Mum :[

[KwikSave]

Yeh well i had a bad up-bringing from when i was born to eight after i lived with my mum all that time. I don't see her much anymore maybe once or twice every 6 months if im lucky. She was a loon. Always causing trouble and always getting locked up. She once wrecked my dads house and threw a computer at him. One time she really went over the top. I remember it clearly and i was about 7 at this time. She didn't like this new fence they put in her alleyway so she had an idea to chop it down with an axe. Then the next door neighbours came out and she stabbed them with a *****driver. I wen't through all sorts of problems because of her and nearly got permanently excluded from school when i was an infant. Now im all grown up grade A student for most of my lessons and all to show for it. I live with my dad and we have an awesome relationship. It took ages to get my dad to live with him after all the court cases he had to go through but he got ther eventually. But i feel sorry for my mum, she now has 2 kids and is 42. One of the kids is 1 and the other is 4. She lives in a council house a long way away from me. I really miss her and although i don't see her often and we don't have much of a relationship she is still my mum and i do love her. I think about what i had to go through as a kid sometimes and lately it's really been getting to me. Sometimes i shead a tear. Im not sure if i want to get contact with my mum again but i actually want her to be like a mum to me because she has changed alot. I miss her loads and my dad wouldn't dream of stopping me from seeing her. Any advice i can get from you guys?

Thanks a bunch in advance, Jay

[Nova]

Yeah , Try sitting and talking with your parents and say you want to see them both equally. Ask your mum to move closer if your parents don't get along then they don't have to speak to each other it's unfair on you try talking them ;x if that don't work then i don't no what to say ;\

[:Hazel]

Perhaps talk to your Dad and let him know your feelings. Also explain that you love him no matter what but you are curious to see your Mum and need to clear some things with her. I'm sure he will understand

[.poulet.]

Fight back dude

[Notex]

Sorry to hear that.

[Ace]

Wow. Sometimes when I read all of these posts about family violence & stuff, I get the feeling that you're all watching a bad movie. Bcuz I dont see these things & it's hard to believe. 3 years ago, when my bff told me that her parents might get divorced, I was like, "umm okay." Then I listened as she went on, half the time thinkin, "Is she for real?"

All I can say is that you're very amazing to be able to deal with it & still succeed in life. I think you should think this through first before doing anything. Bcuz you've got a good thing goin but the situation is pretty fragile. Check with your dad on what he really feels before asking your mum to live closer or something.

[cocaine]

Wow, thats tough life you've had =[

[DiscoPat]

Perhaps talk to your Dad and let him know your feelings. Also explain that you love him no matter what but you are curious to see your Mum and need to clear some things with her. I'm sure he will understand

Agreed.

[Mr Me]

When i was younger i think it was when i was 10 my parents split up and we wet to live with my mum in Hull which is far from Leeds ( where my dad lived), I spent a few weeks there and told my mum i didnt like it and went to live with my dad, Then my mum moved closer almost just up the road.

they used to agrue a lot over the phone and we was always stuck in the middle.

But now they are starting to get a long with each other

Just because there not in live with each other doesnt mean they dont love it each other, You never stop loving the mother/father of your children not matter how many times you say no or put it to the back of your mind.