He said he loves me :|

[DamienMarj]

I personally find it hard to see why anyone would have sex after 2 weeks. But that's just my opinion and I'm not here to judge. As for 'I love you,' just no. Pah, it makes me laugh. You cannot love someone after two weeks. You hardly know a person in two weeks. Does this guy know what love is? When you adore almost everything about them and you accept and cherish the differences? Where you have complete and utter trust and understanding? Where they are the most important thing in your life? I could go on but all I have to say is this guy doesn't love you, he has no idea what love is by the sounds. He's obviously saying it because he got in your pants and wants to keep it that way.

Finally somebody with sense, do you understand how many -reputations and abuse on the comments I got by people who do not believe in peoples opinions.

[Charz777]

Finally somebody with sense, do you understand how many -reputations and abuse on the comments I got by people who do not believe in peoples opinions.

I'd have thought it was common sense, and it's not like she's a teenager.

You're 21? How can you not see what game he's playing. If you continue in this relationship it will never be balanced. He has got himself all the power and control now. You let him sleep with you after two weeks and now he thinks he owns you. He's clingy and protective because he wants you for himself and he's misinterpreting that as 'love'. Before long you won't have a life of your own because he will run it completely.

[Conspiracy.]

Are you serious? You've never met him, you have no idea what he's like. If he starts getting manipulative and over-bearing I will leave him, right now he isn't so I don't see the problem.

I'm allowed to have sex with who I want -____- If I want to have sex with 50 guys at once I should be able to. I'm 21, not 12. Sex means different things to different people.

he doesn't "own" me just because we had sex, nobody owns me.

[Glen Coco]

Finally somebody with sense, do you understand how many -reputations and abuse on the comments I got by people who do not believe in peoples opinions.

no, everyone believes that others have opinions but rather than sticking on the subject of the thread all you've done is been aggressive towards the lad.
yes they've slept together, so what? it's not victorian times. i'm sure she's old enough to decide for herself what she wants to do. at the end of the day, sex isn't a big deal anymore; it's sticking something in a hole, woodedoo.

Anyway on topic; maybe he does love you, love means different things to different people and trying to define what 'love' means is impossible as the same definition isn't the same for everyone.
if you don't feel that you love him, don't feel that you need to say it back and if you feel that things are moving too quickly, tell him you'd be more comfortable moving at a slower pace

[Conspiracy.]

Thanks nice to see another person here who's open-minded. My parents even like him so their opinion is more valid to me (because, y'know, they've actually met him) than someone who hasn't met him. Losing your virginity at 21 to your boyfriend where I live is worth a medal -____-

My mum even said she prefers him to my sister's boyfriend.

I thought I loved my ex boyfriend but that was infatuation, maybe it's the same with him to me.

[Inseriousity.]

Are you serious? You've never met him, you have no idea what he's like. If he starts getting manipulative and over-bearing I will leave him, right now he isn't so I don't see the problem.

I'm allowed to have sex with who I want -____- If I want to have sex with 50 guys at once I should be able to. I'm 21, not 12. Sex means different things to different people.

he doesn't "own" me just because we had sex, nobody owns me.

50 guys? if you ever do, here's my card -makes the 'call me' gesture-
No you're right so good luck to you both!

[buttons]

Thanks nice to see another person here who's open-minded. My parents even like him so their opinion is more valid to me (because, y'know, they've actually met him) than someone who hasn't met him. Losing your virginity at 21 to your boyfriend where I live is worth a medal -____-

My mum even said she prefers him to my sister's boyfriend.

I thought I loved my ex boyfriend but that was infatuation, maybe it's the same with him to me.

well go ask their opinion instead of ours :s yeah u know him better than us, we're all making obersvations and guesses over our own experiences and beliefs with this limited information. if he's so great then that's good, common sense advice is tell him you think he's going too quick, you like him but don't want to get too serious yet. Damien has a point, you might think its just sex but you still should make it clear what you think of the relationship and where it's going before ******** at him for falling in love with you, it might mean more to him than it does to you. it's not good to lead him on, tell him you're not at that point yet. Infatuation can be dangerous so don't put off other views like mine and charz off when it can be true...

[Zak]

baring in mind this guy has influenced her into losing her virginity with him. you can tell right away he had it planned all along. you cant just say ''it just happened'' after two weeks, that'd be like going into the big brother house a virgin, getting along with someone for two weeks, and then ''it just happening'' unfortunately it doesn't happen like that. he must have pushed it for it to go that way.

I can kind of relate to using a few people just for a bump. Some men do plan it, though I don't mention stuff Like "I loveee yu" that's just harsh.. but anyway that was in the past.

She is 21 though and he is even older.. by this stage these things don't seem to happen anymore.. though you never know you could be right!

But I do like him :/ He is the best thing that has happened to me in a while. I'm just scared it's going too quick that's all. He hasn't done anything wrong, I'm not going to leave him for caring for me :/

He sounds like a nice guy, there are loads out there. If he makes you happy then go for it Keep us informed on how it's going as well

You should really talk to him and tell him how you feel. Communication is key.

YES agree with this comment so much.

Only read half the thread before I got annoyed at the replies. It's ridiculous to try and label him with 'other guys' because he is his own person. About the virginity thing, I support you exactly when you say it's your choice - who cares how long you've been with someone? If you're ready, you're ready.

Anyway for the love thing, a lot of people do prematurely say it. Don't feel pressured into saying it back, if he confronts you and asks WHY you aren't saying it back, just say "I don't feel ready to say something like that yet", because if he really does (think he) loves you then he won't mind and will wait. Although I do agree 2 weeks is a very short time to fall in love, I do think it's possible, but it's probably more likely he is infatuated, an emotion a lot of people confuse with love (not that it can't develop into love, most times I believe it does).

I agree with laura in thinking 2 weeks is a very short amount of time to fall in love. Her comment is really good though and I totally agree with what she has said.

[Kardan]

50 guys? if you ever do, here's my card -makes the 'call me' gesture-
No you're right so good luck to you both!

Also, this thread is pointless if you can't accept people's opinions that don't agree with yours. We don't have to meet your boyfriend to be able to give advice, many men take advantage of people like yourself. I personally think that having sex two weeks into a relationship is a bad idea.

[Samantha]

Not taking sides but just taking my views here, I believe that say sex in this case can just happen. It happened with me but we weren't virgins or anything, we were safe and both of us didn't want to go too fast; we were well over the 2 week period though but it's obviously upto you when you're ready. Don't feel pressured or anything into saying you love him, in the relationship I'm in now we were both to say it even over a text message as I'd just come out of a long term relationship and he'd said it before and that didn't end well. At the moment we do say it to each other but it's more 'love you' in a 'I might do something wrong or upset/make you mad but saying I love you will make it all ok' like an innocent way. We spoke yesterday (which is key for you two I believe) and I told him that I felt as though I did love him but I can't exactly at the moment due to my ex still badgering me and I love him as both a best friend but still can see my life with him. Anyway, what I'm saying is, me and my boyfriend have an understanding, if anyone is moving too quickly we'll tell them; I did it when he got a little carried away and he was fine with it, our relationship didn't suffer and really it made it much better. Last night we just cuddled, talked, things like that and that's what we love the most; I think you're right in waiting to say you love him, you need time and I don't know him personally but if he does feel like that, properly and not infactuation he'd wait a lifetime for you.