I need help

[HelpMe]

Thanks for the advice guys.

I'm trying to tell my parents but its hard.

[RedStratocas]

Im going to put stuff down that people may not have said or that you havent heard already a million times.

Hmm. Well you shouldnt let it get to you. If someone has said something to you that makes you feel embarrassed or hurt, dont think about it in an hour, or two hours, or tommorrow, or ever again. People only want to think that something they have said or done has affected your life in some major way. It makes people feel important, if its good or bad. Happyness is the best revenge, and thats true. Once I was being picked on by a few kids in the back of the room, one threw a pencil at me. It hit the back of my head, I picked it up without looking at them and said "Finally, a pencil". Now the kid didnt have one and got a detention for being unprepared. The last part might not happen, but I think you see the point.

So what Im saying is, people give up very easily. If you dont let it bother you, dont let it get to you and ignore all those bad things that happen, people will think "Damn, Im not annoying him" and move on to someone else. Stupid chain, but it works.

Another thing is you need to come up with comebacks, and comebacks to comebacks. Just jot some down and remember them. Memorize them, say them out loud to practice. I used to be so shut down when I got name called. I always thought of good comebacks later, so one day I just wrote a lot of good ones down. Anything someone says to me now, I can just throw something much worse in their face. It might seem stupid, but no one messes with anyone who can even remotely insult you back. And try to think of funny comebacks, those get to bullies more because other people around laugh. If you cant think of one that suits the situation, say their insult is old or stupid or doesnt make sense and laugh at it. (Ill post some good ones if you need them)

Dont keep your head down or facing the ground. 1- This makes you seem depressed and easily hurtable and 2- it makes you seem smaller. Trust me, this helps a lot.

If you think you are losing the friends you have, try to see them and talk to them more. Usually people dont pick on people in groups. This also could lead you to more friends. Like a connection, your friend has a friend you meet, then you become friends ect.

Show people you arent afraid. I know you said you dont like going out because of it, but do it. It shows people that you arent afraid, that you dont care what they say, you will live your life.

Ok, some good things to remember:

People dont like people who are depressed, thats the truth. Even if you arent really happy, at least act it. If you had to choose friends between someone happy and someone depressed, you would choose the happy person, and there are a lot more than 2 choices in a school

Eventually, you will be the boss of the bully. Might sound wierd, but the people with the most success in life were picked on as kids. Bill Gates was once even sent to the hospital after getting beat up. Bullies get no where.

[RyAzIzErE]

Not sure if this is the right section to post this in or not. I have just registered this username because I feel uncomfortable about posting this with my regular forum name (which I have 4000+ posts with and is known around the forum).

Ok, I'm in year 11. I have been bullied for most of my life. I have never told my parents anything about how I'm treated at school. The teachers are blind too it aswell.

The bullying is mostly verbal (name calling, constant abuse, etc) bullying. Because of this, I have very few friends. I can't bare it anymore. I can't do anything, as they are alot "harder" than me, and telling teachers in the past has got me nowhere. The same things happen everyday. I get called names (no idea why), I get my stuff stolen in some cases, etc.

I am going to have to make a decision very soon. Either I get help or I end my life. This has scarred me, and I cannot face it anymore. I am ready to end my life if changes are not made. I have no confidence anymore. I find it very hard to go out. No-one knows about this and how I feel. I cry at night, thinking of the abuse I would get the next day. Thinking of ways to prevent it (hurting myself, thinking of ways to end my life). I sometimes think to myself "theres only one year left to cope with" - but I don't think I'm strong enough anymore.

I really need help. I can't just tell people, as I'm not confident anymore.

I plan to end my life soon, unless things improve.

Thanks for reading.

EDIT: I do not have any dissabilities. I'm just 'normal' like the rest of you.

I feel for you

ending your life will solve your problems but won't stop the BUllys!

I advise for you to tell your Parents and Speak to your School Concillor or EWO(Educational Welfare Officer)

ending your life won't solve anything Please please don't

[brunojrthechao]

Im going to put stuff down that people may not have said or that you havent heard already a million times.

Hmm. Well you shouldnt let it get to you. If someone has said something to you that makes you feel embarrassed or hurt, dont think about it in an hour, or two hours, or tommorrow, or ever again. People only want to think that something they have said or done has affected your life in some major way. It makes people feel important, if its good or bad. Happyness is the best revenge, and thats true. Once I was being picked on by a few kids in the back of the room, one threw a pencil at me. It hit the back of my head, I picked it up without looking at them and said "Finally, a pencil". Now the kid didnt have one and got a detention for being unprepared. The last part might not happen, but I think you see the point.

So what Im saying is, people give up very easily. If you dont let it bother you, dont let it get to you and ignore all those bad things that happen, people will think "Damn, Im not annoying him" and move on to someone else. Stupid chain, but it works.

Another thing is you need to come up with comebacks, and comebacks to comebacks. Just jot some down and remember them. Memorize them, say them out loud to practice. I used to be so shut down when I got name called. I always thought of good comebacks later, so one day I just wrote a lot of good ones down. Anything someone says to me now, I can just throw something much worse in their face. It might seem stupid, but no one messes with anyone who can even remotely insult you back. And try to think of funny comebacks, those get to bullies more because other people around laugh. If you cant think of one that suits the situation, say their insult is old or stupid or doesnt make sense and laugh at it. (Ill post some good ones if you need them)

Dont keep your head down or facing the ground. 1- This makes you seem depressed and easily hurtable and 2- it makes you seem smaller. Trust me, this helps a lot.

If you think you are losing the friends you have, try to see them and talk to them more. Usually people dont pick on people in groups. This also could lead you to more friends. Like a connection, your friend has a friend you meet, then you become friends ect.

Show people you arent afraid. I know you said you dont like going out because of it, but do it. It shows people that you arent afraid, that you dont care what they say, you will live your life.

Ok, some good things to remember:

People dont like people who are depressed, thats the truth. Even if you arent really happy, at least act it. If you had to choose friends between someone happy and someone depressed, you would choose the happy person, and there are a lot more than 2 choices in a school

Eventually, you will be the boss of the bully. Might sound wierd, but the people with the most success in life were picked on as kids. Bill Gates was once even sent to the hospital after getting beat up. Bullies get no where.

Ive been in the exact same situation but for different reasons.

I was pretty popular, ok I wasnt mr cool but I wasnt beeing picked on at all and then my mum died.

I think my dad sent me back to school abit early and I was crying all the time being upset etc. Then they saw the weakness, it all started...

And worse of all some of these people were my previous friends, though the 'ring leader' was one brick ****house who mainly did it all, the others mainly just went along because they feared they would be next.

and the worst bitof all I gave in most of the time and it did affect me, all through year 7 I was a depressed little ******, having counslers (Sp?) coming round trying to get me to 'show emotion' every omth or so about my mom being dead didnt help my emotional stability either.

Then in year 8, the whole 'my mom is dead' thing went away so I started to think more about how to stop this.

Now in year 10, belive it or not Im part of their crew now. Having quite a good time aswell, but one thing I revuse to take part in is when they bully someone else. Though I dont stand up for the person, I never take any part in any of it.

All of you say that people bully because their pathetic little morons with no lives, thats far from it. Sheer bordum is the main cause. out crew never bullys people when were doing something fun, its usualy when were bored as hell aznd need something to do.

My advice is to laugh it off, if the bully knows that its not affecting you, even if it is. DONT SHOW IT iot just encourages him to do it more and more and more. Its what I did, though people do pick on me occationaly, its not anything to even think about.

Also about the comebacks, this usualy dosent work and encorages it more becuase 'your getting gobby' just laugh it off, worked for me.

[Dust-Ball.]

Right Ok,
I used To be Bullied, I Tried To End My Life (Standing Infront Of A Bus) But I Was Stopped. I Was Put On A Reffural Sceam. If I Was You i Would Phoen Child Line And TELL Your Parents

[manga21]

Maybye Poeple have said this over and Over Tell your Mum and Dad best Thing to Do, I Know its hard,. But I think its the best way, As The teachers Ect will take notice of your Mum and Dad Whitch is true In most cases, But I Cant and Most of Us In here Stress How Important to tell you Mum and Dad In This Cases I Know, It will be ahrd to tell them, But You Know the best way to do this is most Probs , After you come in from school normaly your mum or dad will say how was school and you can say IT jsut horrible and stuff and tell them because your Been Bullied you know i Hope this kind of helped