Ever been bullied, how did you deal with it?

[=Sam]

don't assume i need a counsellor cause ive been bullied, this all ended around 4 years ago and im deffo a stronger person now.

im cool with sharing information publicly, im not ashamed to talk about my experiences or admit ive been a victim. at end of the day i know i was bullied, not because i was a rubbish person but because they were rubbish people. my point is a bully should change their ways rather than the bully victim.

you understand my hardship yet you've never been bullied? try being bullied at home, at school and even online. its not easy but the last thing you need to be told is that it's your fault and YOU should change. we should focus instead on putting blame on bullies. idc if bullies have problems, i have ******* problems and i don't bully people.

ANYWAY thanks for the offer of PMing you but i don't think talking to someone whose never been bullied is going to be of any use AND im over it. also i take responsibility for my situations, in the end we spoke to the headmaster who actually told me to ignore them and teachers would make sure i wasn't put into groups with the bullies and also given my own classroom at lunch to hang out in away from them which is not fair that they get to do everything without punishment whereas the victim is segregated. it's not that i have to deal with my situation, it's that bullies need to change the situations they're putting people into.

Fair enough, your decisions are exactly that. I just wish you wouldn't judge me negatively as I was just trying to help out.

I'm not going to control you or anybody else, so I bid you farewell and wish you the best for the future!

[Narnat,]

I got bullied because of my sexuality. There was a group of girls and I always had one of them in my lessons. They would make homophobic comments and most off the other students caught on and would laugh and stuff. Things slowly started getting worse and I would get like cans of coke chucked at me and things like that all because I liked girls. I never done anything about it I never told any lecturers. I started skipping college until I just sstopped fully going and I told my parents that I left because I failed a mock assessment and I couldn't continue with the course.

[e5]

Wouldn't consider myself bullied because if anyone ever tried to say anything, I'd stick up for myself and theyd leave me alone hah. Used to get a bit of stick for having big ears, don't know though as I've grown everything is in proportion more haha. But then I'd always just stick up for myself and they stop. Then if I got it, it was just banter with mates

[FlyingJesus]

I have never been bullied

[dbgtz]

Lol wow at some of these stories, didn't really think it was this bad across the country. I must be in one of few places where actual bullying isn't much of an issue. Of course you'd get ********s (usually chavs) but they were ********s to everyone now and then so not exactly bullying. I can think of a few cases in secondary school where people had been at one point, but that didn't last long. Personally, I haven't.

Also @Mink; even if the bullies do have problems (which I imagine some do, some are just ********s), it does not justify their actions.

[=Sam]

Also @Mink; even if the bullies do have problems (which I imagine some do, some are just ********s), it does not justify their actions.

I agree.

[velvet]

There's a reason for most forms of bullying, and if you deal with those reasons instead of encouraging it.. it will go away. Furthmore, in general - ignoring problems will not make them go away. It will always make it worse.

I have never been bullied and I feel that is because I'm always respectful and honorable towards all people. I never talk about people behind their backs unless I have good things to say and I always show empathy to the people I meet no matter what they've done or what they say to me. Judgement is good in life only if you judge people in a positive way.

How I deal and react to all situations shapes me towards a better life, and in turn - makes me a fantastic human being.

I recommend this strategy.

............ sounds a bit like victim shaming lol

[AgnesIO]

There's a reason for most forms of bullying, and if you deal with those reasons instead of encouraging it.. it will go away. Furthmore, in general - ignoring problems will not make them go away. It will always make it worse.

I have never been bullied and I feel that is because I'm always respectful and honorable towards all people. I never talk about people behind their backs unless I have good things to say and I always show empathy to the people I meet no matter what they've done or what they say to me. Judgement is good in life only if you judge people in a positive way.

How I deal and react to all situations shapes me towards a better life, and in turn - makes me a fantastic human being.

I recommend this strategy.

Blaming the bullied people for being bullied. That is a new one!

Every post I see of yours you come across as even more idiotic in your viewpoints.

[=Sam]

............ sounds a bit like victim shaming lol

However you want to read it

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Blaming the bullied people for being bullied. That is a new one!

Every post I see of yours you come across as even more idiotic in your viewpoints.

Thanks.

[velvet]

However you want to read it

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Thanks.

right, i don't want to get this twisted.
what you're trying to say is that people who are bullied bring it on themselves?