Are Your Parents Strict?

[Arron]

Is your:
mum/dad
mum/stepdad
dad/step mum
strict with you?

- Who to hang about with
- Education
- Attitude
- Allocated time you have to be home
- Getting belongings confiscated from you (mobile, laptop)

similiar things along those lines.

Mine aren't, but my girlfriend's parents are really strict and it really angers me because she doesn't deserve it. she's like 17 too and they treat her like a child. her older sister, whose now 22, moved out when she was 15 because she hated her stepdad and how her mum changed since she married him. I think the stepdad is a right anal and I despise him, I know he pays the bills and stuff but that's her stepdad and he bosses her about so much, he's even abused her at times.
Her house is for sale atm because her stepdad may be getting a new, better paid job in Stoke-on-Trent and six weeks ago, they had people viewing their house and her room wasn't as tidy as they expect, so they rang her while she was at work and told her when you get home you're in trouble, big trouble. they confiscated her phone and laptop for 5 weeks. she didn't even know people were going viewing the house either, it just annoys me and i say to her do something about it, she's already walked out once before and her parents threatened they'll disown her if she does it again, i said you can happily live with me :/
in all fairness to, her house is up for sale at £210,000. it would never get that much, it's detached and that but it's small inside, so hopefully they don't move.

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[Blinger$]

They don't care who i hang around with, i'm 19 now. They know i'm an adult, they allow me to play music as loud as i want (i obviously don't if they are home..). If someone complains dad will tell them to come to me because i can deal with my own things.. They don't take my objects either, i mean, i'm more then old enough.. and yeah.

[alexxxxx]

No and hopefully i shall be moving in September for university.

My parents let me do whatever i want. I choose/chose not to be an idiot.

[Shar]

I'm 17 years old and I have no freedom whatsoever. At the moment because of exams my parents don't even let me go into town in weekends just for a couple of hours. Sometimes they switch the internet off because they're mean :@ and I get shouted at quite a lot and BLEURGH

[Jordy]

- Who to hang about with
They don't really care about this, I tend to just throw a few names at them that they know to make them happy rather than "well basically you know none of them", so in reality I always lie about who I'm out with for convenience as I don't have to explain people to them that way

- Education
They want me to do well, particularly my dad and regularly talk to me about this, they've never really looked into me doing homework or revision though and seem quite relaxed about it. They used to be very strict about it (When it didn't matter) but now it does they don't seem all that bothered about what I do when it comes to education.

- Attitude
Hmm they pick up quite well when I'm moody and using a different tone of voice, they'll easy take offence to this as a rule but I'm generally quite a negative person and they never moan at me for that.

- Allocated time you have to be home
Don't usually have one, if I have to be back cause we're going out and I was then late they'd be pretty annoyed but I'd always meet the time then anyways.

- Getting belongings confiscated from you (mobile, laptop)
Never been an issue as they've never confiscated anything from me.

[Jamesy]

- Who to hang about with
Not really. They've never stopped me or forced me not to hang around with people, they've only asked me not to when I was a child.

- Education
Again, they don't really care so long as I am happy doing what I am doing. They respect its my own choice whatever it is.

- Attitude
When I was younger and used to throw sulks they would be quite annoyed with me. Looking back they were completely justified! These days we're all pretty mellowed out so this never comes up.

- Allocated time you have to be home
Not really either. I normally give a very rough time (occasionally just "cya later") and come back when I like. When I was younger they preferred me to be home for tea and would prefer to drop me up/ pick me up if it was late. Oh and their one rule if alcohol is involved is "if you throw up, we rub your face in it and you clean it up".

- Getting belongings confiscated from you (mobile, laptop)
They'd have to dismantle half my room to do that . I've never misbehaved bad enough to have this done to me, they've done it to my sisters though.

Overall my parents, grandparents and such are pretty liberal. Could be just I've never really been that much of a trouble maker (A)

[Special]

- Who to hang about with
- Education
- Attitude
- Allocated time you have to be home
- Getting belongings confiscated from you (mobile, laptop)

she knows most of the people who i hang around with and she doesn't have a problem with them. if they were out of control i think she would mind because she used to get angry at my brother (who is now 22) when he was friends with a trouble causer, i think she would be strict if they were like that. she's kind of fussed when it comes to education, if i was sick or something she wouldn't ask any questions or force me or anything but if it is say a holiday, she hates having me time off for that. attitude is a weird one, i'm never really badly behaved so there is nothing to be strict about. she's never strict about when i have to be home, even when i'm partying & she never confisicates items from me

[Caution]

They're not strict. A few years ago I started to go about with someone who I didn't realise was a complete nutjob and went about smashing windows and my Mum was getting annoyed but I eventually realised what he was. That's not now though. They know I want to do well in school, my Dad always asks me about school, My Mum doesn't really ask cos she knows I'm fine with it. They tried to ground me once, it didn't work, I just left.

[alexxxxx]

- Who to hang about with

Used to not really be bothered tbh. Not that i actually hung around with anyone dodgy.

- Education

Wanted me to do well but didn't push me. In school never really asked what i was doing or checked i was doing homework or whatever. Just expected me to get on with it.

- Attitude

Don't really care.

- Allocated time you have to be home

Used to be a bit tight in year 9/10 but in years 11/12/13 i just came back whenever i wanted to.

- Getting belongings confiscated from you (mobile, laptop)

never.

[buttons]

- Who to hang about with
she asks who i'm going out with and asks for a contact number if i go out of town all night, might seem ott but she has all reason too.

- Education
wish she pushed me into doing more and gave me more encouragement but she always says well done + shes proud of me when i do well

- Attitude
well me n mum are quite different i'm more opinionated & she's a total pushover. it's like i'm mum sometimes, she always tells me to be nicer and more sensitive to people's feelings. if she's the one in a mood she'll have a go at me over anything but if she's in a good mood and i'm not she'll treat me like a baby n laugh at me

- Allocated time you have to be home
whenever, she doesn't mind me stayin out aslong as shes knows where i am and i'm with people she knows

- Getting belongings confiscated from you (mobile, laptop)
hahahhahahahahaha she says she'll take them away n not give me money but she gives in


i wish she was more strict but she doesn't have the power to be over my brothers so probably gave up on me