She doesnt understand

[Inseriousity.]

My granddad had the same choice. He was given the opportunity to play for Ipswich (who were 'very good' at the time but I think it was just him bigging himself up!) and he was given an ultimatium as well by his girlfriend.

He chose to stay with his girlfriend. They got married, had kids but later divorced. One of those kids was my mum and so if he chose football, I would not be here so THANK YOU NANA!

[DMB-Hosting]

Why are people saying she's selfish? pre-judging before you even know her. 4 years is a VERY long time to be away from your partner, she's giving him the truth which imo is better than her saying she will wait for him and when he's there finishing him. People can't help how they feel.

Most of you on here have probably never experienced what real love feels like.

On the soccer point, go with your heart and weigh up if you actually see a future with this girl, and the odds on pursuing a career from your scholarship. Which outweighs the other?

This isn't really a question for a forum, it's one you need to think seriously about and go with your gut instinct.

And a final note on this "can become professional and make all of our lives better. " if by that you mean money, money isn't everything.

BUT as i said go with what you feel is right, and if you do persue your career as a footballer, then good luck, work hard and the rewards will come

[Sxejess]

Ask yourself "If she had an oppotunity like that but in something else, would she stay instead?"

I'd go with what your heart tells you but theres plenty more people to meet, I mean you might meet someone in America, you just never know. Just keep in mind that shes not the only one on this Earth. 2bh I'd rather have a future in a career I love then give it up and stay here just to make everyone else happy, in a choice like this you should think about how you feel not what everyone else feels, because when you come back everyone will be so proud of you.

[Catchy]

Couldn't she apply to move to america?

[Sophiemily]

If the girl couldn't accept that your going to solely get an education for your future, then shes not the one. A girl has to understand you cant give up your total future just for her. A true Girlfriend would understand and not be so selfish to hold you back from your education.
But overall its your choice....I would head out to America :]

[GommeInc]

Scholarships do exist in England... There's a very posh primary school in Berkshire that gives them out :/

But yeah, if you want to go, then go. If she's saying stuff like "If you go, then I won't be here for you when you get back", then she doesn't deserve you

[Jordan:A]

You could have an American chick

[5,5]

Go for the scholarship.
Btw just out of curiosity, what school offered you the scholarship?

[Bun]

i can't really blame her to be honest, but then again i couldn't blame you for going to your scholarship. :rolleyes:

[Cryptoo]

I have the same problem. I'm wanting to go to a London University to do International Fashion degrees, these are the only ones in the UK to combine Spanish and Art (Fashion/Interior)... but she wants to go to Bristol, to follow a language career. She is giving me the guilt trip about it all.... Grrr, girls.

I think you should try bring her with you somehow?
Or you might just have to let your love go. It's sad, but imagine, if you become brilliant and famous; it'll be worth it. I'm sure she'd take you back then
Good luck with it all