My Stepdad Rubbing me the Wrong Way

[beth]

Oh are you in my head? I didn't think so... The world doesn't owe me anything. It's prolly the other way round but... It's not the largest annoyance in my life either. I'm not spoilt as we, so please learn about the person you're talking to first Bethie. I'm not a normal ******* teenager, believe me. I dont follow the same pattern...

if yr not spoilt why are you so ungrateful? frankly yr lucky to have a bed, to have yr own room, to have access to a computer, to have parents who allow you to actively whinge so much. actually in a way i do feel like yr parents are wrong. because they're obviously letting this happen. let me tell you, if i'd ever asked my mom to put my sheet back on my bed or tidy up (since the age of around 10) i would be told to get my **** together and get on with my life and my dad would give me a quick sharp smack if i ever decided to think i am above their instructions.

[Kyle]

Are you that much of an invalid that you can't put your own bed sheet on? Your stepdad is right for sticking up for your mum when you're ordering her about like that. He is completely justified and you're just blowing everything out of proportion. Tending to a sick child isn't babying, it's called being a parent.

You being unhappy with your life is nothing to do with your stepdad, you're clearly just looking for someone to pin the blame on. Fair enough if you want a bit of privacy but staying cooped up in your room without any contact with anybody isn't going to help you tremendously. Have a chat with your mum and tell her how you feel because it may come to a surprise to you but not everybody can read minds.

U seem like such a brat lol even the way you're replying to people in this thread. Grow up.

[@K]

Go home? Are you kidding me? You say you want advice, my advice is to stop being an ungrateful little kid who actively looks for things to complain about. Your stepdad is being 100% reasonable in every situation that you've written about, and if you don't like being told anything other than "YEAH HE'S IN THE WRONG THAT'S SOOOOOOO UNFAIR!!!" then don't ask for genuine advice, just talk to the mirror. I'm not trying to make an argument I'm trying to show you that there is absolutely nothing wrong with anything that you've said has happened and that you're the one who needs to change, not your stepdad.

THIS!

Cannot believe my post got over looked lol. Kid seriously, you are a *REMOVED* just because you cannot see YOU are in the wrong here. Step parents aren't always nice, woopty do, you aren't ******* helping either. Your running away from your problems, and in life, your going to be everyone's ***** who goes running home crying. Think I'm being horrible? Get a grip, these 'problems' you have are nothing compared to others. These people are telling you that you are in the wrong because you ARE, those saying to hit your stepdad are just winding you up, *REMOVED* Learn to do stuff for yourself, you make your bed...SOMETIMES, wow, you should be doing it every morning like most. I seriously want to know how old you are! You are pathetic!

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[Spuds]

I only read the this thread because I initially read "My stepdad rubbing me" but then after finishing reading the initial post I was gobsmacked. Grow up girl, you're acting like a small child, hell you're acting like an eleven old, perhaps you should involve your step-brother in your activities. You start off by telling us your step-dad stoops to childish levels and then give us an example where you ask your mother to make your bed because you didn't make the mess, this being after you've told us the mess wasn't created by your mother either! Don't you see the hypocrisy in this? Or do eleven year olds not know what that is yet?

Your step-dad is completely within his own right to say the things he's said, just like he's within his own right to look after his sick child. You wish he'd hit you? You've contemplated suicide? You do realise how childish you've come across, you've made a fool of yourself. Grow up and join the real world otherwise you'll be in for a shock later down the line.

How old are you? I'm asking because you ask your mum to make your bed as your step brother and step sister messed it up and you don't want to sort it out as you didn't mess it up? Guess what, your mum didn't do it either, so do it your ******* self! You want advice? For a start, your coming across as extremely lazy to me, I have my niece and nephew mess up my room when they're round mine, I don't make my brother clean up their mess, I do it myself! So start doing things for yourself! You have come across as selfish to me, coming across as 'me, me, me', this may not be the case of course, but take a look at yourself and maybe you might be doing something wrong. Also, set boundaries, if your room is YOUR room, as in no one else sleeps in there, tell everyone it is your personal space and no one should enter. If, on the other hand, you are sharing this room, then get used to it, all I can say is TOUGH.

Wait until you get out into the real world, life is hard, not pleasent and people are nasty. You said you've contemplated commiting suicide because of bullying, stand up for yourself, I was bullied for about six months, I bit back, it stopped. If you don't stand up against people, you will be bullied for life, in school, in work, all the same.

I know I will get modded for this, but frankly, I couldn't give a toss, your post has pissed me off, just for the simple fact that you get your MUM to make YOUR bed, because an 11 year old messed it up! Wait until you've moved out, your going to cry. Now I have a feeling you are going to turn around and say your 14, this post is nasty, oh well, you need to know what you have at the moment, isn't hard, life gets worse kid!

Much love for this post.

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P.S - If you're a guy and you're wondering why I've referred to you as a girl it's because you're a crying little kid, *REMOVED*

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[Judas]

@Those mentioning the bed, it's not I cant do my bed, I can and do sometimes. It's the fact that it's got nothing to do with me.

I'm confused, are you implying that it has something to do with your mum then? Why should she do it? Really puzzled here.

And really, it does have something to do with you as you're the one that sleeps in it every night.

[RyRy]

I think you should just man up if I'm honest? Sounds like youre making something out of nothing imo.

But this thread title yeah, oh my god, just lol. Sounds like what you really need is a lock on your door LOLLL

[CrazyLemurs]

If a mod sees this, close this thread because all these *REMOVED* aren't helping at all.

@Judas, I make it each morning when I get up.

@Everyone saying life gets harder, Yeah I do kind of know that. And I know regardless of what I do I'm going to have a **** adulthood.

@@K, 6 months isn't bad. That's a light amount really. Try 6 years, from 10-15 different people. And if I tell them to get out my stepdad will just tell me off for being nasty to them. Because it's his fault they have nothing else to do.

@Kyle, I am no invalid. So what if I was? They're still equal people ffs. And I dont ******* order my mum around. I ask her if she will and some nights she'll say no. Dont put words into my mouth that I evidently did NOT say.

@Spuds, Not got anything to say really, except that yes, he is allowed to tend to his sick child. When I'm ill he actually tells me off because I'm causing hassle and missing school.

If it will make you lot feel better *REMOVED* I'm going to put a notice to knock before coming in, and that those two can have 3 hrs a day in my room.

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[RyRy]

I guess somebody really has been rubbed up the wrong way.

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[beth]

I guess somebody really has been rubbed up the wrong way.

winner, winner, chicken dinner.

no but seriously, you want this thread closed now cause we all told you the truth?

[FlyingJesus]

You know the most annoying kind of person with problems is one who not only refuses to be helped but asks for help then rejects it