How vital are you to your Social Group?

[Casanova]

This weekend is the first weekend I've stayed in since November.
I woke up this morning with missed calls and lots of drunken texts etc, my friends were still partying and wanted me to go out (I had no money so I couldn't anyway) but it got me thinking, how vital are you to your social group?
Do you count yourself the alpha?

I've always been used to being close to the epicentre of any of my social groups. I have two, one I share with my twin brother and one that he isn't involved in. I would say when it comes to my social groups I'm pretty much centre to plans, normally I'd organise parties etc and a lot of the time people would ask/depend on me for what we're doing etc. It's probably more to do with me being very controlling. I've never been used to taking the back seat or being easily dismissed. I'm used to getting my way but my friends wouldn't really view it as so, I guess I always do what they wanna do any way as they know I'd be open to change.

what about yourselves?

[buttons]

we don't have an alpha, it is literally individual people with their own lives. no-one is 'important' like if one person cant make it to a party its fine... we can all have fun with each other.
uni its a bit diff tho i guess cause you have the 'leader' who plans uni nights out, then there's a guy who everyone likes and if he doesn't come then a lot of people won't come cause its boring without him, 2 of my friends won't go unless i'm going too

[Matt]

I would be the one who makes jokes and can have a good laugh (and sometimes get carried away lol) but also the one who will listen if you need someone to talk to but I wouldn't say we have 'alphas'.

[TheJokerEffect]

Hmm, this has me thinking! I have 3 groups i hang with everyday I spread out my time with hanging with each, cause i feel it's better that way but with the first group I'm just an 'addition' nothing special, everyone notices me so that is good for me (cause i never get noticed) in my second group I am the "gay kid" which by all means is fine with me, considering it's all girls :/ which i am not entirely happy about but really nothing i can do, and in my second group, they say the word 'gay' out loud which makes me get used to the fact that not everyone knows (rambling a bit) third group actually the group i would say 'alpha' in but not consisting of a lot of people, so i really don't like being called the 'leader/alpha' but it's the way it is. That's my story!

[Zak]

I don't really have a social group so I wouldn't say I was important at all.. even if I did have a social group

[Cerinacy$]

I don't really have a social group so I wouldn't say I was important at all.. even if I did have a social group

Exactly the same here! I just have friends really...

[wixard]

we don't have an alpha, it is literally individual people with their own lives. no-one is 'important' like if one person cant make it to a party its fine... we can all have fun with each other.
uni its a bit diff tho i guess cause you have the 'leader' who plans uni nights out, then there's a guy who everyone likes and if he doesn't come then a lot of people won't come cause its boring without him, 2 of my friends won't go unless i'm going too

us either, and we all have our own separate group of friends we go out with too but ultimately would consider each other best friends over them

for the specific friendship group i'm talking about though a lot of organising is done through me because a few of them have gone off each other and don't like talking

[FlyingJesus]

I do most of the organising just because everyone else is totally rubbish at it but I wouldn't call myself their leader since I have no need to surround myself with insubordinates in order to feel wanted

[Cerys]

Urmm I'd say that nobody notices me and nobody in my group would care, or even notice, if I vanished suddenly
Like seriously i'm never invited anywhere, they all avoid talking to me etc, im moving away in June and no one cares but katies moving just down the road and everyone's in tears about it

I wasn't in school today and no one's bothered but if claires off school everyone's panicking and messaging her asking if she's okay

So yeah I'm not important in my group it appears hahahaha

Definitely not vital

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[Shar]

I have about 3 different group of friends and there is no leader for any group. We don't really do anything unless we're all there.