My Stepdad Rubbing me the Wrong Way

[CrazyLemurs]

I'm finally sick of my stepdad who oftens stoops down to a childish level and treats me inferior to his own children who visit some weekends.
Like this evening:
Most of the time, his son and daughter spend the whole day in my room, on and off my bed. The sheet on my bed is usually completely off by 4-5pm and each evening I ask my mother to put it back on, as I have not contributed towards the mess and I dont feel I should clear it up. My stepdad SNAPPED back with "Well when you leave crumbs in the kitchen when you make a sandwich, should I just leave it?"
Is he just being childish and saying this to spite me?
And his daughter is my age, yet his son is only 11. He tries to get me and his daughter to involve to son in what we do, as if we're all the same age. Yet today, when he was sick in the toilet, my stepdad was treating him like a child, offering him drinks and toast. This is completely unfair, and I'm close to barring them from my room and getting a lock to give myself a weekend without them.
What do I do? If I talk to my stepdad, he will just talk down to me and practically verbally bully me into submission. I just wish he would hit me so I can call the police and remove him from my depressing life. I just want to ask my mother if it got that bad, would you be on my side or his? If she were to say his then I would go and live with my sister or my dad in Scotland. Combined with the bullying I get at school I've contemplated suicide multiple times. I'm not having a happy life, why the *REMOVED* is that fair? How about you give me my privacy, my happiness and my soul back and just let me live without having you talking down to me like I'm less valuable than you? I bet you wish me away, wouldn't that be perfect. No annoying stepson who can only do bad to get under your feet. If he hates me so much why doesn't he just go?

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[Casanova]

first advice: become a *******.
if he's being like this then tell your mum to go **** herself, tell him to go back to the dirty hole he crawled out of. do this for three months, make them realise in you're own way you've been good.

secondly: stand up yourself man!
bit your lip and fight with everyone need be if you're being bullied. if you lose, you lose. that way you can hold your head up high and accept you tried. giving up is pointless! you'll just sink into a pit.

[CrazyLemurs]

first advice: become a *******.
if he's being like this then tell your mum to go **** herself, tell him to go back to the dirty hole he crawled out of. do this for three months, make them realise in you're own way you've been good.

secondly: stand up yourself man!
bit your lip and fight with everyone need be if you're being bullied. if you lose, you lose. that way you can hold your head up high and accept you tried. giving up is pointless! you'll just sink into a pit.

Not the advice I was looking for, but thanks for reading and helping. The question isn't IF I lose, but WHEN. I'm not abusing my mum because she is perfect in every way and is just a bit lost with him as a partner...

[Stephen]

the user named flyingjesus brought me here and i wet myself

and now im gonna get a 2 day caution for pointless posting

i blame tom oh yes i do

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okay i get it fgs dont need to make it that big!

[@K]

How old are you? I'm asking because you ask your mum to make your bed as your step brother and step sister messed it up and you don't want to sort it out as you didn't mess it up? Guess what, your mum didn't do it either, so do it your ******* self! You want advice? For a start, your coming across as extremely lazy to me, I have my niece and nephew mess up my room when they're round mine, I don't make my brother clean up their mess, I do it myself! So start doing things for yourself! You have come across as selfish to me, coming across as 'me, me, me', this may not be the case of course, but take a look at yourself and maybe you might be doing something wrong. Also, set boundaries, if your room is YOUR room, as in no one else sleeps in there, tell everyone it is your personal space and no one should enter. If, on the other hand, you are sharing this room, then get used to it, all I can say is TOUGH.

Wait until you get out into the real world, life is hard, not pleasent and people are nasty. You said you've contemplated commiting suicide because of bullying, stand up for yourself, I was bullied for about six months, I bit back, it stopped. If you don't stand up against people, you will be bullied for life, in school, in work, all the same.

I know I will get modded for this, but frankly, I couldn't give a toss, your post has pissed me off, just for the simple fact that you get your MUM to make YOUR bed, because an 11 year old messed it up! Wait until you've moved out, your going to cry. Now I have a feeling you are going to turn around and say your 14, this post is nasty, oh well, you need to know what you have at the moment, isn't hard, life gets worse kid!

[Inseriousity.]

Your post makes no sense tbh.

He has a point, if you leave mess in the kitchen, should he ignore it cos it's not his mess? No he wouldn't cos he seems to be proud of having a tidy house and by the sounds of it you also want a tidy bed because you got your mum to tidy it up.

It's not very fair but as he only gets to see his children some weekends I think you can expect them to have him wrapped round his little finger.

He wants his son to get involved with things, perhaps unfairly expecting you to show him how to be mature and be an older role model for him.

I'm 19 and when I'm ill, my mum fusses over me too. "Would you like an extra pillow", "how about you have some toast, it'll help you out" etc etc.

[Neversoft]

I know this isn't what you want to hear, but to be fair, it's your room and your mum shouldn't have to put the sheets back on your bed just because you weren't the one who removed them. You have to grow up a little. If your step-dad is annoying you, then talk to your mum about it. If she isn't any help, then talk to your dad. Or just rise above it. I never used to get on with my step-dad, we were mortal enemies, but now having him around has become the most natural thing ever and we get on fine. Man up. Go watch Rocky or something. Life isn't about how hard you hit, it's about how much you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. If you're being bullied then tell someone, do something about it. Here is another quote for you: "Never give in to despair. Allow yourself to slip down that road and you surrender to your lowest instincts. In the darkest times, hope is something you give yourself. That is the meaning of inner strength." I hate to be so very blunt but it's a cruel world out there and you're still wrapped up in cotton wool by the sound of it. What @K said is absolutely right.

[AgnesIO]

With all due respect, from what I have read, you are in the wrong *REMOVED*.

Your step dad is right. Should he just leave your mess that yo seem to make in the kitchen? And why the **** should your mum have to make your bed - I don't give two flying ***** if it was your two step-siblings - it certainly wasn't your mum!

Also, instead of locking yourself in your room why not go outside? It would mean you get away from your two step-siblings, and get some fresh air. Sorry, but from what you have said, I think you are being really unfair and need to get a grip. There are worse things in your life than having to make a bloody bed - to be quite honest I think it is insulting that you really want him out of your life over such a tiny thing..

However, why not kindly ask them to not go on your bed? Why not talk to your mum and explain your feelings - although to be honest I think you just don't like the step dad - so want him gone.

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And lastly, the thread title is seriously misleading LOL. I thought your step dad was a paedo (rubbing as in rubbing a leg) :L

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[Judas]

omg at the title ouch

in all seriousness i just think you don't like this man very much and are looking for a reason to hate him. i understand, you're not very happy with your life right now so i think you want to be angry but you have no real reason to be at home so the little things get to you and you put it on your step dad. obviously none of us know him and if he really is that bad, but from what you've said, he just sounds maybe a little short tempered, if that.

if you don't want the kids in your room, tell them it's your personal space and you need time alone, or just tell them you're doing homework or something and need to concentrate.

on the other hand, people in this thread need to calm down, you don't even know the guy and most of you are just being plain rude to him over something that actually doesn't concern you. give your opinions but calling him names and stuff is just out of order tbh

[TheEclipse]

I don't see what's wrong with treating an 11 year old nicely when he throws up. :s I'd expect him to be offering drinks and toast etc to a family member who is ANY age who has been throwing up.

You can tell your step siblings, nicely, to please not mess up your bed. Problem solved.