What's your opinion on office relationships?

[scottish]

poor laura

[Ailurus]

Thank you for all the comments guys, appriciate it.

I'm a shy enough girl as it but, worst still, I'm old fashioned when it comes to forming relationships - I'd expect the guy to ask the girl out. But I know in this day and age anything goes so, how long should I wait to make a move, or wait for him to make one?

The team think it's a great idea, lol. Probably 'coz they just want something to gossip about - they teased us today about the fact that we'd bought the same soup.

[Empired]

Thank you for all the comments guys, appriciate it.

I'm a shy enough girl as it but, worst still, I'm old fashioned when it comes to forming relationships - I'd expect the guy to ask the girl out. But I know in this day and age anything goes so, how long should I wait to make a move, or wait for him to make one?

Maybe don't ask him out on a date per say. Just ask him out to do something (lunch for example) and see how it goes. Doesn't have to be a formal date but it could help you to see how far your interests go.

I would definitely suggest that if you want something more to come of this, ASK HIM OUT. You said you're shy, maybe he's shy too. It would be such a waste for you both to ignore each other simply because you're both "too shy" to start anything.

[Ailurus]

I guess I'm just afraid that it turns out to be that he is just a nice guy, and doesn't want a relationship. I've been rejected once before and I'm afraid of that happening again. :s

[Kyle]

I guess I'm just afraid that it turns out to be that he is just a nice guy, and doesn't want a relationship. I've been rejected once before and I'm afraid of that happening again. :s

By letting things develop naturally you can avoid any sense of disappointment or rejection. Go into interactions with him with the idea of you two just being friends at the forefront of your mind and if either of you feels stronger then it will be clear. If he's talking about his relationships though then he's not just making conversation, he's fishing.

[Ailurus]

By letting things develop naturally you can avoid any sense of disappointment or rejection. Go into interactions with him with the idea of you two just being friends at the forefront of your mind and if either of you feels stronger then it will be clear. If he's talking about his relationships though then he's not just making conversation, he's fishing.

Thank you for your advice, Kyle. I'm kinda new to the signs I should be looking for to see if a guy is interested - it would be my first proper relationship if it did happen, and also I'm autistic so I don't recognise social cues or display them very well, either. That being said; what would you consider signs of flirting in the workplace?

[Kimmy]

I don't understand the term 'office relationships'. Do you mean a casual little thing that's kept entirely to the office, or something you want to blow up into a fully fledged thing? If so, what's the 'office' got to do with it? Surely every relationship would be the same sort of thing?
I personally don't really think that glancing at each other and having a chat now and again is a definite attraction sort of thing; it all seems sort of play-groundy to me. It's a different story if you actually feel something I suppose.
Also if you get into a relationship it means buying more gifts for xmass. :afro:

[Empired]

I don't understand the term 'office relationships'. Do you mean a casual little thing that's kept entirely to the office, or something you want to blow up into a fully fledged thing? If so, what's the 'office' got to do with it? Surely every relationship would be the same sort of thing?
I personally don't really think that glancing at each other and having a chat now and again is a definite attraction sort of thing; it all seems sort of play-groundy to me. It's a different story if you actually feel something I suppose.
Also if you get into a relationship it means buying more gifts for xmass. :afro:

Pretty sure office relationship means entering a relationship with someone who works in your office.
It can be very important when considering whether or not to take things further as if the relationship crashes and burns you'll have to remain civil to each other on a daily basis afterwards at work.

[Yupt]

If he's asking you what your doing at the weekend, that night, asking about past relationships and spending time alone with you at lunch.. He's definately interested.

I understand that when you're in this position it's like.. Ooh is he/she really interested or am I just imagining it? But those are the types of things guys say and ask when they're in to you.

I say that because that's exactly what I say/do with a girl if I'm interested in them, I constantly want to know what they're doing later that night, that weekend in the hope that the conversation will lead to one of us (im not always the most confident at this stage) saying "why don't we do something?".

Also, the looking across the workspace thing.. Pfft textbook.

[Brad]

Office Relationships usually end up bad if they start interfering with work. You'd be working together, dating eachother.. you would never get alone time. Where you can breathe.

I'd be careful with what you do, but if you feel it is right make boundaries.