Earning more than your partner

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mostly aimed at people who date the opposite sex but feel free to answer/give ur input


girls; how would u feel about earning more than ur man?
boys; how would u feel earning less than ya woman?

i used to think there was no way possible that i would want to earn more than my partner if they were male BUT now i actually think it would be a boost to my confidence? i don't think @scottish; would mind either since we both pay our bills equally so it shouldn't matter what we're earning as long as we're paying our share.

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[Kyle]

I can't say I really mind either way, it is quite nice to go to dinner with somebody and have similar sized meals just so we finish together. Definitely couldn't deal with someone eating a lettuce leaf and a grain of rice, it'd make me feel bad eating around them. As for eating less than a woman, I have odd eating habits where I go days without eating sometimes, so I don't see it being an issue or a threat to my masculinity or whatever.

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I can't say I really mind either way, it is quite nice to go to dinner with somebody and have similar sized meals just so we finish together. Definitely couldn't deal with someone eating a lettuce leaf and a grain of rice, it'd make me feel bad eating around them. As for eating less than a woman, I have odd eating habits where I go days without eating sometimes, so I don't see it being an issue or a threat to my masculinity or whatever.

did u read my thread as 'eating more than your partner'

[Inseriousity.]

i used to think there was no way possible that i would want to earn more than my partner if they were male

really? why?
Your wage (and career) is such a personal thing that I can't imagine someone deliberately choosing to earn less than their partner (excluding men or women who decide to stay at home and bring up the kids but that's not really about money).

If a woman earned more than me I wouldn't have a problem with it because my male pride is more about celebrating my own personal achievements rather than it being threatened by someone else's.

[Cerys]

Personally I don't really mind. Aslong as we both earn a really decent amount at the height of our career I'm not too bothered!

If there's a massive gap though it'd make me feel a bit dfkjgnkjreg e.g one of us earns 18k and the other 40k. One of us is clearly gonna leach from the other at one point and it's gonna end terribly (i say this from my own experience haha)

[Kyle]

yes I am laughing so much

I'm so hungry I've only eaten an apple today cos they were giving them free at the library and I just read that thread about weight

as for earning... I'm not really very money-driven, so long as my partner and I both enjoy what we do it wouldn't cross my mind how much we each earn. I guess if I earnt less it would be a little bit odd since that's not really how it goes and there's stigma attached to guys who are reliant on their partners but if we're both on a living wage and able to support ourselves then yeah I'm cool with earning a little and being happy.

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really? why?
Your wage (and career) is such a personal thing that I can't imagine someone deliberately choosing to earn less than their partner (excluding men or women who decide to stay at home and bring up the kids but that's not really about money).

If a woman earned more than me I wouldn't have a problem with it because my male pride is more about celebrating my own personal achievements rather than it being threatened by someone else's.

because i was like 11 and liked the idea of a much richer hubby? not saying i would have chose a job with a lesser income, no way, just that i thought i wouldn't be happy in a marriage where im 'superior' to my man. like i say i was young and my thoughts were men earn women cook/clean obviously now i realize a woman is more than her man and that one day i/we might have to live on only my wage! (Happened to my parents. My dad earned. Mum cooked/cleaned. They split up. My mum got into debt and found it difficult to get a job after being out of one for so long).

[e5]

me and my gf earn around the same. I'd like to earn more than her so I can treat her more and pay for things more, but we have the same out goings so both just as skint as each other haha. works well really though

[Inseriousity.]

Personally I don't really mind. Aslong as we both earn a really decent amount at the height of our career I'm not too bothered!

If there's a massive gap though it'd make me feel a bit dfkjgnkjreg e.g one of us earns 18k and the other 40k. One of us is clearly gonna leach from the other at one point and it's gonna end terribly (i say this from my own experience haha)

were you dating a sugar daddy cerys i am shocked
or did you win the lottery and not tell us

[Cerys]

were you dating a sugar daddy cerys i am shocked
or did you win the lottery and not tell us

WHAT could be both, who knows oo

no i mean thats how my parents were and it ended awfully due to the money issues like cos my dad leached
E.G the xbox broke so we sent it off for repair and my dad used my mums money to buy another xbox specifically to use for the week we didnt have our old one . .