I'm worried about coming out! +REP

[Minstrels]

hiiiiiya basically, coming out is the hardest and most rewarding thing ever, from experience. i told friends and my step-sister first, who told all of her mates and my sister. i was drunk and she was telling me things about her life and i thought hold on... i'm going to tell her, it came so naturally and it got so much easier from there on in. i don't recommend doing it over social networking sites or over the phone. i think the best way is face to face, don't make a big deal out of it.

"hiya, i have something to tell you, i'm gay" and wait for the reaction. when i first tried i was like "i want to tell you something that might change things forever" and played it up way too much and then was unable to say because it was unbearably awkward.

at the end of the day we all have our different way of doing things and all i can say for sure is that by thinking about coming out you're undoubtedly on the right track! best of luck and if you have any questions reply here or pm me and i'll try and help because i know how ******* hard it is!

A throwaway comment like that has a totally different meaning in a thread like this.

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[immense]

hahahah only you matty ove3:

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[Imosae]

Thank you very much immense i will do
...oh and other members - all +rep'ed

[Etc]

I'm Straight, however one of my best mates is gay. He came out during schoolies (Where everyone goes off to party when school ends). It took him several drinks but he told me first, to see how i'd react. I was fine with it, as i'd known him for 6 years, and it wouldn't change anythinggg. After he knew I was cool with it, he told everyone else.

He hasn't told his parents yet, but his sisters know, but hes having a good time which is good.

[Imosae]

I'm Straight, however one of my best mates is gay. He came out during schoolies (Where everyone goes off to party when school ends). It took him several drinks but he told me first, to see how i'd react. I was fine with it, as i'd known him for 6 years, and it wouldn't change anythinggg. After he knew I was cool with it, he told everyone else.

He hasn't told his parents yet, but his sisters know, but hes having a good time which is good.

I think i would be in the same position, interesting storys read a couple of times on how to come out as a 'gay' i read a few over the past couple of weeks while reading all of your advice and seem very helpful and makes me understand how hard coming out as a gay boy it is - i'll let you all know right on this thread or another thread that i could make seperate to this one.

Thank you EddyMate +rep

EDIT: If anybody else here is gay/straight/bi no matter what sex you are please give me more advice as i dont want to read them of advice sites other than HxF of course although they can be helpful at times

[Etc]

No problem mate, but I can understand what you are going through. It would/will take a LOT of courage when you finally do come out.. something I'm not even sure i'd be able to bring myself to do without lots of thought.

But yeah, I suggest starting with a best mate to instill confidence

[Imosae]

No problem mate, but I can understand what you are going through. It would/will take a LOT of courage when you finally do come out.. something I'm not even sure i'd be able to bring myself to do without lots of thought.

But yeah, I suggest starting with a best mate to instill confidence

That was what i was thinking since i have a bi friend although im gay and hes not but its worth asking

also how shall i say that im gay but not to make me sound stupid?

[rnix]

You don't have to come out as straight so why do it if you are gay.
You don't have to tell your parents. I haven't, and things are perfect at the moment.
Just come out when you are truly ready and have the guts and pretty much when the hell you want too. =)

[Imosae]

Once again thank you so much for all of your advice +rep'ed

[Deak]

I havent experienced this but i know people who are gay and my advice is to wait until that right moment when you are alone with your parents... you never know some parents already know and pick up little signs... and be truthful and open with them.

I dont know what kind of relationship you have with your parents, but im sure that they will be ok with it as most parents just want the best for their kids.