Ever been bullied, how did you deal with it?

[Aiden]

I think most people have had some form of bullying happen to them... I think bullying happens everywhere even on this forum... mainly social bullying (Social bullying is when someone is left out of games, deliberately ignored and has bad things spread about them and made to feel like an outsider) here though.

Anyways, have you been bullied, how did you cope? (or didn't cope)

I don't think it's a thing that people like to talk about because it makes them feel weak but yeah. I would say I was bullied quite a bit (Specially by you lot ) but irl people can be mean.. I was always one of them people that had to fight back and get myself into trouble instead... But yeah, it all works out in the end. Heads up!

[GoldenMerc]

Yeh, sort of. I had a best friend called Jamie, who then when he said jump i didnt jump so then him and his other friends bullied me for like 2-3 months so i didnt come to school

[buttons]

at school: ask to not be put into groups with them, try impress them by bullying people they didnt like to get the attention away from me, just try not to look at them >_>
at home: shout at him, try impress him, go out get drunk instead of dealing with him

wish i dealt with it better but oh well! was hard at school cause the way people deal with you talking down at them or standing up for yourself is too beat you up. wouldn't let anyone bully me ever again. now i just avoid anyone who makes me feel bad or bullies others

[Zak]

I got bullied for looking chinese. My eyes are kind of small and I have a lot of loose skin which hangs over my eyes (esp when I was younger).. it was not bad bullying nor by many people. Two people bullied me about it, I punched both of them in the face which soon resolved the problem.

[Shar]

I have been bullied and I don't think I've ever dealt with it. It made me incredibly shy and under confident. I've become less shy but my confidence hasn't improved.

[Liva]

I was bullied at school when I was like.. 8 or 9. I wanted to be friends with these three girls, and they used to call me four-eyes and pretend to be my friend and asked me to play hide and seek with them which was just them hiding in the toilets and I would run around the whole school looking for them. On my birthday, I invited them around to my house (because they were the only 'friends' I had) and they ate the cake and cookies my parents bought, so I could have a little party with my friends. The next day at school, they told me it was boring and my presents were *REMOVED*. Meanies.
Oh, and everyday I would complain (or dob..) on them to my teacher. All she said every time was 'ignore them.' As if that helps?

I think I've always been a target because I'm quiet and I don't bite back.. Though that's a different story with my father. I strongly believe he's one of the main contributors behind my mental issues.. :/

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[velvet]

i still get started on by girls who bullied me at school and i'm 21... they stand there shouting with their babies in prams. it's much easier to deal with now that everyone can see the scum they are.

in school, i didn't deal with it at all. i ended up dropping out in year 10 because things got so bad after an assault and the things my school did were minimal. i really, really regret the attitude i had when i was younger. i should have turned around and punched the ***** in the face, but at the time i was very anti-violence and refused to hit any one.
i'm not pro-violence now or anything, but if i would have turned around and beat the crap out of her, i wouldn't have ended up virtually unemployable with no qualifications.

dayum.

[FishFace,,]

When i was younger i didn't handle bullying very well, I was always bullied in primary school, for random stupid things and i used to spend my times trying to impress the bullies, either by trying to wear clothes they would approve of, or have cool toys, bags or hair. I'd even wear make up and sometimes went a far as bullying other people they'd bully, to try and get their approval. As i got older though i realised that this only made them bully me more as it was obvious i was trying hard. Once i got to about year 8 and i very strong group of friends, i started to forget about the bullies. I didn't really care what they had to say anymore and whatever they said, i would always stand up for myself. By year 10 alot of them had stopped. Infact a few of the people who used to bully me actually respected me then, Doesn't mean i liked them any better though. I guess bullying happens for alot of people and as long as you learn a way of dealing with it, you can overcome it.

[Jurv]

i was bullied like once when i was in primary school & i made my sister speak to him lol

[Kardan]

Well, here we go.

I've been bullied ever since I can remember, for being ginger basically. Obviously I can't recall much as a young kid, but definitely from Year 5 onwards I remember the endless comments about it really. When you're that young, I guess it doesn't hurt that much probably because the bully doesn't even realise what they're doing.

I probably got just as much name calling for being clever. My Aunt went through a lot of the same things during her childhood because she's gay, and basically, just the concept of ignoring them worked wonders for me.

In my first days of Year 7, I was bullied by Year 9s on the way home from school each day for a week or two, basically they'd throw gravel from someone's front drive at my head... That was fun, that was dealt with by my mum going to the school and the headteacher telling the kids off. That worked fine.

Of course, the name calling continued all the way until present day really. Kids that were the same age as me probably stopped doing it by the time we got to 16, but it was about then that I got a lot of abuse on the streets for being ginger, the amount of people I've had just shout things down the street, and I don't even know these people...

These days I'll get the odd comment on a bus or something, ah well

When I got into sixth form, I also had a Facebook group about me and my girlfriend, with people basically banning us out of the sixth form common room for being 'mongs'. I'd say about 60% of Sixth form had joined the group, they even printed off a petition and posted it on the main door, which even teachers signed... I just ignored that and carried on staying in there, despite all the looks and hush whisperings going on around the room... Eventually the Facebook group got pretty heated, with such comments like 'We should take a concrete slab in tomorrow and just smash it around their heads' and 'I'd kill myself if I were one of them' etc. So it was eventually reported to the head of sixth form by someone, the group got taken down, the single person who created the group got talked to, and it was all forgotten about...

The teachers that signed the petition, or the other 140 students that were in the group got nothing done to them.

Other than that, everything's fine Basically, don't be ginger