and make an effort with people you'll have such a better time.

[-:Undertaker:-]

Can't really advise... I made my friends because we were on the same university hall.

That said, a lot of people make friends in their lessons where as I haven't really had chance as I am stretched across three subject areas so I rarely see the same people all that often, even less so when new modules come up. A friend who does Geography has made a few friends in his class because Geography has really long lessons/sessions and it's a close-knit group.

[kuzkasate]

I don't think you would look desperate if you went on your own... Everyone at Freshers is in the same boat as you and looking to meet new friends. You're at a disadvantage because most people go out with their flat mates for the first few weeks until they've made proper friends so that they aren't on their own. I'm sure it wouldn't be too hard to mingle and meet some people if you went on your own, but obviously that requires a certain degree of confidence. If you don't feel like that, then wait until Uni starts properly and join some clubs/talk to people on your course etc. There are tons of ways to meet new people at Uni and whilst freshers is a big part of it, it's not the only way to meet new people! I've had some of my best nights out when I've gotten separated from friends and ended up with a completely random bunch of people. If you act fun and make an effort with people you'll have such a better time.

yeah, I'd say I was a pretty confident person but I'm not the sort of person that would approach someone first if that makes sense. Unless I felt like I really had to, say it was awkward or something.

Can't really advise... I made my friends because we were on the same university hall.

That said, a lot of people make friends in their lessons where as I haven't really had chance as I am stretched across three subject areas so I rarely see the same people all that often, even less so when new modules come up. A friend who does Geography has made a few friends in his class because Geography has really long lessons/sessions and it's a close-knit group.

It looks like I will have to rely mostly on making friends that way too, but I am going to find out about societies and stuff as well. Apparently today their was a free BBQ for commuters (which I wasn't told about, I found out from their Twitter page) so that was a bit of a **** take because it would have been full of people who are in the same boat, so now I feel like I am at a disadvantage x2.

[Samantha]

@branch; I've just seen your student card on Facebook so I'm going to do some matchmaking here.
@Kyle; you go to the same university as him, go meet him and he can have a friend!

Also, my sister started university last week - on the Hudd crawl she sort of got ditched and just randomly went with other people, kepy jumping to others and found her now boyfriend from it plus friends beside. I think that'd be great to you - I understand you might not want to 'make the first move,' but the other person might feel the same way too!

[Shar]

Go to the SU, go to any student nights and just basically start up a random conversation!

[Kyle]

what u studyin branch can you tutor me russian

[Amberr]

The way I made friends with alot of people at uni was through facebook groups and I found a subject specific group so I basically knew all the people on my course before I even arrived at uni so there maybe something similar for your uni you could try? dont feel like a 'saddo' going to clubs on your own, thats what they are there for is for you to find new people who are interested in the same thing. just go for it otherwise you will only regret not going.

[Kyle]

By the way u missed the free BBQ for off campus students. Go to all events, you will 100% meet people there. And yes Fb groups are wonderful, as are societies.


~~from phone

[kuzkasate]

@branch; I've just seen your student card on Facebook so I'm going to do some matchmaking here.
@Kyle; you go to the same university as him, go meet him and he can have a friend!

Also, my sister started university last week - on the Hudd crawl she sort of got ditched and just randomly went with other people, kepy jumping to others and found her now boyfriend from it plus friends beside. I think that'd be great to you - I understand you might not want to 'make the first move,' but the other person might feel the same way too!

yeah that's what I mean if I had people to go out with it would be cool but going clubbing on your own is slightly sad

Go to the SU, go to any student nights and just basically start up a random conversation!

yeah I think there are some on this week, so I'm going to give them a try

what u studyin branch can you tutor me russian

I'm studying Biomedical Sciences lol, still don't know where half my lectures are though because the campus is so big (well it seems like that to me anyway) but yeah free Russian for u

The way I made friends with alot of people at uni was through facebook groups and I found a subject specific group so I basically knew all the people on my course before I even arrived at uni so there maybe something similar for your uni you could try? dont feel like a 'saddo' going to clubs on your own, thats what they are there for is for you to find new people who are interested in the same thing. just go for it otherwise you will only regret not going.

My friend said the same thing actually, but she's in Nottingham so idk but I don't think I can force myself to go on my own lol, but I have two lectures today and a meeting with my personal tutor on Wednesday so I can meet some people there hopefully

By the way u missed the free BBQ for off campus students. Go to all events, you will 100% meet people there. And yes Fb groups are wonderful, as are societies.


~~from phone

yeah I know man I found out from their Twitter page yesterday half way through and then I started going through all the stuff they gave me at enrolment and apparently I had this voucher for a free burger lol