[+rep] Asking this girl out...

[Samantha]

I don't think it would be a good idea. No offence but you are still young at 14/15, I didn't even want my first boyfriend until the actual age of 13, then eventually got one at 14, but I did honestly realise that I wasn't ready; I was a late developer and now I know I would like one at 16; I've matured over the years.

Take it this way Robbie, me and my friend we've been friends for 9 years, this is our 10th year, we were always in each others class and form so I established a connection with him. But it wasn't all one sided, although we were just friends, he always sat with me regardless if it was boy girl boy girl and at the christmas party, we had to pick a boy we both said "you" at the same time, and although it was nice, i never thought of him in that way.

Anyway, we went upto high school, and we were the closest friends ever but everyone thought we were dating - when we weren't (hence why I don't like it when people say we're dating robbie.) anyway, I never thought of him as more, and vice versa, then eventually, when I did want a boyfriend, yeah we had grown apart, that was because of my ex physco best friend she drove me away from him, I regret leaving him, and he's now in a band, and we still see each other time to time in college but it's not the same. So when I did start liking him (pretty much like you are with her) he wouldn't go that way with me. We had a serious heart to heart one night a couple of years ago, I wasn't his type, his type was hard to explain etc.

What I'm saying is, I feel you are A. Only meant to be friends or B. Too young to establish a relationship.

[koony]

The friend zone can be circumvented.

Although this sounds like a long distance relationship, which can be sort of unhealthy, also you're still really young, so don't think about "love". Almost 90% Percent of relationships fail disregarding age, the point is to enjoy the time you have.

Other than that:
Make her laugh, the womenz like laughs. If she's good enough to be your close friend she's good enough to be your gf, which is usually the best option to go for.
Make sure your contact with her improves, such as speaking in person or over the phone. No more of this IM stuff.

If she agrees to meet up, that would be good, otherwise over the phone. Women like confidence, they don't like men that are over confident though.

If it doesn't happen it's not going to happen, let go.

[Conservative,]

The friend zone can be circumvented.

Although this sounds like a long distance relationship, which can be sort of unhealthy, also you're still really young, so don't think about "love". Almost 90% Percent of relationships fail disregarding age, the point is to enjoy the time you have.

Other than that:
Make her laugh, the womenz like laughs. If she's good enough to be your close friend she's good enough to be your gf, which is usually the best option to go for.
Make sure your contact with her improves, such as speaking in person or over the phone. No more of this IM stuff.

If she agrees to meet up, that would be good, otherwise over the phone. Women like confidence, they don't like men that are over confident though.

If it doesn't happen it's not going to happen, let go.

It's not long distance - she goes to the school next to my school, but she lives on the other side of the school, so it'd be double the distance to walk there.

Anyway, it's true what you say - I need to improve my contact with her, and I'm not intending to go straight in as soon as I get her number back. I want to pick our friendship up where we left off.

And yeah, if she says no I'll move on lol.

[FlyingJesus]

Just re-read this and -

haven't seen each other properly for the past 3 years
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I think we were barely 13
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I'll be 15 in a few months

Looks to me like you asked her out and since then she hasn't wanted to talk to you much, not exactly the mark of someone saying no because they value your friendship. Unless you suddenly got really rich or really hot I'd very much advise not going for it

[Conservative,]

Just re-read this and -



Looks to me like you asked her out and since then she hasn't wanted to talk to you much, not exactly the mark of someone saying no because they value your friendship. Unless you suddenly got really rich or really hot I'd very much advise not going for it

We didn't talk as much before that anyway...we haven't exactly talked a lot since Secondary school because we don't go to the same school. I asked her at the beginning of year 8, before that we hadn't talked much, I was kinda stupid asking her out without talking to her first, but still.

I know what you're saying - We don't talk much so it seems like we're not best friends after that, but I trust her word. I need to talk to her properly again, she even said after she said no "I still want to be friends and talk and that" but I just haven't seen her since because she's always at Dance Festivals, and when she's not I'm at ski races. Lol.

[wiktoria]

Ask if she would like to go to the cinema with you..then maybe talk to her on the way there or afterwards If you end up going out and you break up it will probably ruin your friendship so I wouldn't bother.

[kuzkasate]

Just try be sweet to her, complement her, but dont go over the top. You definately need to start talking to her more and seeing eachother out side of school.

I am sort of in the same situation, I have liked this girl for 3 years.. we are like best friends. We both want to go out, but we are both worried that it will destroy the friendship. I suppose you gotta think, is it worth taking the risk?

[Conservative,]

Just try be sweet to her, complement her, but dont go over the top. You definately need to start talking to her more and seeing eachother out side of school.

I am sort of in the same situation, I have liked this girl for 3 years.. we are like best friends. We both want to go out, but we are both worried that it will destroy the friendship. I suppose you gotta think, is it worth taking the risk?

Exactly lol. And as I've said, I would need to see her more if I were to ask her out...I really like her as a friend, but I want to take it further...whether or not she does I have no idea LOL.

[kuzkasate]

Exactly lol. And as I've said, I would need to see her more if I were to ask her out...I really like her as a friend, but I want to take it further...whether or not she does I have no idea LOL.

Well to be honest.. I was like that for a while.. I wanted to ask her straight "do you like me?" but I feared that maybe she would take it the wrong way.. but I thought, oh what the hell, you only live once & if she falls out with me, then shes a daft cow. So I asked her and she said yes.. that changed throught the 3 years, believe me! But we never actually got together even though we did do stuff, if that makes sense. TBH, I just dont see the point in not going out with her, because shes scared it will ruin our friendship, yet shes the one that comes onto me most of the time... but thats women for you.

[Conservative,]

Well to be honest.. I was like that for a while.. I wanted to ask her straight "do you like me?" but I feared that maybe she would take it the wrong way.. but I thought, oh what the hell, you only live once & if she falls out with me, then shes a daft cow. So I asked her and she said yes.. that changed throught the 3 years, believe me! But we never actually got together even though we did do stuff, if that makes sense. TBH, I just dont see the point in not going out with her, because shes scared it will ruin our friendship, yet shes the one that comes onto me most of the time... but thats women for you.

Lol haha...well idk, as I said, I did ask her a few years ago, and she said she didn't want to for the reasons I stated (didn't want to ruin our friendship ect.) but now we're older and that...I'd like to try again, but I don't know I need to talk to her...hmm I'll ask her mate for her number