[+rep] Asking this girl out...

[Conservative,]

Ok so I really like this girl...

we've known each other for 10 years, but haven't seen each other properly for the past 3 years, and haven't talked more than a few brief convos on facebook...

I've liked her for about 5 years, and I did get the courage to ask her out, but she said she didn't want to for a few reasons:

We were too young (I think we were barely 13)
She thought it would ruin our friendship
She thought it would be a bit weird because we were close friends

Anyway, I kinda want to ask her out again, just to see what she says. I'll be 15 in a few months, so I might wait till then, but I'd like some advice on how to ask her...like where, when, how ect. Addressing the problems she brought up last time, so how I could explain that I'd never want to lose her as a friend even if it didn't work and all of that...

I don't live that close to her so I can't go round her house, I was thinking about waiting for her after school one day?

Anyway, +rep to good/helpful comments...

[Deak]

Try to talk to her more often, have a laugh, ask her if she wants to go out sometime.
Regarding meeting up with her the best thing to do is tell her that you are going to meet her after school as she may take it the wrong way... she may like it or she may find it weird...

Good luck on getting your girl

[Callum.]

How can you like someone without properly meeting up, talking etc. You just think you do, or it's beauty.

[Conservative,]

Try to talk to her more often, have a laugh, ask her if she wants to go out sometime.
Regarding meeting up with her the best thing to do is tell her that you are going to meet her after school as she may take it the wrong way... she may like it or she may find it weird...

Good luck on getting your girl

Ok thanks

I will try to talk to her - I lost her mobile when I got a new phone, and now apparently she's changed it. I'll have to try and get it.

And tbh, meeting up with her after school, I'd probably have to like say if she wanted to go to the park or something, because I don't know if she'd take it the wrong way x]

Anyway, thanks +rep (if I can LOL).

@Callum, I've seen her a few times in the last couple of years on the way to school or shopping or something, and she is by no means the most beautiful girl in the world, yes she's nice, but I like her because we're relatively close, and she has a nice personality.

[cocaine]

you're in the friend zone! advice: move on!

[Conservative,]

you're in the friend zone! advice: move on!

Don't get it?

[cocaine]

"we've known each other for 10 years"
"She thought it would be a bit weird because we were close friends"
"I'd never want to lose her as a friend even if it didn't work and all of that"

you've been estalished as a friend for too long for her to consider you as more, and in the case she does decide you could be more feelings of awkwardness or uneasiness could occur due to your 'friendship' taking a new level

[FlyingJesus]

As much as I don't believe in the friend zone (only like 2 of my conquests weren't friends beforehand) in this case I don't think it'll end well. You can have all the confidence in the world and a girl who doesn't want to be with you like that still won't take the bait - even if the bait is huge, believe me.

If you absolutely must go ahead with it, your best bet is not to ask at all but just make a move. I was told a couple of years back that if I kept telling people to get their crushes/sisters/teachers drunk and sleep with them I'd get in trouble, but frankly the amount of terrible decisions I've seen women make when they've had a raspberry sambucca spritzer or three makes my advice invaluable, and it really is the best way.

[Special]

before you ask her out i think it would be wise to get to know her.. 3 years is a pretty long time even with small meet ups & convos

see how that goes, you never knwo your feelings might have changed after all

[Conservative,]

+rep to All tomorrow.

I agree I'd need to properly meet up with her first. When I last asked her out she said she would reconsider if I asked her when we were older. If I wait until after Xmas it will have been roughly 2 years and i suppose that is a fair time.

But I Think cocaine what you're gettin at is what she was trying to say. It probably would be awkward certainly to start. Id like to try though because as I've said I've likes her for 5 years and I think I'll regret it later in life if I don't ask.