Ways to get over someone...

[Inseriousity.]

What's the information? Obviously you don't have to say but if you don't want to take our advice and cut him out completely then my best advice would be to keep this information at the back of your mind, like a defense mechanism so every time it feels like you're getting too close you can remember it and it's enough to keep the barriers up without giving up on the person completely. So much effort though, it honestly would be easier if you just cut off all contact and proved to him that people will not put up with his **** so he should start acting better.

[Daltron]

find a nice rebound

[buttons]

well it's a start realising he's not good for u in a relationship
but u need to understand he's not good as a friend either
I agree with the girls, best way is to go out have fun find someone new (someone nice obv), maybe at that point u will realise he's not worthy of being in your life at all

[Glen Coco]

he was sort of my rebound from my ex of 3 years so i think that may be why I'm finding it hard to let go.
We have gotten really close which is why I don't want to cut him out completely, but i do agree that it's easier to move on if you've got someone else. It's just i find it so hard to like people, I'm so picky when it comes to guys.

@Inseriousity. in a nutshell; became friends with this lad, started sleeping together, got really close. I fell for him, he kept saying maybe one day we'll be together. Started seeing each other, he cut it off, few days later slept with a randomer ( i was also on this night out with him). He started dating people, dating his ex, sleeping with people but every time he got rejected he;d come back to me. we had really bad arguments - recently we've started to actually get on, were still sleeping together, he said some really horrid things to me, and back. But just found out he's slept with his ex again. ect.ect.ect. he is still changing his mind about 'us' - one day saying he thinks we'll be together, another day saying there's no chance.

That wasn't really a nutshell, but it's the best i can do really.

[sex]

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[Inseriousity.]

If you really want it in a nutshell, he's using you and you're letting him.

longer version:

He doesn't have to commit to anything because you're enabling his behaviour. Straight away, I'd say stop sleeping with this guy, see if he sticks around then. At least then you'll just be friends and if he does hang around with you, you'll know it'll be for your company not for your body. I'd also work on my self-esteem: you mention he's a rebound so have you got over your ex? do you find yourself clinging for affection even any scraps? why is that? are there any hobbies or interests that you could get involved with that are more about enjoying your own company rather than with a man? You don't have the power to change him but you have all the power to change your own mindset so that you're better protected from people who will take advantage of you. Reflect on who you think you are and work towards who you want to be. god I sound like a self-help book.

[sex]

too stupid to do anything about it? that's why I'm making it stop right now is it?
'but i don't care'... well goody for you, stop commenting and find something better to do then.

but you're not
you still want to be in contact with him when he has no problem it seems dropping you at the first chance he has when someone else gets involved!

even rihanna didn't cling to chris brown this much

[Glen Coco]

but you're not
you still want to be in contact with him when he has no problem it seems dropping you at the first chance he has when someone else gets involved!

even rihanna didn't cling to chris brown this much

well im not making an effort anymore. we were genuinely really good friends but obviously if he doesn't care we wont speak at all anymore.
maybe eventually we wont speak and wont know each other but i did still want to be friends

[sex]

he could kill your dog and feed it to you and you would wanna be with him still

[crystaldd0]

You don't want to cut him out completely, but if you're feeling used then why would you want to keep someone like that in your life anyways? ANYWAYS, gonna go ahead and agree time is one of the best ways to get over someone, also you should try occupying yourself with other people or things in the meantime. If the relationship is absolutely going nowhere then there is no point in wasting time on worrying about someone who doesn't waste their time worrying about you x