How do I?

[PaulMacC]

How do I learn to not care about other peoples opinions. If someone says something about me I usually dont take it to well, I'm paranoid by default so that doesn't really happen. I want to develop a strong mindset that ignores negativity about myself.



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[5,5]

All you gotta do is have confidence. If someone says something to you and you have confidence and know that it's not true, than it will not bother you. However, everybody has their sensitive points, so if someone comments something you are already confident about, than of course it's going to sting. Just build confidence and remember that it means nothing in the end.

[danzooo]

To be honest I think what you're after here is easier said than done. Saying your paranoid by default is just the way you are, I reckon what your asking is kinda like asking to have naturally blonde hair, when your hair is naturally brown...

[adum]

Grow a pair and get on with it, not as if you're ever going to meet them.

[BobX]

I had this throughout high school, tried ignoring them, but it didn't work, tried reversing onto them and when they said something bad about me i would say something bad about them too, that really doesn't work.. then i tried agreeing with them in a sarcastic tone like if they say something just say "OMG YEAH I KNOW I AM SOOO FAT JEEZUS THANKS FOR TELLING ME!" but that kinda worked but not really..
The best thing i found was to try and avoid people and make your friendships with your friends stronger so that you have more confidence and then just stand up for yourself, if all that fails then "takes one to know one" and add something with their insult like "you fat ****" at the end.. that should work haha

[buttons]

All you gotta do is have confidence. If someone says something to you and you have confidence and know that it's not true, than it will not bother you. However, everybody has their sensitive points, so if someone comments something you are already confident about, than of course it's going to sting. Just build confidence and remember that it means nothing in the end.

fake it till you have it aswell, some people look confident on the outside but we all have our insecurities. it's not a bad thing at all just everyone deals with it different, you're going to be the only one thinking of whatever is said, is it worth it? i used to laugh it off even if it hurt but now i really don't care like at all.

[W00TZEH]

just gotta be able to laugh at yourself and your imperfections, who gives a toss what other people think

[Nemo]

Just have to get into that mindset, theres no training routine to it, just have to think it and get stronger within your mind that you ain't gonna give a ****.

[Stephen]

To be honest I think what you're after here is easier said than done. Saying your paranoid by default is just the way you are, I reckon what your asking is kinda like asking to have naturally blonde hair, when your hair is naturally brown...

So if someone walks into the doctors and says "I'm paranoid about everything by default, I can't even leave the house" then the doctor will just say "what you're asking is like askng to have natually blonde hair when your hair is natually brown. Please go home and live a loner for the rest of your life"

[Florx]

Believe in yourself. Know your limits and know what you can do and who you are, that's the best you can be!