Self Harm.

[Uwe]

hmm. This is a problem I have recently over come.
One in One Hundred people self harm (it may not seem like alot, but when you think about it, it is) so the chances are one of the people on HxF right now do. So! Here is my little guide to stop But first of all. What is self harm and why do people do it?

Deliberately hurting yourself may sound extreme, but many people find that it is the only way they can cope with their emotions. (This could be caused because Low self-esteem.
Poor physical self image.
Painful experiences in childhood.
Neglect or abuse.
Experience of a violent or chaotic family background.
Experience of physical or emotional cruelty.)

People who self harm are generally so depressed that they start to fell "not them" so to say, empty so they cut/Burn or w.e to "feel"


Effects of self harming:

You wont be able to take part in activities (Sports ect in case someone sees)
High risk of blood poisening if you cut.
Scars and lasting damage to your body that can be embarrassing and painful.

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Relationships can also be affected as:

• Self-harm is stigmatised and people don't feel they can be open, which puts barriers up between people.
• Self-harmers often find it hard to trust other people.
• Friends and relatives of self-harmers can be frustrated by the self-harmers' behaviour and the fact that their support doesn't appear to help.
• There is a light at the end of the tunnel - people do stop self-harming when they've sorted their problems out and found other ways of coping. It might take a long time and they might need help, but things can get better."

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How can I manage my self-harming?

• Try and understand why and when you self harm.
• Recognise people who support you and help you feel good about yourself.
• Be patient. Change takes time and one setback doesn't mean you haven't improved.
• Talk to somebody who you see as 'safe'.
• Don't suffer on your own - doctors, counsellors, your friends and family can help.

How do I help someone I know who is self-harming?

• Be aware that you cannot necessarily change your friend or relative's life or coping mechanisms.
• Be caring, respectful and willing to listen and allow the self-harmer to retain their dignity.
• It may be hard, but do not patronise, condemn, judge, attempt to explain or control, or panic.
• Becoming part of the self-harmer's support network is a step towards helping them develop other coping mechanisms.
• Be patient - your support will make a big difference even though it may not seem like it"

Also, my school operates a Peer support Mentor group, if your school does, talk to the leader of that.


Stuff in "" are quoted from various sites.

[Charlie]

I didnt read much of that. But i'm bet its good. Nice idea to post. May help some people.

[Darren_x]

Yer that helps alot . . . well dun kidda . . . tht will help sum1 wen it comes to self harming . . which is very serious =[ since i go 2 your skwl i no hu the learinin mentor is . . She is called michele and she is great ! i aint been self harming bt i have been to see her about other reasons . . she helps sooooo much . . . :eusa_clap Big clap for Michele thanx for everything x x x:eusa_clap

[cocaine]

Do you make these yourself?

[Uwe]

Yer that helps alot . . . well dun kidda . . . tht will help sum1 wen it comes to self harming . . which is very serious =[ since i go 2 your skwl i no hu the learinin mentor is . . She is called michele and she is great ! i aint been self harming bt i have been to see her about other reasons . . she helps sooooo much . . . :eusa_clap Big clap for Michele thanx for everything x x x:eusa_clap

Yes, I love Michele

[Darren_x]

Does Hu make What themselves ? ? ?

[Rashelly]

Ok, this is CONSTRUCTIVE critisism.
You forgot a major factor that causes people to self harm - and this may sound harsh, but it's a FACT.
Attention.
Sad, but true, a lot of people do it for attention.

[Darren_x]

People May Do It For Attention But That Is Jus Childish . . . But Most People Actually Have A Reason For Doing It

[Uwe]

Ok, this is CONSTRUCTIVE critisism.
You forgot a major factor that causes people to self harm - and this may sound harsh, but it's a FACT.
Attention.
Sad, but true, a lot of people do it for attention.

Yes. However..
When my parents said I was doing it for 'attention' all it done was made me worse..

so I thought it was best not to add it

[Dash]

Whenver i get stressed i punch the **** out of my wall untill my knuckles bleed.
I suppose that counts as self harm.

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