Abuse in relationships?

[Becca]

I've seen the advert for Abuse In Relationships and I think it's kind of stupid. Who wouldn't stand for this? I don't think you would stand there and take what him/her is saying. In my case, if a boy was doing that to me I'd probably punch them in the face or something.

What would you do? :S

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[Seatherny]

Its on the radio all the time in Manchester. I think a lot of people do get abused by their partners - not necessarily bf/gf.

[Special]

I've never been in a abusive relationship but i've heard of stories of people who have.

It's easy for us to say 'Yeah why don't you just walk away it's not hard' but in reality it is very hard

Think about it - if it was that easy, would the government really spend millions of pounds on an advert?

[Suspective]

It is a problem, and happens on a regular basis.

I wouldn't advise you punch them in the face though.

[GoldenMerc]

Uhm, yeh i thought the same a few years ago when people said oh dont stand for it ect... But learning from past experiance one of my mates (whos female) her bf is proper horrible to her, yet she takes it. Shes not allowed any lads to contact her, text her anything, if he finds out he thinks shes cheating and goes mad about it. Shes stupid though i spoke to her last night and said just end it (its been 8 months and he proposed to her last month and she said yes :S) and she was like i cant cos my parents know him too well and stuff :/ its so horrible hes a proper moron.

[Catzsy]

I've seen the advert for Abuse In Relationships and I think it's kind of stupid. Who wouldn't stand for this? I don't think you would stand there and take what him/her is saying. In my case, if a boy was doing that to me I'd probably punch them in the face or something.

What would you do? :S

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Because that's exactly the reason. He punches you, you punches back and then where does it end? Quite honestly I am sure just as many girls abuse boys as the other way round. The main reason though is that some girls/boys are not as confident and their partners capitilise upon this to control them by way of abuse be it verbal or physical or emotional. I think the purpose of the advert is to start educating the young people so that the amount of domestic violence may go down in years to come.

[buttons]

cause they "love" them
some people really believe it's their fault it's happening and that they're actually lucky to have their partner or that they'll change.
like my brother and his girlfriend constantly argue and according to her he's beat her up (wouldn't put it behind them but they're as bad as each other). first thing i said to her was "why don't you end it then:S", some people are too scared to but she says it's because she loves him so meh.


thinking of it, my bf is agressive (not to me..... so far:rolleyes and if he hit me i couldn't see myself breaking up with him even though i know i should...

[Gibs960]

If you've heard an abusive relationship then you'd know one and you feel really small and stupid and they make you not want to leave, my dad made my mum feel like that.

[Seatherny]

cause they "love" them
some people really believe it's their fault it's happening and that they're actually lucky to have their partner or that they'll change.
like my brother and his girlfriend constantly argue and according to her he's beat her up (wouldn't put it behind them but they're as bad as each other). first thing i said to her was "why don't you end it then:S", some people are too scared to but she says it's because she loves him so meh.


thinking of it, my bf is agressive (not to me..... so far:rolleyes and if he hit me i couldn't see myself breaking up with him even though i know i should...

You have a bf? Damn.

I dont understand how people take physical abuse. I would feel so uncomfortable around the person.

[Tash.]

It's not common sense really, it's all very easy to say "oh dump them" but when you're emotionally involved with someone it's not that simple. No matter who tells you otherwise you aren't going to want to simply cut out a person from your life who you love and depend on, even if they aren't nice to you in any way.