Should I try and make it work, or just walk away?

[Narnat,]

@FlyingJesus - So your saying if you dont love the same girl for 4 years you dont love her at all? Yeah cause that works :|. + I dont want her to just talk and see me, I dont give a **** who she talks to, I just want her to talk to me every so often.

@ @K Yeah, but as said, I get paranoid really easily, if she doesnt text me I think she doesnt want to talk to me so I wont text her.

wow, you asked for help and FlyingJesus was just saying his opinion. :/

secondly! - People move on and people grow apart it's a part of life. Thats something I have had to learn.

[FlyingJesus]

@FlyingJesus - So your saying if you dont love the same girl for 4 years you dont love her at all? Yeah cause that works :|. + I dont want her to just talk and see me, I dont give a **** who she talks to, I just want her to talk to me every so often.

No I'm saying that if you get like this about every girl you start seeing then it's clearly not about them, it's about you. As for talking to you every so often it sounds like she does (despite you being paranoid and controlling about someone you're not even with...) just not alllllll the time like you're after. She was busy and then had family problems so didn't text you for one day, but you didn't think about that you just thought OH MY GOD SHE HATES ME I NEED TO HAVE A GO AT HER AND MAKE HER FEEL BAD ABOUT MY OWN INSECURITIES. You didn't go to meet up with her when you said you would, did she tell you to go die or was she kind and friendly by texting you even though she was out with friends?

[Danzilla]

Dude not being funny but you need to chill out.
I agree with FlyingJesus. I mean so what if she didnt text you the next day? Come on man.
Not in saying this in a harsh way but you need to pull it together. OBVIOUSLY its never going to work, you have said so pretty much yourself.

[-Adam]

No I'm saying that if you get like this about every girl you start seeing then it's clearly not about them, it's about you. As for talking to you every so often it sounds like she does (despite you being paranoid and controlling about someone you're not even with...) just not alllllll the time like you're after. She was busy and then had family problems so didn't text you for one day, but you didn't think about that you just thought OH MY GOD SHE HATES ME I NEED TO HAVE A GO AT HER AND MAKE HER FEEL BAD ABOUT MY OWN INSECURITIES. You didn't go to meet up with her when you said you would, did she tell you to go die or was she kind and friendly by texting you even though she was out with friends?

I never actually had a go about it, i thought i came across nicely in the first message but then she took it seriously :/. As for the 'didnt meet up with her' stuff, I really didnt think about it like that, I guess your right on that one :\.

Also, we was talkin a tiny bit tonight, and she I asked her what was wrong, and she said she didnt want to talk about it, and when I said I hope her problems get sorted, she said, 'they wont get sorted' and i replied with 'Ok, well text me when you wanna talk, i wont text you until you text me'
& Come to think of it, at the end of the day im her friend, so should I just wait until she texts me first, or should I text her once a day or so asking how she is? Because if I just stop textin her while she has problems it would seem like i dont care and wont be there for her, if you see what I mean?

[The Don]

Dude wtf, no wonder she didn't want to text you? did you ever think that there may be bigger things happening in her life that you right now? And when you sent her that rude text because she never spoke to you, that's going to turn her right off and not want to speak to you even more.

[-Adam]

What rude text?

[Catzsy]

It sounds like a really destructive relationship to me tbh probably carried on because of 'habit' and the fear being alone. Doesn't sound too good to me and I also think you sound needy which she feeds upon. What is the point of all this aggravation and trouble - doesn't even sound that you are even happy for a short time. My view is that you should try to step 'outside' yourself and see what the relationship actually is and yes I agree with you that shouldn't text her every day I am sure she is big enough to look after herself. Why be so predictable? If she does want to contact you she will.

[RockyHorror]

I think I read about this story somewhere else..O yes here it is;

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...ry-school.html

'She failed to return texts': Teacher's son is held after girl, 14, is stabbed nine times in neck as she walked into school

You have issues that need to be worked out. I would address them before they escalate.

[Catzsy]

I think I read about this story somewhere else..O yes here it is;

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...ry-school.html




You have issues that need to be worked out. I would address them before they escalate.

That is an extremely emotive statement to make. Just because this guy has issues doesn't mean Adam has or is anything like that in personality. There is a great deal of difference is being annoyed that somebody doesn't answer your texts and stabbing them

[The Don]

What rude text?

About half an hour ago, I text her saying 'take it you didnt wanna speak then',

do you not think that seems too needy anf if someone sent me that, i'd not want to speak to them even more.