What's your opinion on office relationships?

[Ailurus]

Alright so, I've been in this job for almost four months now. Nice desk job with a decent payslip at the end of every week, right? First person to welcome me in and shope me the ropes is this guy. Granted, he's not the best looking guy out there but, I think personality wins more than looks. He sits opposite my workstation so we steal glances at each other often and we always talk - sometimes I start the converstaions, sometimes he does. He asks me things like 'what plans you got for the weekend?' or 'doing anything tonight?' etc. I've recently started going to lunch with him and some other members of my team - some have already alluded to the fact that we talk alot so they tease for it. I don't mind that.

So today, we had lunch together but just the two of us. And he told me about his past relationships and the fact that he was single (he didn't blatanly state that but I gathered from his stories) and when I asked him, what now? He just said he'd see what happens next. We don't normally have lunch together alone, but someone in our team had a meeting, so the rest had lunch fifteen mins early but we could've easily gone and found them in the canteen and sat with them, but nope!

Are these all signs that he's interested? Anyone else had experiences at office romances or relationships with co-workers in general?

[buttons]

Granted, he's not the best looking guy out there but, I think personality wins more than looks.

if u think that then why bother to mention it?

Are these all signs that he's interested?

yes

whats my opinion.... work relationships are work relationships. many people meet there. you shouldn't avoid one just cause u might break up in future when it could be something great. not rocket science.

[Futz]

if you're already taking digs at his looks he deserves better

[Ailurus]

I think he's cute, but when other people see him they say I can do better. That's the only reason I mentioned that because I care more about personality than looks.

[Inseriousity.]

Men talk bout their "past" relationships when they're interested. It's an excuse to get to talk about your own (especially if he doesn't know your own relationship status). If you work in an office, there's bound to be a christmas party soon right? perfect chance to maybe take things to the next step if you want to. I'd say go for it

[Ailurus]

Men talk bout their "past" relationships when they're interested. It's an excuse to get to talk about your own (especially if he doesn't know your own relationship status). If you work in an office, there's bound to be a christmas party soon right? perfect chance to maybe take things to the next step if you want to. I'd say go for it

Thanks for the point of view! We already had a christmas meal, and after this week, I'm off until after Christmas. No point rushing things but its good to know we're both interested.

[Empired]

Seems like you're heading down the right track at the moment but perhaps try and ask him for for lunch over the next three days just the two of you? Then maybe during that lunch try and make plans over Christmas. Idk how old you are but perhaps you could go out for lunch again (or take it a step further and do dinner!!), see a movie, just whatever.

If I were to share any wisdom from my thousands of experiences (lol literally had one and maybe a half), try not to overthink things? As Mike said, if he's indicating that he's single that means he wants you to know he's available.

Also guys calm down I think she was just trying to say he's not super hot but she really likes him. I get that sometimes. I don't even look twice at them when I don't know them because I'm not immediately attracted to them but then I find out they're actually a lovely person and I start to like them more. I think what she was trying to say just came out wrong in her post.

[Kyle]

Seems like a nice enough chap but it's probably best to avoid starting any kind of relationship until after christmas/nye at least so you know that either of you is not just feeling lonely over the holiday period and using the other to fill a void.

yes he is taking an interest in you and seems to have been since you took the position. if people are telling you that you can do better then these aren't very nice people! do what he's doing - see what happens. let the friendship evolve naturally, don't force anything, and once you're sure that you have feelings for him bite the bullet and ask him on a date outside of work to see if he is still that same work colleague that you're into when he's not at the office. good luck x

[RyRy]

I think he's cute, but when other people see him they say I can do better. That's the only reason I mentioned that because I care more about personality than looks.

my gf gets that a lot about me, end of the day if you like the guy then **** what everybody else thinks, its your relationship not theirs.

BUT on the topic of office relationships, i would steer clear. they sound great beforehand, the sort of "ooo it'll be just like a movie where we're dating in an office and doing naughty things at work" but jesus christ it's like every other relationship except you see eachother everyday, and if you fall out then you still have to see eachother everyday. If you think he's worth the risk, thats your call but my advice would be to avoid this as it could get messy.

[Zak]

I wouldn't want to work with my fiancee personally. I go to work to get away from her (and so do 95% of people who work here) haha