Really need some help plz!

[foamy]

Ok, I'm 13 years old and I have had my first girlfriend for around a week now BUT, as she is my first I'm really nervous and everything. I'm ok with hugging her if we are alone or with one or two people but my friends have to literally push my hand into hers to make us hold hands because I'm too nervus to ask...ACTUALLY (please DON'T laugh), as she is my first I'm not even sure how to ask her to even hold hands. Also, when we get together there is this sort of awkward silence because I'm too nervous to say anything and as for kissing her, I get really worked up about it because not only am I too nervous to, (oh god).... I'M NOT EVEN SURE HOW. Hopefully you will understand that because she is my first EVER girlfriend, you can see my problems so please reply with any sensible advice!


Phew I'm out of breath now...

[the wombats]

just hold her hand. you don't ask.

[foamy]

What just like grab it? (well not grab but you know)

Also when i am walking with her and some other friends I get the feeling she is avoiding me and its not that she doesn't like me but that she is a bit nervous too.Help?

[Toughened]

Ok, I'm 13 years old and I have had my first girlfriend for around a week now BUT, as she is my first I'm really nervous and everything. I'm ok with hugging her if we are alone or with one or two people but my friends have to literally push my hand into hers to make us hold hands because I'm too nervus to ask...ACTUALLY (please DON'T laugh), as she is my first I'm not even sure how to ask her to even hold hands. Also, when we get together there is this sort of awkward silence because I'm too nervous to say anything and as for kissing her, I get really worked up about it because not only am I too nervous to, (oh god).... I'M NOT EVEN SURE HOW. Hopefully you will understand that because she is my first EVER girlfriend, you can see my problems so please reply with any sensible advice!


Phew I'm out of breath now...

1. Don't be nervous. If you are unsure about it don't got ahead with it. Things should come naturally.
2. You can't be too shy if you're hugging her at least you're hugging her anyway.
3. You don't ask to hold hands it will just come naturally like i said. If it feels right take her hand if it doesn't, leave it.
4. Awkward silences are common. Just talk about anything. Ask her how she is, say she looks nice anything. Once you have broke the ice in the first bit of the conversation it should be ok.
5. There are plenty of websites on the Internet that could tell you about kissing but there isn't a certain way. If it happens, it happens and you just go along with it. There is no certain way to kiss as every person kisses differently

All I can say is don't be too shy. The reason I think you're shy is because you're around people. How about going the cinema or the park or something where it is just you two and no-one else? Don't worry too much about the kissing part. That will come at the right place at the right time, don't just force it to come. And whatever you do don't let your friends pressurise you into things, take it at your own pace. Talk to her too and ask he how she feels. She may feel the same way.
Anyway I hope I helped and good luck!

[the wombats]

What just like grab it? (well not grab but you know)

Also when i am walking with her and some other friends I get the feeling she is avoiding me and its not that she doesn't like me but that she is a bit nervous too.Help?

not grab it. just start holding it properly.

[foamy]

1. Don't be nervous. If you are unsure about it don't got ahead with it. Things should come naturally.
2. You can't be too shy if you're hugging her at least you're hugging her anyway.
3. You don't ask to hold hands it will just come naturally like i said. If it feels right take her hand if it doesn't, leave it.
4. Awkward silences are common. Just talk about anything. Ask her how she is, say she looks nice anything. Once you have broke the ice in the first bit of the conversation it should be ok.
5. There are plenty of websites on the Internet that could tell you about kissing but there isn't a certain way. If it happens, it happens and you just go along with it. There is no certain way to kiss as every person kisses differently

All I can say is don't be too shy. The reason I think you're shy is because you're around people. How about going the cinema or the park or something where it is just you two and no-one else? Don't worry too much about the kissing part. That will come at the right place at the right time, don't just force it to come. And whatever you do don't let your friends pressurise you into things, take it at your own pace. Talk to her too and ask he how she feels. She may feel the same way.
Anyway I hope I helped and good luck!

Thanx I'll take your advice I'm sure it'll help +rep

Ill post again if I still need help but plz keep advice coming anyway!

[Toughened]

Thanx I'll take your advice I'm sure it'll help +rep

Ill post again if I still need help but plz keep advice coming anyway!

Thanks for the Rep and no problem. Good luck with it and tell me how it goes!

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luk lyk toughened said dont ask to hold her hand, and with kissing, the moment will come, good look m8

[spiderpan]

not trying to rube it in i have had alot im same age as u but every gets nervus dw its part of life, but with the holding hands i wouldn't do it in school same with kissing and stuff till u more confened as there are horried ppl in the world. anwayz what i did if she lives closish to u ride up there mabey wit a mate and talk to each other, just grow on one and other, and slowly it will come and kissing and so on she will be as nervus as u are. As long *** your work for her it will all work out also can i steal your sig ans say thanks for it off u plz i love it

[foamy]

Thanx I'll take all of your advice and it does help that she lives up the road from me

Feel free to have my sig if you want