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Hey,

I've been going out with this girl named Katie for just over a month. Everything's been great so far.

However, yesterday she came on MSN after school and she was fine. We talked for about ten minutes but then I said something that made her think. I said "are you trying to ditch me? :-P" for a joke. Her computer froze so she went offline and I rung her. She ignored me on the phone and put the phone down. She came back on MSN and didn't speak to me for about half an hour. I asked her friend, Fi, what was up- she was on the phone to her at the time.

Then after a while Katie spoke to me again. I asked her what the problem was. She said that she wanted to spend more time with her friends. A few weeks before this, I asked her if she sees her friends enough and she said yes.

Later that night, we spoke on MSN again and had a laugh. Then when she went offline she sent me a text that said something along the lines of "Trust me, I love you more than you love me. Forget everything i said earlier, if I want to see you and not my friends then i'll tell you. I love you so much babyy! Xxxxxxxxxxxxx".

The next day, we planned to see each other along with one of her friends- she said she wanted to see me. Turned out her friend couldn't come, she told me that it was because she had homework but she told Katie that it was because she had a friend round.

We talked in the morning before she went to dancing, and we were fine. Then, when she got back, she started speaking about something else. She said she was getting fed up with doing the same stuff when we're together- msn, films.

We talked about it for a while and then she said "it's probably just that time of the month again".

Then we moved on to talk about other stuff. We haven't done anything yet, and it's almost half five. I suggested waiting for something to do until the evening. I asked her if it was that time of the month again, and she said yeah, but it don't usually make her moody and all sorts. "It only has like twice".

We haven't organised to see each other tonight, but the chances are we most likely will. We've planned to see each other tomorrow along with four other people, but it will probably end up just being 3 or 4 of us.

Does it sound to you that it is because of the time of month? Everything so far between us two has been amazing, up until Yesterday.

And any ideas what we could do together rather than talk, watch T.V. or a film and go on MSN?

Please help.
Oli

[Kieeran]

Ic eskating or something

[Halting]

I mean in your spare time. Like, around someone's house. We're not stuck for stuff to do when we go out.

[lilvix2k7]

i dnt fink its becos its that time of the munth
a year or 2 ago i used 2 use tht exscuse 2 boyz it was because sometimes i felt a bit uncomfortable and i would much rather spend time with friends as we had more to talk abowt wivout having awkward moments. It mite of been cos i woz like 12.
Maybe ur spending too much time with her and not really doing anything so that its a bit boring?
I find that if a boy doesnt ring u too often it keeps u finkin abowt them and its just more fun but when theyre ringin and chasing u all the time u kinda feel like u have no space and they wont give u personal time if u know wat i mean but if they dnt ring u 2 often it get u finkin abowt them etc etc etc if that makes sense 2 u

[Ostinato]

To be honest it seems shes just really unsure about what she want's right now - which is completely unfair on you.

You've been given mixed signals. One minute shes all for being with you, the next shes telling you shes not seeing enough of her friends and doesn't want to be with you. Fair enough, she may be just "at the time of the month" and hormonal, but she really needs to decide what she want's and make a decision before she tells you one thing then continuously changes her mind.

Just see how things go for now. If she's still being off and weird with you I say you simply speak for yourself. Tell her your sick of being messed around and that she needs to decide what she really does want, because it simply isn't fair on you to be strung along whilst she can't make her mind up. If she decides to be without you then fair enough. I know it may hurt for a while, but trust me - it'll be less painful than being strung along for months then she splits up with you anyway.

If she decides to stay together with you, then try to make the most of it. Try to keep the relationship exciting and try new things. You can watch films and all, but why not take her out one night, or just play a board game or twister or something fun...

It shouldn't have to be a big planned arrangement every time you meet though, just see how things go.

[Halting]

Thanks for that. The best peice of advice I've received in a long time.

I know the time of the month might be an excuse, but she's never usually like this. She said about a week back that she think's we'll be together for years, and nothing has happened in the last week that could possible change that.

The board game idea is really good, I'll try it later on and let you know how it goes .

[Ostinato]

Thanks for that. The best peice of advice I've received in a long time.

I know the time of the month might be an excuse, but she's never usually like this. She said about a week back that she think's we'll be together for years, and nothing has happened in the last week that could possible change that.

The board game idea is really good, I'll try it later on and let you know how it goes .

Okay dokes. Good luck!

[DiscoPat]

I agree with Ostinato, its unfair on you that she tells you one thing and then kind of changes her mind. You said somthing about doing something different etc, I think that you should try going somewhere really fun and exciting,.. Somewhere where no mans ever been!.. Ok, thats going a bit too far, but anyway, try going to somewhere like thorpe park together with like 6-7 friends? I never personally went their yet but will do this year I think.. Also try going on camp or somthing, again with other people so that you have allot of fun and things to talk about, good luck mate.

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Hey again. Tonight was great. We went round hers and didn't really do anything different. She was happy with just speaking whilst on MSN and watching a bit of TV.

That's a coincedence because we're going to Alton Towers together on the 1st of April . I tried the board game and she thought it was a good idea, then she suggested the dance mat but we wern't allowed since we were upstairs, "BANG BANG".

Thanks . I'll let you know how everything goes.

[F32]

I don't think you can possibly blame this behaviour on 'the time of the month' - I think your partner just generally wanted to do something new and exciting.

Don't worry - all men struggle to do this .

Good luck dude