How vital are you to your Social Group?

[geo]

gonna apply it to the social group that i hang around w at lunch (even though i'd say only 2 of them are my very close friends, but i luv them all!)
i wouldn't say i'm too vital, but people seem to miss me when i'm gone or ask where i am..... i know a few of my friends wouldn't go places w/o me but yeah, just depends where they're going etc and who else is going. if there's someone else they're close to i'm sure they wouldn't mind me not being there

[dbgtz]

I'd say a lot of people here either downplay their "importance" or don't realise how "important" they are to their friends. I learnt a few years back that I actually had a greater impact on others than I really thought and I'd say I'm just as "important" as anyone else.

[StevenWinehouse]

I wouldn't go as far to say that I am an alpha, but my presence in my social group has made a big enough impact that if I were to suddenly leave out of nowhere (like move) that it would cause what you would call a ripple in the group. It happened at my old school, and the ripple remained for a week or so before they got used to me not being around (but at my old school I was the alpha in my social group, so there is that)

[Liva]

I'm pretty much the outsider. :/


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[buttons]

yh @Liva; i used to the the outsider too cause they had been best friends since they were like 4 and i, whilst being good friends with them through the years, had a different friendship group up until age 15.

fell out with that group and started hanging out with my current and felt outsider cause there was 4 of them and they all had a best friend within the group. now it's like we're a group but all have our own special friendships with each other, i actually tend to hang out with one at a time like one for clubbing with, one for travelling with and speaking about life, one for when i went to gym etc

[Absently]

In college I believe I'm just as important as everyone else tbh, like if I'm five minutes late I get worried phone calls asking where I am and texting me etc. but I don't believe it makes me special it's probably just because I'm rarely not there??

Outside of college I have friends but not a group anymore really as i stopped hanging out with them after school, like my friends would hang out but wouldn't hang out if I wasn't there as they only know each other through me. I'm friends with my closest friends college friends (if that makes any sense..) but I wouldn't consider myself to be in their social circle, just an extra addition if I'm ever up there or if they visit here.

[Sian]

i dont ever feel that vital, not in a group sense anyway.

It's certain people who like me to be there more then anything.

[Amberr]

It's weird really to explain my social group as now half my friends are all at different uni's and the rest (including me) haven't gone yet has effected the dynamics of the group. The smaller group I keep to now with the remainder of my friends who haven't left yet I would say I do most of the organising but only because my friends are ridiculously lazy. I wouldn't say I was a leader or anyone else in the group was. But I would hope I would be missed if I couldn't do something and the rest went out without me haha