bit concerned on me and my dad's relationship

[Bouncing]

I really don't know what to do anymore, I used to always be around him and talk to him, but I get the feeling he thinks I'm a right *****. I only get annoyed when he treats my sister differently then acts like a right ***** to me. Just for example if I say you going out today dad? he's like fgs i'm trying to rest and i'm like im only making conversation....
Hes not resting hes on bloody facebook on his laptop ;/
Like we seem to argue over everything, its from his opinion on my music which is metal, to me trying to prove him wrong but he doesnt like him not being able to help my sister and me being able to. I wish I could swear on this damn forum it would put my opinion across so much easier . But anyway, we get on more when I'm barely around him then I see him like for 10 mins once a day then we get on but if were around each other for any longer we end up arguing so much. Thing is though, I used to be so arsed if I hadn't seen him for a while or if I don't do something with him but unless its extremely important I really couldn't care anymore.... like i forgot to say bye to him and my mum when they went away for a week and I was more bothered about not seeing my mum and its kind of sad that its come to that.. I just get the feeling he doesn't accept me, like what music i'm in to what kind of things I like doing, etc. I mean I'm no goth or anything I like wearing fashionable crap but I just am in to metal. Like if I ask a favor it will be a big deal and such a pain and like I should feel guilty but if its my sisters it's like its no hassle at all and he will insist to do it. Hmm now some of you will just say, sit down and talk about it to him. but he will just make out its my fault and turn in to an argument. also i'm not gunna speak to one of those child line advisers because i'm not even that bothered. Just you people seem to be quite good at advice soo should I just keep to seeing him as little as possible or what seems like thats the only option?

[Alison:D]

Though it won't feel like it, your age will be a large factor in this dispute. As you are a teenager your dad may be seeing you differently now to when you were younger. He will probably want to treat you in a more cautious way because you're growing and maturing (it's natural for parents to do this) but because he doesn't want to be too feminine (Dads do this too believe it or not!) or metrosexual he is not going about the situation in the right way.
Also, try and put yourself in your father's position before you speak to him because, like the Facebook thing, he could of been having frustrating computer difficulties, the computer had frozen or something else that would make his temper shorter.

Hope this helps!

[BlueLord]

I don't often have a relationship with my dad, we're on talking terms and I can just stand to stay with him for an hour max.

But you shouldn't be the one trying to make conversation, if he's silent, you should be silent, let HIM be the one to start the conversation and then kick it off on a good note.

Don't feel you have to "suck up" to him, because if you ask me, he's just being unsociable.

[Megan.]

I agree with bluelord and if you see him say hi and stuff and like whenever you go out somewhere ask him if he wants anything stuff like that then am sure he'll be nicer to you

[Cyndia]

Alison has a good point - I think it is mainly because you're becoming a teenager and he doesn't quite know how to handle it. Just give it time and keep trying to be nice to him - just don't overly attempt to do so as well as don't overly shut yourself away from him. Maybe see if he'll do something with you once every few weeks, like go see some sports game with you or something else that'll be good for male bonding. Eventually he'll start to get better about it, though it might take quite a while..