Spanking

[Empired]

Kids really give in incredibly fast when you take their possessions away from them. The times as a kid where I was sent to my room with nothing to do, I thought to myself every time: "I'll show them. I'll stay in here for days and they'll be the ones saying sorry", and within about 20 minutes I would have come back downstairs and apologise because I was bored out of my head.

Omg yes. My mum still takes my laptop away sometimes and I'll normally survive for about an hour before giving in.

[dbgtz]

Absolutely.


But in all seriousness, I think it's only effective if used infrequently. I've only been smacked once, but it sticks with me and has actually affected how I behave in front of my parents, in a good way from most angles. I think smacking can have negative side effects when it's over used and should remain as a last resort.

[Kardan]

So @-:Undertaker:-;, how would you discipline your own child when they did something wrong, but smacking/hitting them would be inappropriate?

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Omg yes. My mum still takes my laptop away sometimes and I'll normally survive for about an hour before giving in.

"But mum, I need my laptop for the HxHD meeting!!!!!"

[Empired]

"But mum, I need my laptop for the HxHD meeting!!!!!"

She made me miss the first time I was hosting SNQ once

[Kardan]

She made me miss the first time I was hosting SNQ once

"Mum, please!!! I need my laptop so I can ask strangers on the internet how many colours there are in the German flag! (And it's 2)!!!!!!!"

[MKR&*42]

i have lit never been spanked or heard of anyone being spanked i assumed it was just an american thing wtf. no i dont agree with it.

[scottish]

i've never had any violent tendencies towards anyone in my life, arguing with siblings etc i'd never dream of lashing out at anyone
why would i suddenly have them with my child? really don't think i will

it's just not my character
@scottish; supernanny style

whats wrong with that?

do you really think the only way to get your child to be obedient is to hit them?

Nothing. I'm asking as I've never watched supernanny, so I have no idea what she does to try to control the kids.

Can anyone answer that, how does supernanny 'punish' or control the children?

[Kardan]

Can anyone answer that, how does supernanny 'punish' or control the children?

Essentially time out away from the rest of the family/activity that's going on in the house. So usually either the 'Naughty Chair' or 'Naughty Step'. Kids don't like being left out.

[Jurv]

there's warnings and after so many they get put on the naughty step, if they get off u put them back on

and they have to stay on it for a certain amount of time before they can get off. i presume it's only for young children

[Empired]

Can anyone answer that, how does supernanny 'punish' or control the children?

She starts off by setting some boundaries and rules. If you break the rules, she first gets you to explain what you did wrong and why it was wrong ("I hit my sister and I shouldn't have because I wouldn't want her to hit me" or something similar), you have to apologise to the person you hurt, and you spend time on the naughty step if you're little or get things taken away if you're older. If you're good, your actions get recognised and you get privileges.

She often has star charts and you get stars whenever you do something good. The more stars you get, the better reward you get at the end of the week. If you do something bad, you get stars taken away.

The main thing Supernanny is about is setting boundaries and then making sure you stick to them every time. But she also adapts to different situations. Like sometimes you might have taken a child's 40 minute TV time away because they did something wrong, but then they're good and they apologise so they get 20 minutes of TV back.