I'm worried about coming out! +REP

[1cred]

You shouldn't really care what people think, you is you. Tell your closest family member, and they will give you advice. Don't be scared, everyones different,if they can't understand you, they must not know the real you. Your confident to tell us, just imgain when your telling the first person, its like posting on the forum ! ha xx goodluck, and take it easy, step by step is always best.

[qaxzsw]

Hello!

Firstly you've obviously done the first step, coming out to yourself. I would deffinatley say, make sure you are 100% you are gay, bi or whatever. I actually came out last week to my best friend who is bisexual but she was actually in denial at first.

Example of our convosation

Me: I have to tell you something
Friend: What
Me: Well I think you know
Friend: is it a secret?
Me: Yes, kinda
Friend: What then?
Me: You already asked me about it...
Friend: Realllly
Me: Yes, what do you think I am talking about?
Friend: You being gay?!

Then they went on to repeatidly asking me if I was joking. She supports me and promised not to tell anyone, till I'm ready, and it deffinatley makes me feel alot better, knowing someone else knows, who I trust. Your friend/relative or whoever you decide to tell might ask alot of questions at first, 'Are you sure?', or 'Is this a phase or something?', obviously it might be a shock for some people, but if your overly camp it might be a bit obvious. I felt sick just before saying it and took a massive pause, but once you say it, I think you will feel releived. Take it one step at a time, My plan is to tell my friends one by one, then hopefully family, It is gonna take a while to build up the confidence obviously, but hopefully once it's high enough, I will be able to do it.

Good luck
Jack

[Imosae]

Hello!

Firstly you've obviously done the first step, coming out to yourself. I would deffinatley say, make sure you are 100% you are gay, bi or whatever. I actually came out last week to my best friend who is bisexual but she was actually in denial at first.

Example of our convosation

Me: I have to tell you something
Friend: What
Me: Well I think you know
Friend: is it a secret?
Me: Yes, kinda
Friend: What then?
Me: You already asked me about it...
Friend: Realllly
Me: Yes, what do you think I am talking about?
Friend: You being gay?!

Then they went on to repeatidly asking me if I was joking. She supports me and promised not to tell anyone, till I'm ready, and it deffinatley makes me feel alot better, knowing someone else knows, who I trust. Your friend/relative or whoever you decide to tell might ask alot of questions at first, 'Are you sure?', or 'Is this a phase or something?', obviously it might be a shock for some people, but if your overly camp it might be a bit obvious. I felt sick just before saying it and took a massive pause, but once you say it, I think you will feel releived. Take it one step at a time, My plan is to tell my friends one by one, then hopefully family, It is gonna take a while to build up the confidence obviously, but hopefully once it's high enough, I will be able to do it.

Good luck
Jack

Thats a good way to put a conversation thank you by the way did you try not to sound daft or whatever the word is to make sure you where not joking (?) So i can take the advice on board but i guess it's a thing to keep asking questions plus a question for all do you feel any better once coming out (everyone has different opinions)

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[Technologic]

Friends first, family second. thats the way i did it

[Apple]

Before you do it, are you sure that you are not just confused or going through a phase which could be to do with a variety of different things seeing as though you are in your teens. You would regret it so much if you came out and then got to 20 and realised you didn't like other blokes. I am just trying to save you all the hassle, there is someone in my school who was once gay. Apparently he came out in year 8 and now in year 10 has a girlfriend and says he was just confused. I don't think he got bullied about it or anything so there would be no reason for him to lie and say he is straight again. So just be sure about it first and maybe try to flirt around with a hot girl to see if you actually like it as a last resort. Good luck!

Edit: If you are truly gay then we may have some difficulties with the finding a hot girl ting, sorry I didn't realise.

[Imosae]

Before you do it, are you sure that you are not just confused or going through a phase which could be to do with a variety of different things seeing as though you are in your teens. You would regret it so much if you came out and then got to 20 and realised you didn't like other blokes. I am just trying to save you all the hassle, there is someone in my school who was once gay. Apparently he came out in year 8 and now in year 10 has a girlfriend and says he was just confused. I don't think he got bullied about it or anything so there would be no reason for him to lie and say he is straight again. So just be sure about it first and maybe try to flirt around with a hot girl to see if you actually like it as a last resort. Good luck!

Edit: If you are truly gay then we may have some difficulties with the finding a hot girl ting, sorry I didn't realise.

Nah i liked guys all my life but didnt feel comfortable but now thanks to you 'folks' i think i feel nearly a bit out
Thanks and +rep

[HotelUser]

I could never imagine on any magnitude discussing something so personal with my parents, let alone telling them if I wasn't straight. I think a general awkwardness would loom viciously over the house for some time after that

[Imosae]

I could never imagine on any magnitude discussing something so personal with my parents, let alone telling them if I wasn't straight. I think a general awkwardness would loom viciously over the house for some time after that

yeah i dont think im not going to let them know

[Technologic]

yeah i dont think im not going to let them know

Build up your confidence by telling your friends and make it openly known. My whole year at sixth form knows and they also all know if they give me **** about it i'll punch them lol. I have a very blasé attitude towards it, I use it in a lot of my humour and people give me a lot of respect for being so open. The way I told my parents was when I got a boyfriend, i simply just went "I'm going out with a guy". I have extremely liberal parents who were more annoyed i hadn't told them earlier than anything but every family is different so it's up to you to judge when to tell

[Imosae]

Okay first of all thank you for all of your kind advice, it was really helpful! I took it all on board and now feel like its time as i think im comfortable as of now, so therefore in that case though i am glad to say that i've come out as a gay person now when a tell you this on here/online or whatever you may think i am a bit bonkers but im actually not because first of all i have told all of my friends and they were pretty shocked but me thinks that they knew i was a gay anyway in the first place but they where shocked. If thats a good thing, right? Although i didnt tell my family but still in the process of telling them as soon as possible as i dont think im ready to say to them yet as they might be a bit wierd about it then again once there in a happier sort of mood i think thats the moment when i'll tell my parents/family!

Now when i did come out which i have finally! It made me think that it built up my confidence a little bit more, i can definitely say that i like guys because i always have all my life but didnt have to courage to come out although i have been keeping that lie for some time now as well because i know how ''******* hard it is'' in immenses' words lol .

Thank you once again to everyone who posted in this thread, made me feel a bit more confident ALOT when coming fully out as a gay person.



PS; +REP continues with even more words of advice although i have already came out but still its helpful at least for words of congratulations etc. lol. And also hope this makes sense to you.