Abuse in relationships?

[Catzsy]

You have a bf? Damn.

I dont understand how people take physical abuse. I would feel so uncomfortable around the person.

You would feel uncomfortable? Imagine how they would feel.

[Seatherny]

You would feel uncomfortable? Imagine how they would feel.

Knowing that I had hit the person, I would feel guilty all the time. How can the girl still love the person knowing how violent they are is weird.

[Tash.]

Knowing that I had hit the person, I would feel guilty all the time. How can the girl still love the person knowing how violent they are is weird.

It's not always men being violent to women though, it works both ways. Sometimes men are reluctant to break it off with violent women. It's hard to admit that something needs to end and that you have to let go of someone you love.

[Sharon]

It's not as easy as ''Oh you punched me it's over'' - I'd assume that after they hitted you they were VERY apologetic and it's not easy so yeah it's an issue thats not easy to solve so thats why the gov has spend a lot on adverts.

[Becca]

Because that's exactly the reason. He punches you, you punches back and then where does it end? Quite honestly I am sure just as many girls abuse boys as the other way round. The main reason though is that some girls/boys are not as confident and their partners capitilise upon this to control them by way of abuse be it verbal or physical or emotional. I think the purpose of the advert is to start educating the young people so that the amount of domestic violence may go down in years to come.

You do have a point. I was just thinking giving a kind of attitude. But yes, it would probably leave to a lot of violence.

[MrGazet]

Yes,I don't really get but then I've never been in an abusive relationship.

Well,my dad hit my mum and they are divorced now for good but I understand it's not really that easy to chuck people out our life when they abuse you.

Simply,I think people take abuses because they love their partner too much and they feel so weak and powerless that they couldn't walk away from that abusive relationship

[N-Dubz]

It's never easy to walk away from a relationship, because when you think you love someone you tend to believe what they tell you. It's like when somebody cheats on you, and they say they'll never do it again, you could believe it ... When someone says they wont hit you again/ control you again, why wouldn't you believe this either? The advert is aimed mainly at young people, who are naive about this sort of abuse. When you're just hitting early adult, sometimes you think it's just 'you' exaggerating. Abusers in relationships are normally very manipulating, and it's easy to say you could just walk away but it's never as easy as that, and you can't really comment on it till you've been through it.

[Pyroka]

I've been in a abusive relationship before, tbh it was both of us being abusive to eachother. Amazed how it lasted so long, guess its like what everyones been saying in this thread, it's hard to break away even if they are abusive and make you feel ****. I've never punched a girl whilst going out with them though, but my patience got pushed to the limit once (and seriously, I'm a saint when it comes to putting up with people). I'm amazed that nobody on the forum has been in an abusive relationship... but then you only realise after you've broken with them that something was up.