No confidence

[JT-Fan]

Okay I have a problem, I am really not confident at all. I get embarrased to talk to new people and nervous and worried, and Im in a situation. Theres this youth club I wanna join..but everyone knows everyone there. Its for my gujrati community so everyone knows each other even more! They have like bowling,cinema nights,trips to theme parks etc with people ages like 13-25 and I REALLY wanna join. But there was this religious festival and they were all there and I couldn't speak to them..I got nervous.
I really wanna join but I get all shy and nervous..they're all in their own groups and I feel really embarrased to go and say HI IM RUPS!
How do I go up to them?
How do I talk to them?
Yeah..I really need help please

[sarey]

Hey rupsie. ;[

At first, joining a new community and being there knowing hardly anyone can be really nervewrecking, so i think at first, you should just go up to them and smile, then introduce yourself, REMEMBER TO BREATH!, and then just try to fit in, i mean, your a brilliant girl with loads of qualities who shouldnt be embarrased or nervous about meeting new people and sharing some good interests.

If that seems to much, then just hang around by them, and smile, say hi, and when you feel ready, introduce yourself, ect. ;]

Hope that helped a lil bit.

Sarah.x

[JT-Fan]

Yeah it did but I jsut dunno how..i get all hot and embrassed

[sarey]

Just think to yourself 'I can do this, theres nothing to be worried about'.

Dont be scared to introduce yourself and making friends at this community.

Sometimes, it helps to practice it in the mirror, on what your going to say, maybe you could try that? Might boost your confidence a tiny bit. ;]

[JT-Fan]

Hmm I'll try I just get RLY nervous

[sl4rt-is-banned]

bring a firend

[Seacat]

either take one of your own friends or just approach them, they probably felt the same as you when they first joined

i know it's easy when another person says it, but my opinion is theres no need to be embarrassed spending all your time worrying about what others might think of you is time wasted where you could be enjoying yourself

[the wombats]

either take one of your own friends or just approach them, they probably felt the same as you when they first joined

i know it's easy when another person says it, but my opinion is theres no need to be embarrassed spending all your time worrying about what others might think of you is time wasted where you could be enjoying yourself

We know your not shy with the stuff you tell us on MSN...

Anyway, just go upto them and talk to them, tell them your name and interests ect. Normally they'd come and talk to you though if your new..

[JT-Fan]

aww rly nice posts ppl but u see i cant bring sum1 else coz its 4 my community only..and i have no mates in my community..nun at all hence y im going to this..so i have 2 go alone!!

[entor M]

Ask one of em a question about youth club, what they do, and use that to start a conversation, then ask about joining, if there a close group already, chances are other people in that group will talk to you as part of a conversation you open with any one of em, so you could probably start to get to know em from that "/ Formal introductions always seem a bit wired to me outside formal circumstances.